The understanding of "human sobriety" is that pragmatic philosophy starts from facts and ends with facts, materialism and idealism, recognizes Darwin, does not deny religion, advocates science but does not criticize theology, respects human nature but recognizes ethics.
1. Give up your fantasy of being killed.
Everyone is very tired when he is alive, regardless of sex. Survival pressure, work crisis, high housing prices and various living costs make everyone anxious and panic. When two people meet in the vast sea of people, even if the journey is smooth and they love each other and know each other, they still bear their own burdens. The other person is a little indifferent to you, a little cold, and feels that he wants to leave you, abandon you, leave you, even if the other person never talks about leaving, thus falling into anxiety. This in itself is an illusion of victimization. In Buddhism, "Bodhisattva is afraid of the fruit because of all beings", and all beings are afraid of "leaving" the fruit. What the wise man is afraid of is why I am so afraid of this fruit.
2. All harmonious interpersonal relationships are based on reasonable communication expectations.
Unreasonable things will have dramatic effects. The overbearing president standard workplace white rabbits and rich second generation must fall in love with ordinary girls, so that the "unreasonable" combination can play and attract attention.
And white, such a combination is too reasonable. If it is reasonable, there will be no drama conflict, no ups and downs of falling rocks, and it is impossible for men and women in front of the TV to replace their own self-hypnosis roles.
But, turn off the TV, throw away your cell phone and go back to the real world. You lie flat, but you want the other person to be motivated. Is this reasonable? You are not satisfied with yourself, but you want the other person to love you more than life. Is this reasonable?
If you step on the principle and the bottom line, you will be bombed. If I lose 1000 yuan, I will hurt you, 800 yuan.
"Timid people are afraid of boldness, and bold people are afraid of death." In the movie, the bad guys die because they talk too much. In reality, good people die because they talk too much. Principles and bottom lines are not reflected in their mouths. In action, I know that if I am right, I will be hard, and if I know that I am wrong, I can be soft.
4. Think less about hugging others and more about hugging yourself.
You can't hold up people who are stronger than you. If you think you've got another person, it's mostly these two. First, the other party is much stronger than you, and it is compatible from top to bottom, but you don't know it. Second, the other person is at the same level as you, but for some reason, it is a blind arrogance for you to be more tolerant of others. If you really have this heart, you might as well spend it on yourself and hold yourself. If you don't stay up late, you won't stay up late. If you can't say it well, break off diplomatic relations, command your body with your will, and accomplish your ideals with your actions.
5. Don't fight, don't love to fight, and don't be trapped by trifles.
"Limited thinking ability is often exhausted in trivial matters"-Parkinson's trivial law. Most people, the time to think about something is inversely proportional to its importance. We cling to small things because we know them, but when we really encounter complex problems, we spend little time and energy.
6. There are only two ways to solve the problem: either upgrade the dimension or change the angle.
Trapped in the trouble of static structure, the problem cannot be solved, and the problem at the same level cannot be solved at the same level. "In human society, why can't some problems be solved forever, because the people who solve problems are the people who create problems, and they are self-directed." When you grow up, your eyes are broadened and you are sensible. In fact, you are training and improving your ability to solve problems. After all, life is the sum of countless complicated problems.