What kind of people are mentally healthy?

The so-called mentally healthy person is also an internally balanced person. The internal balance here includes many aspects, such as the balance between meeting self-needs and meeting the needs of others, the balance between work and entertainment, and so on. The evaluation of others mentioned here is about the balance between self-evaluation and evaluation of others for the sake of self-esteem. Since it is a balance, we might as well look at what the unbalanced state is: paying too much attention to other people's comments; Never care what others say. For a person who never cares about others' comments, sometimes he is more self-centered and even a little arbitrary. What is this type of person like? You might as well go to the kindergarten to observe. Generally, children don't care too much about other people's comments. They live a self-centered life and are comfortable at the same time. They don't care about their dirty clothes, or their ugly eating. No matter how much parents and teachers emphasize it, they may not always take it to heart. However, it is not a bad thing that this happens to children, because children who are still growing need to pay attention and energy to themselves, so that they will have more courage, courage and creativity to meet the world. But as you grow up, when you enter primary school, junior high school and senior high school, you may find that one of your classmates is still self-centered and never cares about the feelings of other people in the group, which may make you very angry. Therefore, a very important part of a person's growth is the socialization part, that is, the part where he begins to realize the existence of others: there are not only him but also others in this world. Because the authorities are fascinated by the so-called, others often bring us many new ideas and viewpoints, which will give us different inspiration and let us grow. This ability to consider and understand the feelings of others is a mature and developed ability. However, it is not necessarily good for a person's growth to develop this ability too early or over-develop it. Disadvantages of premature maturity and over-maturity Some children have to learn to read words and observe emotions in childhood due to environmental reasons, and they have to learn to understand their parents' difficulties. Their energy of self-development has spread to other places prematurely. In this environment, children are exposed to a lot of education, criticism and evaluation from the outside world, such as "Why are you so ignorant?" "You didn't think about your parents", "It's wrong to do this and it's wrong to do that" and so on. These external information, especially the education from parents, may make children suppress their own needs in order to please and meet their parents' needs, and at the same time, they will also develop from caring about their parents' views to caring about the views of authoritative people and others. People who care too much about other people's opinions always have presuppositions about other people's ideas. Everyone has a subjective evaluation of himself and a subjective attitude and view of people and things. You are free to express your thoughts and be yourself. For those who care too much about others' evaluation, they often lack confidence in themselves and self-affirmation and recognition (which is related to their parents' low recognition of them in their small family environment). So they often have a set of thinking to help others think, and they will think: What do others think of me? What do others think of this matter? Then they will compare other people's ideas with their own: Is his idea the same as mine? Once the other person's ideas are inconsistent with their own or may be negative, it will even damage their self-esteem, and they may feel ashamed and blame themselves. They have some fixed ideas in their hearts, and it seems that they need others' affirmation and recognition to gain a sense of self-worth. Therefore, worrying too much about other people's evaluation will make a person unable to have his own needs, ideas and live a more independent life. Therefore, for adults, it is not conducive to growth and development to care too much about the evaluation of others, so we need to find a balance in this process. When a person's sense of self-worth and self-esteem comes from the evaluation and affirmation of others on the one hand (accepting different ideas and viewpoints gladly), and from self-identification and affirmation on the other hand (acknowledging and recognizing the significance and value of one's own opinions and ideas at the same time), this person's psychology is more healthy.