The safest way to find happiness for yourself is to make others happy.
Lincoln once said, "According to my observation, people can be as happy as they want."
If a person wants to be happy, he will take a positive attitude, so that he will attract happiness.
"I want to be happy ..." There is a popular song, and the first few sentences contain a lot of truth. "I want to be happy, but I won't be happy unless I can make you happy."
The safest way to find happiness for yourself is to make others happy. Happiness is an elusive and transient feeling. Look for it deliberately, and it will run away; But if you bring happiness to others, happiness will come automatically.
Claire. Shi is the wife of a professor of religion at the University of Oklahoma City. She told Napoleon? Hill, an interesting story when she first got married. "We lived in a small town for the first two years of our marriage. Our neighbor is an old couple, whose wife is almost blind and sits in a wheelchair all day; The old man is in good health and takes care of her in addition to managing housework. "
"A few days before Christmas, my husband and I decorated the Christmas tree together, and on a whim, we decided to decorate one for the old couple. So we bought a small tree, decorated it with beautiful ornaments and colored lights, and wrapped some small gifts and sent them on Christmas Eve. "
"The old lady began to cry, tearfully looking at the flashing lights. Her husband kept saying, "We haven't had a Christmas tree for years." The next year, every time we went to see them, they would mention the tree. "
"What we did for them was just a small thing, but we were very happy." Their happiness is the result of their kindness, and it becomes a deep and warm feeling, which will remain in their memory forever.
The most common and lasting happiness is almost a state of satisfaction-a state of neither happiness nor unhappiness.
If for a while, you feel that your heart is mainly positive, on the one hand, you feel happy, on the other hand, you feel unhappy, then you are a happy person.
We spend most of our lives at home with our families. Unfortunately, this safe haven, which should be safe, full of happiness and love, has often turned into a hostile place, making it impossible for families to enjoy happiness and harmony.
In Napoleon? In a class of Hill's PMA, The Road to Success, an active young man in his twenties was asked, "Do you have any questions?" "Yes," he replied, "it's my mother. In fact, I have decided to leave home this weekend. "
After talking with him, Hill found that their mother-child relationship was not harmonious, and the teacher found that his positive and autocratic personality was exactly the same as his mother's.
The teacher said to him, "You and your mother are obviously similar in personality, so you should be able to infer her attitude from your own attitude, and you can understand her feelings in other people's shoes, so your problem should be easy to solve."
"This is your special lesson this week: when your mother asks you to do something, you do it happily; When she expresses her opinion, you should echo it sincerely and happily, or simply say nothing. Then you will feel very happy, and maybe she will learn from you. "
"It's no use!" The student said, "She is really difficult!"
"That's right," the teacher replied. "It's no use unless you work hard with a positive attitude."
A week later, the teacher asked the young man this question again. He replied, "I'm glad to tell you that we haven't said a sad word for a whole week, so I decided not to go."
We often think that everyone likes what they like, everyone wants what they think, and most people infer others' reactions through their own reactions. This view is sometimes correct, just like the young man in front and his mother. But there are also many problems because parents don't understand that their children's personalities are different from their own.
Once, Hill made an appointment with the president of a large organization. He is in public office, and his name is often reported because of his outstanding performance. Hill was depressed when he went to see him that day.
"Nobody likes me! Even my own children hate me! Why is this happening? " He asked.
Actually, this gentleman loves children very much. He buys all the things that money can buy for his children and never makes them dissatisfied. And this desire is the driving force of his unremitting struggle. He always tries to protect his children from a little injustice, and he is reluctant to let them struggle like himself. Because his children are still young, he doesn't expect them to be grateful, so he has never been grateful-he thinks his children will naturally thank him.
If he taught his children to be grateful and let them go out to exercise to gain strength, the situation might change. In that case, he will be happy if he makes his children happy. If he can trust them more and let them understand the hard struggle he made for their happiness during their growth, they will be more considerate of him.
But this gentleman, or anyone in a similar situation, need not be so glum. He can try his best to get close to himself and know himself.
In addition, he should spend more time sharing "himself" with them and let them know that he loves them, not just satisfying them with material things. If he shares himself with them like wealth, he will get rich rewards from their love and understanding.
The happiest people in the world live in "Happy Valley". His wealth lies in his eternal value and what he will never lose ―― something that gives him satisfaction, health, peace of mind and harmony of soul. The following is the wealth that man has and how he got it:
Help others to seek happiness, so as to get happiness for themselves.
I live a moderate life, so I become healthy.
I don't hate or envy people, but I love and respect all people.
I am engaged in loving activities and giving generously, so I am seldom tired. I don't want anyone's kindness, I just want a privilege-let all those who like my happiness share it with me.
I make friends with my conscience, so it guides me to do everything correctly.
My material wealth exceeds my needs, because I am not greedy; I only long for the things that make my life meaningful when I am alive. My wealth comes from those who benefit from sharing my happiness.
Health, happiness and longevity