Besides going to work, I stayed at home every day, and my social scope was narrowed down to only a few good sisters. I am trapped in a self-enclosed emotional isolation, and loneliness, inferiority, depression and despair often bother me. A small failure also made me feel out of reach, lonely and helpless, and very pessimistic.
My best friend, a mental health consultant in No.1 Middle School, can't bear to see me depressed all the time. She gave me a book "Emotional First Aid" for me to read carefully.
When I finished reading the book Emotional First Aid, my mood suddenly became clear. I try to get out of self-isolation, overcome my fear and hesitation when I associate with strangers, actively communicate with the outside world, contact my classmates and friends, gradually repair my self-esteem and overcome my anxiety and pessimism.
I've always liked writing. Not long ago, I also attended the reading camp of Lan Xin University. In writing, I met many friendly mentors and friends. These interesting souls have brought me happiness and filled me with confidence in the future.
Through the actual treatment of emotional first aid, I finally got rid of the shackles of loneliness and walked out of the shadow of inferiority.
In life, we are faced with pressures everywhere, such as the pressure of entering a higher school, the pressure of work, and the pressure of mortgage ... When the pressure escalates to an unbearable level, all negative emotions flock to us, and the whole inner world collapses instantly, at a loss, or degenerates, or attacks others, or even goes to the extreme of self-harm.
In order to nip in the bud, when negative emotions are in the bud, we should try to contain them and prevent them from fermenting. Just like our daily common cold, if we ignore it because of a small cold and don't treat it in time, it will also lead to pneumonia, myocarditis and even heart and lung failure.
Never think that "emotional first aid" is far away from us, but it is not. Our daily emotional trauma is like a physical illness. Although colds, toothaches and injuries are minor problems, they need to be diagnosed and treated in time. Otherwise, small problems will also lead to big hidden dangers.
Many times, we attach importance to the diagnosis and treatment of physical diseases, but often ignore the repair of psychological trauma, which makes bad emotions affect our lives for a long time.
Therefore, we need to pay more attention to our bad emotions, and don't let them ferment into incurable psychological hidden dangers, endangering physical and mental health and bringing unnecessary troubles to work and life.
The book "Emotional First Aid" can just save your emotions, which can be described as a panacea for curing mental health.
The author of this book is Guy Winch, Ph.D. in Psychology, new york University. He is an expert in psychological decompression. In view of various common emotional first-aid therapies in life, he compiled the medical experience and cases of psychotherapy into this book.
Taking life as an example, Emotional First Aid describes in detail the formation, manifestations and negative effects of negative emotional problems around seven common psychological trauma factors, such as rejection, loneliness, loss, guilt, rumination, failure and inferiority, and launches targeted psychological adjustment and different treatment methods.
According to this book, people with low self-esteem are more vulnerable to various psychological injuries. Because inferiority will reduce our emotional immune function, inferiority as a typical psychological trauma caused by negative emotions, how to alleviate and first aid, especially need to pay attention. We need to be aware of the formation and seriousness of inferiority complex, and take active measures to alleviate and self-repair the trauma.
In life, we all have a certain degree of inferiority: poor family conditions will make us feel inferior, poor academic performance will make us feel inferior, we will feel inferior when we grow up, and we will feel inferior when we are not capable enough.
Many people often doubt whether they have the ability to do a good job, especially young people who have just entered the society and have insufficient work experience. When your skills are inferior to others, if you lack self-evaluation or compare with the outside world, you will fall into depression and inferiority, which will lead to various psychological problems.
Firstly, this paper points out that inferiority makes people vulnerable, greatly reduces their self-evaluation ability, lacks self-confidence and security, and inferiority will lead to more psychological trauma and even depression.
Austrian psychiatrist alfred adler once said: "Each of us has a sense of inferiority to varying degrees, because we all want to make ourselves better and live a better life."
When we can't achieve our ideal goals, inferiority will break through our emotional barriers, break through our psychological defense lines, crush our self-confidence, and then think that we are useless and fall into self-denial, which is more likely to cause other psychological injuries.
Small failures, rejections and disappointments will make people with low self-esteem difficult to adapt, lose the courage to live, breed pessimism and make their mood worse. Even facing greater trauma such as anxiety and depression.
When inferiority complex comes, we need to learn how to save ourselves, improve our self-confidence and accumulate the strength and courage to climb up.
At this time, we should find five "good medicines" to treat inferiority from the book Emotional First Aid.
First, the first thing to do is to comfort yourself and avoid self-criticism. The process of comforting oneself by comforting others is a process of healing, reducing self-criticism and getting rid of the current predicament. Rebuild self-confidence and self-esteem, thus helping you to better relieve the pressure of failure, rejection and anxiety.
Second, we need to affirm our own advantages, carefully examine our own characteristics, unique talents or achievements, improve our recognition of positive information, and gradually restore our confidence.
Third, then increase the recognition of praise and reduce the resistance to positive feedback. In the face of praise from relatives and friends, thinking about the significance of these praised qualities and behaviors is conducive to promoting interpersonal relationships and friendship, and also benefits a lot in other aspects of life. So as to reduce the resistance of positive feedback and accept praise and recognition for yourself.
Fourth, we need to work hard to improve our personal abilities and rebuild our self-esteem and self-confidence. Life didn't become famous overnight. In the face of setbacks, we need to be psychologically prepared for long-term challenges, adjust more effective methods with perseverance and perseverance, pick up self-confidence with perseverance and practice, and transfer this self-confidence to other fields through the self-confidence shown in one field, so as to gain more self-confidence strength and courage.
Finally, we should constantly improve our willpower and self-control ability and enhance our self-confidence. For example, exercise yourself to do things with non-dominant hands as much as possible, dare to challenge when things happen, face difficulties, and save physical strength, so as to better exert willpower. Avoid temptation by self-control and restraining inner desires and impulses.
Emotional therapy of inferiority can help us change from inferiority to self-confidence by using the above five tricks described in the book. Learn to look at your emotional fluctuations as a bystander, pull yourself out of the emotional swamp, improve your self-ability, strengthen self-control and exercise your willpower. Get experience from daily life, accumulate a lot of money, and gradually improve your self-ability, so that you can get rid of the bad feelings of inferiority and become a self-confident and self-reliant.
If you have an inferiority complex, you can try these methods. Emotional first aid will keep you away from inferiority complex and repair your emotional immune function.
Emotional depression can cure all diseases, and many diseases are related to emotions. From the perspective of traditional Chinese medicine, emotions affect the operation of human qi, and poor qi and blood operation will lead to many diseases.
Emotion is a magic mirror. If you don't control it, it will bite you back.
When you face life with what emotions, life will repay you with the same emotions.
People's success and failure, happiness and sadness are closely related to emotions. If you learn emotional first aid, you can have a happy and healthy life.
If you are still suffering from psychological trauma such as loneliness, inferiority, rejection, guilt and loss, then the book Emotional First Aid can just give you the right medicine and cure you.
What is greater than breaking the ideal city is to control your emotions. Only by controlling your emotions can you control your life.
Learn how to create your own psychological medical first aid kit. Let the book Emotional First Aid escort your mental health and happy life.