How to cultivate a good parent-child relationship? Parents deal with attitudes at 5 o'clock, or affect their children's life.
1, talk to children like adults.
There is a good saying: no matter how old you are, in the eyes of your parents, you will always be a child. However, many children aged 15 (or even earlier) regard themselves as adults. Parents can talk and communicate with their children like adults, instead of discussing problems in a "parent-child" way. Let the child treat you as a friend, don't be afraid of you, and let him open the "chatterbox". Only by understanding children's inner thoughts can we do targeted education.
2. Respect the child and give him free space.
Parents with modern educational ideas must be parents who support children's rights. The sacred mission of the whole family education can be summarized in eight words: finding children and liberating them.
Pupils usually sleep 10 hour, and middle school students sleep for 9 hours. Does your child get enough sleep? A survey in the past showed that more than 50% primary and middle school students in China did not get enough sleep and worked overtime.
Relevant experts have conducted a profound review of this. In recent 10 years, the most cruel behavior in China society is that adults deprive children of the right to play.
Playing can increase children's knowledge. In the process of playing, children can constantly imagine and experiment, which can not only use their brains, but also enhance their imagination and exercise their creativity. Playing can not only increase children's physique, but also enhance their ability and exercise muscles in all parts of the body. Play can also help children to enhance friendship. Everyone has social attributes, and children are not far away. He has a need to communicate with others. In the process of children playing together, children can learn to deal with interpersonal relationships with other children, get along with friends and increase friendship. Therefore, parents should respect their children's right to play, which is a crucial period for children to cultivate social attributes.
3. Pay attention to cultivate children's good habits.
Children all want to be good children. They will encounter all kinds of difficulties and temptations and need the help of adults. There are seven layers of behaviors that are easily overlooked in a person's life that are habitual. Habit can change a person's nervous system. Parents should pay attention to the cultivation of children's good habits, which is very important in family education.
A mother found that her child's recent academic performance was unstable and her homework was average. He found that her child had the habit of standing seven or eight times an hour when doing homework, so she made an agreement with her child, "You are smart, and you can learn well as long as you work hard. Is it too much for you to stand seven or eight times an hour? " If it can be reduced to two or three times an hour, you can watch cartoons at 7 pm. "The child agreed, and it was done in half a week. If you do, let it watch cartoons, if you don't, don't let it watch. Children will remember that as long as they can finish their homework, they can watch cartoons and gradually develop good study habits.
San Zi Jing is a knowledge of China, which emphasizes that the beginning of life is good, the nature is similar and the learning is far away. Children are similar in nature, but whether they have good habits has a great influence on their future development. So one of the core goals of family education is to cultivate children's good behavior habits. It can be understood that family is the "boat" of habit and parents are the "boatmen" of habit.
4. Use your healthy psychology to influence children.
Another important point is family education. It is very important for parents to be good at influencing their children with their healthy psychology. Parents must be mentally healthy if they want their children to be mentally healthy.
5. Give your child unconditional love and understanding.
Children are especially good at studying parents' psychology, just as employees in companies are good at studying leaders' behavioral psychology. The young mind knows who can give him the best protection and who he wants to stay away from. Children know who is sincere to him and who is hypocritical to him.
In a city, a girl in grade three got pregnant because she stole forbidden fruit. He came home and tried to say to his father, Dad, a girl in our class is pregnant. Father said, what is such a small child pregnant? The child then asked, what if this child is me? What would you do? Father said, if it were you, I would break your leg. I would rather cripple you and support you for life than let you go out and throw this man away. Then the junior high school student was silent.
The other version is like this. Senior two girls went home and knelt in front of their mother, crying and saying, mom, I'm sorry, I was wrong. I am pregnant. Mother was startled together and thought for a long time, saying that the child was up. We just need courage and everything will overcome the past. My mother took her daughter to the hospital, registered her name with her mother's name and gave her an induced abortion. So, the mother took a leave of absence for nearly a month and took care of her daughter in every possible way. My daughter was very moved and said to her parents, Mom, don't worry, I will make you proud of me. Parents say that mom has always had confidence in you, and I believe you will succeed. This matter is only between you and me, and will not be known to a third person, nor will it be told to your father. After the girl recovered and returned to school, she was strict with herself and worked very hard to be admitted to a famous university in the capital.
For the same child, parents have completely different attitudes and behaviors towards unintended pregnancy, which may eventually affect the child's life. It is very necessary for parents to understand and support their children. It is suggested to establish a good parent-child relationship with children so that children can always feel the warmth and true love from their parents.