10 separate daughters
1. Teach her to protect herself from childhood, but don't scare her.
Let the child have a basic understanding of the good and evil in this world, and tell her calmly that there are good people and bad people in this world.
Beware of people, but don't lose sight of the world.
2. Don't praise the beauty of a girl easily.
If we always pay attention to a little girl's appearance first, it is equivalent to telling them that appearance is more important than anything else. It is this concept that makes them learn to dress up, lose weight, and even face up from an early age. When our culture regards appearance as the new female rule, they will be more and more unhappy.
3. Be sure to have sports hobbies
There are many sports that can exercise both social skills and physical fitness. For example, team sports such as basketball have the ability of cooperation, leadership and communication. Fencing, tennis and other sports that can often participate in competitions let children exercise the mentality of not being too arrogant when they win and not giving up when they lose.
4. Guide her to learn to travel alone since childhood.
After determining Europe as the destination, the father of the child was temporarily busy and couldn't go, leaving only my daughter and me. what can I do? English is not good, French is not good, how can I take my children to play? However, the father of the child casually joked that "if I have a daughter, I am not afraid to travel around the world". Although it was a joke, it gave me new motivation: yes! Why not let the children have a try?
5. Tell her that making money and managing money is not a boy's patent.
After listening to the cases of Microsoft, Starbucks and Wal-Mart, my daughter had a whim and said that she wanted to open a candy store around the school to sell all kinds of delicious candy. But this idea did not get the support of my father immediately. Because my father said that an enterprise should consider not only making money, but also ethics. Eating too much candy will affect children's health.
6. "Rebellion" is not terrible.
It seems really dangerous for my daughter to regard the teacher as an authority. It should be that newborn calves are not afraid of tigers, but they have learned to measure the value of things around them by teachers' standards very early. Therefore, I took her to rebel, only hoping that she would understand that we should learn to weigh our own values and balance our own discretion on the basis of basic right and wrong.
7. Popularity is also a kind of competitiveness.
She chatted happily all the way, but in the end, what she said calmly touched me the most. She said, "I think these awards are very good. Because I think it is fair, the reward is not fixed, and it is not only good grades that can win the prize. This is a great encouragement for most other students. " If a child's score is lower than others, but he has personality traits that others don't have, better cooperation ability or better popularity, the teacher will very much hope that these 99 students can get rich rewards.
8. Daughters will be parents' closest friends. As we live in society, we naturally have a lot of troubles every day. We don't have to always appear in front of our children as strong people, and we can't hold our children left and right when we are happy, and hold them out when we are unhappy. We should not only share our happiness with our children, but also share our troubles and even pains with them. Doing so is also telling children: "People living in this society will not be smooth sailing and will encounter many setbacks." Don't worry about it. Please let me say it as usual. I will always be your trustworthy friend.
9. Everyone should have scientific literacy and curiosity.
I'm glad that my daughter likes playing all kinds of technology and machinery as much as I do. And this kind of scientific and technological literacy cultivated since childhood has a far-reaching impact on her study and world outlook. The little girl in the movie Interstellar is also a troublemaker in akg. Her father even educated his daughter with his own life, and it is possible to change the world with his own hands. The so-called equality between men and women, I think no girl will lose to boys in science and technology, the key lies in what kind of environment parents provide.
10. Elegance from the inside out is the wealth of a lifetime.
A happy family and enough love will bring inner satisfaction and happiness to children, and make healthy children smile and be full of vitality from the heart. But even this would not be enough I have met many talented girls who are not good-looking, and many girls have given up their ideals because they are not confident in their looks. Cultivating children should start with the most basic quality and life ability, both beautiful and ordinary girls can.