The harm of husband and wife quarreling

Hazard 1. Too many quarrels affect feelings. I always feel that the other party is unreasonable. I feel that the other person has changed, and I no longer coax myself and love myself as before. The more times you quarrel, the more shortcomings you will feel, as if there were no advantages at all. This will produce a sense of disgust, and I will begin to hate the person who used to sleep with me every night. Moreover, when quarreling, because I am not rational enough, my words are often very heavy. Some words will hurt people, and eventually they will choose divorce if they are disappointed. Hazard two. When a person is injured and quarrels, it is often a verbal attack or a cold war at first, but after many times, it often rises to physical conflict. Once people get excited, they can't be rational, and sometimes they don't know the weight. Therefore, in the process of quarreling, women are vulnerable to domestic violence, mainly because of the disparity in physical strength between the two, and women are often the losers in hand-to-hand combat. There are many examples of women being abused by domestic violence in life. Dark circles and dark faces are serious, but they may hurt bones and muscles. Hazard 3. The child is stunted. One of the reasons why many couples quarrel is children, arguing about their children's education or other things. As soon as the temper comes up, the two will quarrel regardless of the child's crying and pleading, and will only quarrel and fight. You should know that children are sensible. Watching parents quarrel and fight all day will affect the healthy development of children's body and mind, and children are likely to be deformed and become a rebellious person when they grow up. As a mother, you can't control it at all, and you may even hit you. Harm of husband and wife quarrel 2 The influence of husband and wife quarrel on children 1. Babies have auditory responses from the first day of birth, and babies feel relieved, alert and painful about hearing. If the baby hears the strong noise from his parents, he will feel pain, his body will become stiff, his nerves will contract, and he will close to protect himself. If you are often stimulated by painful feelings in infancy, it will inevitably affect the development of your baby's auditory perception and visual perception, and there will be sensory integration disorder in the future. Due to the poor coordination of visual-kinesthetic development, it will lead to poor test scores. 2. In early childhood, children often see their parents quarreling and fighting, and they will be nervous and afraid. Children can't understand why their parents attack each other like enemies because of their low cognitive level. They can't tell who is right and who is wrong, and they don't want to identify who is the bad guy. Some children will think that they are bad children, so they have psychological burden, which will cause physiological reactions, such as asthma, upper respiratory tract infection and decreased immune function. If one of the parents is out of control, it will also cause the child to wet the bed for a long time because of fright. If the mother is hit by violence, the child will feel extremely insecure, because the mother who protects the weak life cannot protect herself. How does he live? Instinctive fear makes children retreat in kindergarten, unsociable, afraid of being separated from their mothers, and have low desire to actively participate in activities. Among children, all kinds of mental and behavioral development are relatively backward. Parents often make a scene in childhood, which will bring shame to their children. If the parents quarrel for him, the children will feel very uncomfortable, feel that they are a bad boy, have nightmares, and are not as absorbed as other children in class. If parents keep talking about divorce in front of their children, it's like a sword hanging over their heads. His life seems to be waiting for the sword to fall, and he really lives in fear and worry. Such a child has no mind to study, has no interest in doing anything, and his grades are getting worse and worse, and his self-esteem is low, which has attracted a blow from the teacher and entered a vicious circle, which has a certain impact on his future personality growth. 4. Case sharing Xiaohua, a junior two student, can't get along with others at school. She always comes and goes alone, sometimes she doesn't want to go to school. One afternoon, I cut my wrist with a knife in the classroom and was sent to psychotherapy by the teacher. After learning about Xiaohua's growing experience, I found that Xiaohua's parents have been quarreling since her mother was pregnant. My father is a very impulsive person, and he often gets angry, and the quarrel soon stops. It is common for parents to quarrel. Babies often have nightmares because of parents quarreling, and they wet their beds until they are 12 years old. Xiaohua grew up in anxiety, and her parents' quarrel seriously affected her psychology. Her mind has been tortured by tension, fear and anxiety for a long time, resulting in timidity, cowardice and inferiority. She has always felt that she is inferior to others and others will not like her. She felt inferior in front of her classmates, and over time she formed an introverted and depressed character, alienating her classmates. In adolescence, due to the trouble of interpersonal relationship, it eventually led to collapse. The harm of parents' quarrel to children is hidden, and the emergence of problems sometimes lags behind. If parents don't realize the consequences, it will definitely harm their children. Therefore, parents who want children must first grow into people who can control their emotions. The harm of frequent quarrels between husband and wife to children 1. Husband and wife quarrel with little regard for the children's feelings. The two sides argue recklessly, and there may even be cases of starting work and throwing things. When children see it, their young hearts will be strongly criticized and afraid. If a child grows up in such an environment for a long time, he will be very sensitive to the behavior of others talking loudly, which will lead to his cowardice. If the husband and wife quarrel frequently, the children will not feel the love between their parents. In this way, the child's personality will gradually become introverted, and he often feels depressed in his heart, which will inexplicably produce an inferiority complex. 3. The endless quarrel between husband and wife will make children have a kind of cognition that "family is endless quarrel", thus causing resistance and disgust to family. At the same time, it will also make children become sensitive and suspicious, do not believe that people can treat each other sincerely, become disliked and afraid to get along with others, and thus have social difficulties. 4. If couples often quarrel, they will naturally ignore their concern for their children, which will lead to psychological and physical problems of their children, and many depression is caused by this. 5, because parents often quarrel, often make children sad, there is no way to make themselves happy. In the long run, children will lose interest in life when they grow up, become indifferent, have no love and sense of responsibility, and even become extreme in character and behavior. Knowledge of husband and wife quarreling 1. Try to avoid children when quarreling. If there is any problem, wait for the child to leave before communicating. But don't fight the cold war, because it will bring more psychological harm to children, and children will be at a loss, and even think that their own reasons have caused the discord between parents. In the long run, they will form a withdrawn and inferior character. 2. After quarreling, make up in front of the children, and easily "smile and forgive" to comfort the frightened children's emotions. And encourage children to express their feelings and then explain them to children in a targeted manner. 3. Be brave to admit your mistakes. Parents are role models for children, and language, behavior and even "quarreling" may become the objects of children's imitation. 4, grasp the degree, try not to let the quarrel develop to the point where it can't be cleaned up, which can also alleviate the child's fear. It is the minimum responsibility of parents to let their children live a safe life. Adults should not think that feelings are two people's business, and attacking each other will have a lifelong negative impact on children's psychology. The growth of children is the result of the interaction between biological heredity and environment. Bad environmental life will cause psychological trauma to children, and some wounds will be difficult to heal for life. The five most hurtful words in a quarrel are 1. "Are you still a man?" The subtext of this sentence is: I need your comfort and tolerance. However, what the man heard was that she thought I was not a man, but was sarcastic, which greatly hurt my self-esteem. Women don't know that this is a sentence that hurts men's self-esteem. It is a heavy hammer. After a man is beaten, in order to maintain his self-esteem, he will even fight back desperately to prove that he is a real man. Even if the quarrel is over, the injured man will show a domineering and self-centered tendency in his later life. 2. "Breaking up" is a sentence that women say more. Many women don't really want to break up when they say this. They just blurted it out without thinking. This sentence is not untrue to men at first, but the threat means that everyone can hear it, which makes people feel anxious unconsciously, especially those men who are insecure about their feelings. They cook in it every time they listen. This sentence is similar to chronic toxicity, its harm is from weak to strong, and it will break out completely in a fierce quarrel in the future. Some words, if you say too much, will have a strong psychological suggestion. It is better to say less, otherwise, you will end up shooting yourself in the foot. 3. "We are really not suitable." Those women who are bent on transforming men like to say this sentence best. The effect of this sentence is to kill people with a soft knife, but it makes people uncomfortable and tortured, especially in the second half of love. Men will think that this is the result of careful consideration by women. If they don't take the initiative to change, they are likely to lose the woman in front of them, but changing themselves is not an easy task. There are many women who treat each other's running-in as a change, keep themselves unchanged and let men change. If you love me, you will change for me, otherwise you won't love. This is really torture! The sentence "I really regret marrying you" makes men feel extremely uncomfortable and depressed. Although no woman clearly proposed to break up, they also showed the meaning of muddling along, as if to declare their feelings in name only. The implication is that if it weren't for the children or other helplessness, I would have said goodbye to you. When a woman says this, it shows that she has despaired of their marriage, and it is useless for a man to try again. She stayed in the marriage, not for the man in front of her, but for all kinds of helplessness. This is a boring fist. It hurts in my heart when you hit me. 5, "I don't love you" This is the most straightforward injury, bloody. It means that men are busy for a long time, and all their efforts are in vain, except that they don't directly wear a cuckold. This is the most thorough denial of male obedience, which is bone-chilling pain and greatly hurts vitality. If you still love each other, don't joke about this sentence. When a man hears this sentence, he must be furious, his blood gushes upward, and it is easy to lose his mind.