June is the exam season. For every student and every parent, they are particularly nervous and anxious.
Children study hard for exams, and parents are responsible for applying for schools and caring about their academic performance.
At the last minute, many parents will constantly put pressure on their children, regardless of their pressure.
"My daughter's classmate's mother, the child is very hard, ranking the top 3 in the class, years ago 100. But my mother was dissatisfied and asked her why she never got the first place. "
"Children are under great pressure, and they cry as soon as they know that they have failed in the exam. She is worried that her parents will blame her for not working hard enough. In fact, she is also hard enough to get up before dawn in the morning and ask questions about maritime tactics at night. "
I feel cold in my heart, for the mother of the child. Do you know the child's achievements today? How much did she pay? Do you know that when you want her to win the first prize so strongly, doesn't she want it too? You put pressure on her. Have you ever wondered if she can take it?
Wake up, children's physical and mental health is much more important than their grades.
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Nowadays, with the development of the Internet, we see more and more tragedies brewing because of improper education.
Last year, in a local high-quality school, a senior two boy committed suicide in the teaching building because of the pressure of his parents.
It is mentioned in the suicide note: Mom and Dad, your expectations for me are too high. Although I have worked hard, I still can't meet your requirements. I'm really tired, very tired. ...
In fact, this boy's academic performance has been very stable and is among the best.
We can understand parents' expectations of their children. However, you put all your high expectations on the children. Do you want to think about whether the child is tired or not? Pressure is applied again and again, and the child always breaks out or collapses? And you have no idea. The lesson is really painful.
At this time, it is meaningless for parents to regret again. The child is gone, leaving behind the regret and sadness of your life.
It's not that academic performance is not important, but that we should weigh what is more important.
Body and mind. We all attach great importance to physical health, but mental health is often ignored by parents.
We always think that children should do well in school, but forget that we want a healthy child who can accompany us for a long time.
I once saw a writer write: What kind of person do you want your child to be? You should be that person first.
If you want your child to get the first place in the exam, you should try your best to get the first place yourself. If you want your child to be admitted to a famous university, you should try your best to get the first place.
If not, please pay more attention to the growth and changes of children at every stage, take care of their psychological changes, give more encouragement and understanding, and raise a healthy child.
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Now that we know that physical and mental health is very important, what should parents do?
(1) Encourage more and reprimand less.
We should care about children's study. After all, we have experienced it ourselves, and learning is not an easy task. We need to see the child's efforts, affirm his efforts and then encourage him to move in a better direction.
Remember to scold blindly, especially for adolescent children. We can help him find out the reason, make a plan and give him moral support.
(2) Pay more attention to children's emotions and be their confidants.
When children are young, they always tell you all the happy and unhappy things.
When you grow up, you find that your children are getting farther and farther away from you. I hide when I see you, let alone make friends with him.
At this time, parents should reflect on their mode of getting along with their children. Are you asking too much of him? Do you often blame or even beat and scold him? Have you been educating him according to your own wishes?
After all, you don't know him. You want to educate him into what you want.
But, son, he is an independent individual. He has his own ideas, and you know what he wants and what he pays. He will be close to you.
So, don't laugh at him when he is sad; Don't ignore him when he makes progress. ...
If you know him well, he will regard you as a bosom friend. When he clears his emotions, he can get close to health.
(3) Participate in outdoor activities or travel.
Exercise is the best way to relieve stress. Take your children to outdoor activities on weekends or holidays. Besides exercising, they can also relax.
In addition, in such a relaxed and happy atmosphere, the parent-child relationship can be enhanced and the distance between them can be narrowed.
Children are the heart of every parent. I hope we can all pay attention to our grades and the physical and mental health of our children.