The sun wants to spread warmth and light, and only those who are afraid of the cold will be grateful; The wind wants to spread fresh and cool, and those who are afraid of the cold will curse. Everything in this world has energy, and the energy of nature is very evenly distributed to the things around it. We can also think that human emotions and attitudes are also energy, because they can also affect the people around you.
If this influence continues, the other party will show different attitudes towards you and eventually affect themselves. There are so many people around us who need to maintain different attitudes, and they will not just revolve around us.
So it is difficult to find the so-called equilibrium state.
We always hope that we won't get hurt, so what attitude will we take to avoid getting hurt?
When can we be really friendly to everyone?
Born in this society, you will learn to be naturally angry, which depends on your own function. You know you can't go against it-natural selection. Our current physiological response is the best result of adapting to this world environment. You will also learn about violence in this society. Everything is dialectical, just as violence has its reasons.
We abandon violence and anger because too many such actions and emotions will bring us harm; We choose to be friendly to others because we look soft, eclectic and have a way out. This applies to both strangers and acquaintances, and it is very easy to maintain such an attitude.
Kindness is like spring breeze, with fresh and pleasant breath, soft and moist, yes, when anger is like the blazing sun, it is boring; Kindness is like a drizzle, jumping with liveliness and kindness. Of course, when violence acts as a terrible dark cloud.
We often use this metaphor to explain the importance of being friendly to others, so I ask you: When you catch a cold, will you face the spring breeze happily? When you don't have an umbrella and let the drizzle fall on you, which makes you feel so sticky and uncomfortable, will you still accept the friendliness of the spring rain with a smile?
Spring breeze and Mao Mao rain spread friendly attitudes to everyone in the world equally, but not everyone received friendly messages. When we think we are spreading a friendly magnetic field, others may not think so.
We are always proud and self-righteous, saying that I am polite, good-natured and friendly.
This is a very selfish and irresponsible statement.
No one will admit that when they feel that your so-called friendliness makes them angry-your attitude is still friendly.
You may say that I am gentle with him-softness is also a sword. Without spirit, you will never know what softness is.
So don't pretend, don't cry, don't complain, why am I good to everyone, but everyone is cold to me? Ha, I can say that they think their indifference to you is just a friendly response to you. Since your attitude towards them has caused the present consequences, why not reflect on it?
Try to feel your attitude, your help, and the spiritual support that others needed at that time, instead of just nodding and shaking hands with everyone with a fake smile mask.
Put yourself in others' shoes and think about what they need. As you, you should treat them with an attitude, for example, an inferiority complex. Others think that your friendliness is contempt for him and a high-hanging attitude. You should eliminate it and try to encourage him with a more intense attitude.
In fact, friendliness is just an attitude and a dialectical way of thinking. It seems that I don't need to elaborate this subtle rule here.
Because I just want to say: There have been so many people who asked me at the beginning of this article and asked me to tell them what to do as a friend. Since some people can't understand friendliness in a broad sense, just as they don't understand that machinery is divided into potential energy and kinetic energy, I still want to say, have you really thought about what friendliness is?
When you make every message you receive friendly, this sentence, I think, will be broken.