Peace and joy! It is parents' concern for their children's lives. ...
Rather than demanding too much, it is a state of mind. Parents with good attitude will also be functional parents.
Such parents are destined to give more encouragement and tolerance when their children make mistakes; When children regress, they give more confidence; When children are mediocre, they can accept children better and trust them.
Too many parents can only see the functional value of their children. Just like a refrigerator, you can only see its fresh-keeping effect. A rice cooker can't cook or even be inferior to waste. This is why many parents, unable to see the excellent side of their children, are disgusted with all kinds of things, just like a non-functional household appliance. Many parents casually ask themselves, in fact, they all have a perfect complex for their children.
So look critical, complain, and even hate iron not to produce.
Don't ask too much, let parents really see their children and see their needs. Really achieve high quality to accompany children to grow up and share the joy of children's growth. Enjoy every experience of parenthood. Instead of just seeing children, when they don't meet the requirements and complete the perfect fantasy in their hearts, as parents, they send out despair and helplessness from the bottom of their hearts.
Parents love their children, and children love their parents more! Even if you are not demanding of him, in fact, every child has requirements for himself. Everyone wants to be a valuable person. Only later, for various reasons, some children went further and further at the fork in the road. Nobody helped him in time. As parents, we are not always demanding of our children, but should be key people who can help them at critical moments.
Therefore, I think parents who are not demanding of their children at ordinary times are easygoing parents, wise parents and parents who know how to respect the law of their children's growth.
As a mother of two children, I am. This is my view on this issue. Children have great illusions about them from the moment they are conceived to the moment they are born, hoping that they will become scientists, artists and soldiers when they grow up. Wait, wait, wait but before I was born, all my thoughts disappeared. My only thought is that this child should be born with sound limbs and good health.
As the child grows up one day. My extravagant fantasy has come out again. Look at the other children around us. They all study very well and have other specialties. And my children are not good at school except in good health. I don't have any special skills. Sometimes I can't help complaining to them. Talk about my requirements and hope that they can grow up according to my requirements.
But I found that I have changed a lot in recent years. Why? I often see many news reports that many children are in poor health. Including the elderly, middle-aged, young people and teenagers, there is no rule of law for this disease, and that disease cannot be cured. News, Tik Tok, cars are faster, like bombers, and this kind of information is overwhelming into my heart and mind. Health is really important. With a healthy mind and body, what else do I need to ask him to do? I just hope he can live a healthy and happy life, which is stronger than anything else. Health is the king of the strong. He is healthy in mind and body. I believe that he will become an upright person and make contributions to society in the future. When the people of the country and society need him, I am very satisfied that he can stand up for the first time.
People. As parents, anyone will think that their children can have a bright future, and they will not lose to ordinary people when they were born in that era. This is the wish of ordinary people. I think the child has grown up. Some are born, others are educated. My two sons have completely different personalities. The eldest son is more introverted than the younger son. Generally, he doesn't talk or laugh. Being a parent saves a lot of energy. Just like the youngest son, completely different. Seven days after birth, I needed to see a doctor for an injection. 100 I went to bed the night before and kept crying. Parents are worried about it before the hundred days are over. Even adults should worry about getting married and having two children. Until I was twenty-nine, my parents should not worry about him. In fact, parents are destined for their children: they can't be fathers and sons without owing a lot, and they can't be in-laws without complaining. : truth
I agree with this view. My two sons, aged 34 and 24, were not brought up under "compulsory tutoring". They never attended interest classes, cram schools and grew up happily. They all went to college and did not go abroad for postgraduate study. Now they all work. I pay more attention to the cultivation of children's ability, the ability to learn new things and new knowledge, and how to adapt to society.
"In the beginning, we just wanted to make our children healthy and happy. In the end, our expectations are infinitely inflated, so injuries are inevitable. We also lost the original intention of staring at the children. At some point, just touching the child's soft palm, we will be satisfied. "
When we are new mothers, the requirements for our children are as simple as this: "It is good for children to grow up healthily, without too many requirements". However, with the growth of age, our initial wish has come true, and we will put forward new requirements for our children, such as "good academic performance", "versatility" and "sociability" ... Seeing that other people's children are so excellent, parents seem to have turned into chicken soup and frantically enrolled their children.
"Without too many requirements, it is good for children to grow up healthily" is an ideal expectation. We must adhere to this belief, allow children to make mistakes, allow children to be imperfect, and help children become themselves. Don't be like the parents played by Song Jia and David in Little Give Up. At first, they were very open-minded and thought that it would be good for their children to be healthy and happy. Then, as the children of the same age become more and more outstanding, they find that their grades are really not ideal, and they are crazy about tutoring their children, so that they run away from home and are disheartened, causing their children to fall from heaven to hell, causing psychological harm.
Remember that your child is not your child!
Let children grow up healthily. Should be the most basic and important requirement for parents. At the same time, it also provides favorable guarantee conditions for his development. How far he will go is his own effort and nature.