I found a very interesting phenomenon in life. Parents are always too anxious, like to exaggerate some details, and are afraid of a distant or even impossible thing or problem. However, parents are always so anxious. Does it really have no effect on their children? Your anxiety won't hurt your children. The answer is yes. It is said that the best education is parents' words and deeds, and your words and deeds will affect your children. Your daily mood, temper, temperament, habits, anxiety, etc. It will also affect your children. It can be said that parents who are always anxious cannot raise optimistic children. 1. Parents' anxiety may limit many possibilities for their children. For example, help children arrange travel plans during holidays, one child goes to school, the whole family goes out, and neighbors come to watch. The whole family is child-centered, always saying that parents are worthless in this life, and they will rely on you in the future, and so on.
In this process, you will convey some anxiety to your child invisibly. Don't put the anxiety of adults on children. It's easy to limit your true thoughts in your child's mind. Children's world is full of infinite possibilities. He has his ideas, he has his freedom. Don't put the thoughts of adults on children under the banner of "for your own good". 2. Parents' anxiety will make children lack self-confidence and security. Some parents' anxiety will make their children lack self-confidence, such as always comparing other children with themselves, saying how many points others get in the final exam, how many meals others can eat, etc., which will invisibly increase the pressure on their children and lead to a decrease in their trust in their parents, thus making them lack self-confidence and security. 3. Parents' anxiety will bring psychological pressure to children.
Sometimes, children find that their parents are always sad and unhappy. You know, a child is also a sensitive animal. He will see everything you say and do, and people's emotions will also affect each other. He will think that their parents are unhappy, their parents are not doing well, and I don't deserve to be happy and well, which also affects the children invisibly. Parents' anxiety will affect their minds and other aspects. When children are influenced by their parents' anxiety, it is difficult for parents to notice, because not every child can clearly express his feelings. The psychological damage suffered by children accumulates in a seemingly peaceful family atmosphere, which further affects their development from the aspects of emotion, intelligence, self-confidence and security. The more serious consequence is that it affects their daily behavior, leading to mood swings and inability to concentrate in class.
How to relieve parents' anxiety? 1. Don't compare with other children. Don't always compare other people's children with their own children, but with their own growth laws and progress, so there will be no unnecessary anxiety. If you can't give your child wealth economically, give your child enough love. Children who are nourished by love will certainly grow up healthily. 2. Make a long-term plan. According to the children's own situation, make a long-term clear development goal, and don't follow others' advice, so that you won't be confused when you are educating. When children are young, they should follow their own development plans. When children grow up, they should respect their own opinions. Parents and children should work towards their goals through continuous learning and accumulation. 3. Constantly improve yourself and grow up with your children.
Many anxious parents often fail to reserve enough parenting knowledge in time after having children to cope with the ever-changing situation in the process of raising children. Therefore, when there is a problem, we urgently want a solution to the problem, but it is too late. Therefore, parenting is more like a process of self-cultivation. With the continuous growth of children, parents should also keep learning and constantly improve themselves, so that children can have food in their hands and take their time. Growing up with children and being parents is the best education for children. In a society with such great economic pressure, it is false to say that there is no anxiety, especially for parents with children. But I want to say that anxiety can exist, but don't put it on or transfer it to children, let alone use it as an excuse to hurt children and put pressure on them, which will do the greatest harm to children.