I unconsciously remembered a sentence that a colleague said when chatting: "In today's society, there are three highs". Of course, the "three highs in society" are not high blood pressure, blood sugar and blood lipids, but high divorce rate, empty nesters and cancer prevalence.
High divorce rate
In today's society, the high number of divorces has become the focus of social attention. "Divorce" sounded like a shameful term in the old society, but it seems to be commonplace and familiar today. Yes, divorce is a normal phenomenon, nothing unusual, just like Hegel's Principles of Legal Philosophy put forward the view that "what exists is reasonable", so we don't affirm it or deny it. However, it is not difficult to see that the post-70s and post-80s have become the mainstay of the times, and even the post-90s have gradually stepped onto the historical stage. Compared with their ancestors and fathers who ate Guanyin soil and chewed bark, in the era of "three more years", their material life has indeed undergone earth-shaking changes, making them look extremely rich. They are tired of eating Chinese food and western food, and their apartments are enough for villas. Big brother and big sister are also fighting in "Sanzi". Yes, "Sanzi" is not Lao Zi, wife or son. They are after houses, cars and tickets. Perhaps we should sigh that life is rich and society is beautiful. However, we have to say that the reality of material desire has injected a persistent pursuit into people's hearts. Some people are not satisfied with the status quo. With comparison and jealousy, lovers and lovers made a promise to the moon, such as sharing weal and woe, vows of eternal love, holding your hand for a moment and growing old together has become an unreachable fairy tale, losing their initial heart and even having an affair, and gradually drifting away.
Only when you are a person can you walk on two legs. While pursuing material life, we should also pursue the sublimation of spirit and soul. Don't lose yourself on the road of running, lose your initial heart and finally regret it. Good-looking skins are the same, interesting souls are one in a million, the world is prosperous, and there are many temptations. Please stick to your former beauty whenever and wherever you are, and always remain original and firm.
Empty nesters are tall.
With the deepening of population urbanization and social aging, there are more and more empty nesters in today's society, which has become a social problem that cannot be ignored.
Social progress has been imperceptibly changing the thinking mode and lifestyle of a new generation. People who used to live by traditional farming and grazing methods gradually withdrew from the historical stage. In their second or even third generation, they will not take over the baton from their ancestors and parents and return to their old jobs. They don't want to live a "hard life" like the older generation. They secretly promised that they would lose their plows and let the loess fade through their own efforts. They have dreams, pack their bags and go far away. Some went out of the mountains to study and naturally settled in the city after graduation. Some give their children to the elderly, and the husband and wife go out to work. Although they didn't settle in the metropolis, they didn't go home several times a year. Day after day, year after year, parents' faces were covered with wrinkles and vicissitudes, their ears became indelible gray, and their footsteps began to falter. Yes, they are no longer young. They are old, but they have become empty nesters. They suffer from lovesickness every day, counting the days with their calendars, and standing at the head of the village with endless hope and waiting. But in most cases, they are waiting for their children's "busy work, come back next time", which turns into endless acacia again and continues to wait for the next holiday.
As the saying goes, "the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise it but not close." As a child, you can ask yourself in your heart, are you really that busy? Our life is doing addition, while the life of the elderly is doing subtraction. Why can we spend a lot of time with leaders, customers and friends, but we can't squeeze out so little time with our elderly parents at home? As the saying goes, parents are here, and there is still a place to live. When parents are gone, there is only the way home. Influenced by thousands of years of traditional Confucian culture, should we seriously reflect on whether we should put the word "filial piety" on the bill, spend some time, often go home to see, spend more time with the elderly and give them spiritual comfort and comfort. What your parents want from you is not money, not a house. Don't think that spending hundreds of thousands a month or buying a house for the elderly is filial piety. Actually, they don't need that much. All they need is companionship and care.
A bowl of rice before death is worth a thousand tears before the grave. Those who think they are busy, please put away your excuses and set foot on the road home. This is a road with stories. You can still do your job for decades, but how many times will you go that way?
The incidence of cancer is high.
In this age of cancer discoloration, cancer has become a mystery to everyone. Why is it so scary? Because wherever it goes, men, women and children must obey it, and finally the soul will be arranged by it. Cancer can corrode various organs of human body and have intimate relations with all kinds of people, from 80 to 90 years old to 1 year old, or even several months. In the end, almost all the people it cared for died in pain. This disease is so terrible for two reasons. First, it is terminally ill and almost incurable. Second, it is easy to occur and has strong concealment.
According to many experts, cancer is related to people's daily life and eating habits. In the face of evil forces that threaten human health all the time, we don't have to be too anxious, let alone panic. We should keep an optimistic attitude, pay attention to a reasonable and balanced diet and insist on regular exercise. Cancer will naturally stay away and consciously stay away.
Birth, aging, illness and death are the most natural laws endowed by nature to human beings. From the birth of a baby, it is decided to die, but the process is different and the end point is the same. We don't have to worry about getting sick and dying every day. Tao is natural. We follow it, be kind, treat every day well, be the best of ourselves, cultivate our hobbies, care nothing about everything, be happy and worry-free, and enjoy every scenery in our life journey with our heart, so that wherever we go, we are worthy of the sky and ourselves.
Appreciating the "three highs in society" makes us feel sad. I put these three unrelated social phenomena together because they have become a prominent and important problem in society, which has great social research significance and deserves our deep thinking. In this fast-paced era, we go out early and come back late every day, push a cup for a change and come and go in the rain. We are all running around, fighting for the life we want, or perhaps we are all intoxicated by our favorite lights, but it seems that we have put down our health, diluted our love and neglected our family. However, when these most important things slip through your fingers, what is the significance of your struggle and enjoyment of life?