① Flexible and changeable. The criteria for illness are inflexible and rigid, while flexible criteria allow special treatment under special circumstances.
Internalized in the heart, not absorbed from the outside. Your code should be carefully thought out and sincerely accepted by yourself. It is not mechanically copying other people's value principles.
(3) It is practical. Explain that your value criterion is the conclusion after analysis. Practical guidelines will promote positive results. For example, the principle that "marriage should last forever" is unrealistic. Because it is not based on results, but insists on "long-term". This "long" marriage may be more painful than divorce.
④ Improve the quality of life. Healthy values will not make you timid, and will not make you constantly sacrifice yourself until you are exhausted. It will give you the flexibility to pursue your emotional, intellectual and entertainment needs. It will improve your quality of life, not bind you.
Facing the rapidly developing society, we need to calm down and think about what our values are. Is it healthy?
These things look empty, but this is the most fundamental. If you don't have a good sense of values, you will often run into a wall when dealing with people. Some people are old enough to face some things, and what they do is disgusting. Even, it can be said that some people have never understood it for a lifetime.
However, with healthy values, what benefits will there be? You can look at the people around you, and you will find that those who live a wonderful life, whether it is work or career, children's education or family life, will be very good. God likes icing on the cake, not giving charcoal in the snow.
You won't change if you don't study. If you don't change, you will find that there is no difference between you last year and you now. Your habitual thinking will keep you on the same path. The life you envy is just a "TV play" to watch, and the protagonist is not you.
Think about what we do with mobile phones every day. Is it a learning tool or an entertainment tool? Look at the values again, the roots are here.