Psychological composition 1 Parents love their children and want them to dress more beautifully than others. Some parents themselves don't want to lag behind others, and their children try to satisfy everything they want. With the improvement of people's quality of life, parents can also provide their children with a comparative material foundation.
Nowadays, whether in primary schools or universities, there are generally different degrees of comparison psychology. Some children compare material aspects, such as: seeing whose clothes are famous brands; See whose pencil case is high-grade; See who brings more money and spends generously. Others are better than family conditions, such as: whose house is big, the decoration grade is high, the parents are big, the money is much, and the car is good; High-end daily necessities at home. Compare looks, honor and who is liked by teachers.
If children's comparison psychology grows up, it will cause unhealthy psychology such as inferiority and vanity, which will not only cause a certain financial burden to the family, but also affect their study. Parents and teachers should adopt appropriate educational methods, correct the bad comparison behavior of children and primary and secondary school students, pay attention to cultivating children's correct values and outlook on life from an early age, help children reduce their psychological burden and promote the formation of their healthy psychology.
Rational analysis of life, people will find that in fact, throughout life, life is fair, just and impartial to everyone. Life is a short and long process from beginning to end. In this process, everyone has and bears the same emotions, love and hate. This is not only the law that nature endows life, but also the law that life endows life. It's just that everyone enjoys and enjoys in different ways, which leads to different lives. So some people are bitter first and then sweet, and some people are sweet first and then bitter; Some people are ups and downs, and some people are calm and calm. Some people's families are not harmonious, but their careers are prosperous, some people love each other, but their careers are frustrated, and some people are prosperous, but their popularity is not strong; Some people are handsome and charming, but they are generous and harmful; Some people are brilliant, but they don't respect others. The ancients said: "Beauty is beauty, talent is work, and you can't live forever." . There are no eternal winners and losers in the world, just like in nature, Mei Sen is white, snow has lost its fragrance, evergreen trees have no flowers, and gorgeous flowers have no fruits.
One can't always look at another mountain. It is normal for a mentally sound person to feel unhappy and uncomfortable occasionally and feel sorry and sad about some past events. But the general attitude should be positive, open-minded, open-minded and forward-looking, so as to get rid of the entanglement of trivial matters. There is no need to compare everything that happens in life with others, which also ruins the poetry of life.
Mental health is like a dish, sweet and sour, spicy and salty, and it depends on its own adjustment.
The olive tree laughed at the fig tree and said, "Your leaves are gone in winter, and the bare branches are really ugly, which is not as beautiful as mine all year round." Soon, a heavy snow came, and the olive trees were covered with green leaves, and snow accumulated on them. Finally, the branches were crushed by excessive weight, and the beauty of the olive tree was destroyed. The fig tree is very simple, because its leaves are gone, and the snow falls to the ground through the branches. Therefore, the fig tree is safe. The beauty of appearance does not necessarily adapt to the environment, sometimes it is a burden, which often brings trouble or disaster to survival. On the contrary, ordinary people can live freely. Therefore, it is better to put aside your vanity and beauty, or your false identity and status, and experience a real and simple life in a down-to-earth manner. I believe you will get more fun.
A matchstick is not worth a dime, and a house is worth millions. However, a matchstick can destroy a house, which shows that the potential destructive power is negligible. Once it breaks out, its power to attack and destroy the top is unstoppable. It takes a month to stack 1 10,000 dominoes, but it only takes a few minutes to knock them down. It takes decades to run a successful industry easily, and it only takes a wrong decision to close down. To cultivate a respected personality, you need to be trusted for a long time, but you only need to do one thing to bankrupt your personality.
Don't underestimate the small word "psychology". A healthy mind can make people constantly transform themselves, thus realizing the way of life.
Summer vacation should be a happy time for us, but it is undoubtedly a "disaster arrival" for my cousin. Because on the first day of summer vacation, he will go out to study in the city and "study" at his relatives' home in Lanzhou. The chief culprit of this result is my cousin's "rebellious psychology".
What is "rebellious psychology"? Actually, I don't know what it means. But according to my observation and understanding, "rebellious psychology" means going against adults and going its own way. No wonder my cousin always quarrels with his uncle and aunt, and it turns things upside down. I remember my cousin told me that everyone will have "rebellious mentality" during the period from 12 to 15. I remember that I actually smiled and said, "So your mind has begun to' rebel'? After only one year, I never thought that the side effects of "rebellious psychology" would be so great.
After my cousin was sent away, my father joked with me and said, "You won't be rebellious, will you?" I said, no way, "rebellious psychology" is so terrible, I don't want it! But now with the passage of time, I feel more and more strongly that I seem to have that kind of "terrible" "rebellious psychology" Sometimes, my mother asks me to visit my grandparents today, and I just want to go tomorrow. My father asked me to buy soy sauce, so I like to buy soy sauce. They told me to go east anyway, but I insisted on going west. Every time I see them angry, I feel a little happy. Sometimes, I feel a little puzzled. Although I have tried to change, I don't know why I can't control myself and let it hurt my parents' hearts again and again. I think: this should be my cousin's irresistible "rebellious psychology"!
Two days ago, my aunt came to my house. When talking to her father, she seemed to say jokingly, "Alas, children nowadays have become unruly when they grow up, and they will have rebellious mentality!"! Dad smiled knowingly.
Psychological Composition 4 "Conformity" is a common social psychological and behavioral phenomenon. Popular explanations are "follow the crowd" and "follow the crowd"; Everyone thinks so, so do I; Everyone does this, and I follow suit.
A physicist named Fortun measured the thermal conductivity of solid helium because of the need of research work. He used a new measuring method, and the measured result was 500 times higher than that calculated by traditional theory. Fortun thinks the gap is too big. If published, it will inevitably be considered as deliberately unconventional and grandstanding, so he kept silent. Not long after, a young American scientist also measured the thermal conductivity of solid helium in the experiment, and the measured results were completely consistent with those measured by Fortun. After the young scientist published his own measurement results, he quickly attracted wide attention from the scientific and technological circles. After hearing this, Fortune wrote with regret: If I had taken off the hat called "habit" and put on the hat of "innovation", that young man would never have taken away my honor. Foton's so-called "habit hat" is a kind of "herd mentality".
When "10 1 Zhangguang Hair Regenerator" came out, someone once heard an old Chinese doctor say that this formula has existed for a long time and has been given to patients, but unexpectedly it became a "commodity". Perhaps this is the difference between entrepreneurs and craftsmen.
Some people hold a negative attitude towards "conformity". In fact, it has a dual nature: the negative side is to inhibit the development of personality, inhibit thinking, stifle creativity, and make people become opinionated and stick to the rules; But there is also a positive side, that is, it helps to learn the wisdom and experience of others, broaden our horizons, overcome stubborn opinions and blind self-confidence, correct our own way of thinking, and reduce unnecessary troubles such as misunderstandings.
Not only that, sometimes we have to "conform" to the existing axioms and facts. For example, "hens can lay eggs, cocks can't lay eggs"-this common sense that everyone admits, who can't follow it? In daily communication, nodding your head means affirmation and shaking your head means negation, which are just the opposite in a certain place in India. When you get there, if you don't "do as the Romans do", it is often difficult to move. Therefore, the social psychology and behavior of "conformity" should be analyzed in detail, and we can't think that "conformity" means that there is no opinion, "a grass on the wall, the wind blows a grass"
Naturally, in life, we should advocate the positive side of "conformity", avoid the negative side of "conformity", and strive to cultivate and improve our ability to think independently and distinguish right from wrong; When encountering and looking at problems, we should not only carefully consider the opinions and practices of most people, but also have our own thinking and analysis, so that our judgment can be correct and our actions can be decided accordingly. It is unacceptable to "conform" or "oppose conformity" in everything.
Psychological composition 5 conformity psychology is a kind of human nature, which refers to the psychological change process that people unconsciously take the opinions of the majority as the criterion, then make judgments, form impressions and want to put them into action. Conformity psychology is what is usually called "conformity", including conformity in thought and conformity in behavior.
As a psychological concept, conformity effect is a common social psychological phenomenon, which refers to the unanimous cognition and behavior formed by individuals in their thoughts or actions under the pressure of real or imagined groups, taking the behavior of most people or authoritative figures as the criterion.
However, conformity does not really obey a person, an organization or a policy, but as far as the result is concerned, conformity is as obedient as obedience. When a person forms a group with others, his behavior will be different from that when he is alone, because his behavior is infected by a group psychology, rather than an absolutely independent ideology guiding his behavior. In fact, it is difficult for a person to act without pressure in a group. As far as conformity effect itself is concerned, there is no difference between good and bad, and its effect depends on conformity psychology and conformity behavior in specific situations. The results are generally manifested in two aspects: positive conformity effect and negative conformity effect.
Why do people have herd mentality? This is because when the behavior of individuals living in society is consistent with the trend of the public, they will be welcomed and recognized by the public, otherwise it will lead to many negative consequences that are not conducive to themselves. A study found that when the person who found the wallet heard that someone in his country had returned it to the original owner, he could not wait to give it to the owner. When he heard that a foreigner had returned the wallet he found to the owner, he didn't have much desire to return it himself. The problem illustrated by this case is: second, people in the same group are more likely to have herd mentality, because they have universal social identity, such as national identity and ethnocentrism, which will have greater effects.
The enlightenment is that when persuading each other, we can actively use the conformity effect produced by the same group. Some conformity effects are the necessary principles of our life, while others will make us unconsciously fall into an unfavorable situation. So, how can we avoid these herd effects that are easy to produce negative States? Keeping a cool head, independent thinking and your own practice are some reliable methods.
Conformity effect will lead to two negative effects: group thinking and responsibility diffusion. When a group of like-minded guys form a group effect, they will learn more positive and beneficial thoughts and behaviors from the group, but when they are combined, they will easily form an extreme behavior, that is, group thinking. This will lead them to think that this group is not wrong, 100% is impeccable, and even if someone disagrees, the group shock will put pressure on them to obey.
Being lazy in group work makes others work harder, which eventually leads to a kind of personality disintegration. The most extreme examples of this phenomenon usually occur in large-scale people who don't know each other. In view of the negative effects brought by herd mentality, Ewood Wedge's law-"If you have your own opinion on something, but other 10 people have the opposite opinion, it's hard not to doubt your own opinion", which is the most worthy of our reference.
Wedge often said, "Don't let gossip shake your will." This seems to come down in one continuous line with the famous saying of the great poet Dante, "Go your own way and let others talk", and it deserves to be avoided.
Ji Cheng's best friend is the youngest in our class. When she first started school, she was still very young and could cry. So we love her very much and take special care of her. Even taking off pants and putting on pants were done with our help. After two months in a row, we think that the child has the ability to put on his pants and take off his pants, but as far as Ji Cheng is concerned, the good boy used to say to the teacher all the time, "Teacher, I have to pee." I always say, "Well, take off your pants yourself. Now that you are grown up, you can take off your pants yourself. " But she turned a deaf ear to what we said, and waited and stood, hoping that the teacher would take it off and put it on for her. But in the end we had no choice but to take it off for her.
After only a few times, she got our help by the same trick. In the end, we simply crustily skin of head and no one helped her, even though she wore it several times herself. As a result, something unexpected happened to us. She just stopped talking and peed on her pants. She is also often criticized by her grandmother. Her grandmother often says to us, "Teacher, please help her take off her pants. She wears too many clothes to take off. " I was really cold at that time.
But I want to change this child, but I can't do it in one step. It is wise to take your time and gradually accept the teacher's request. Finally, we met her requirements, put forward requirements and praised her after her success. With the teacher's praise, she gradually likes to wear and take off her pants, and she also knows that her own affairs are a very happy thing.
Children's laziness is not innate, but acquired. So as teachers and parents, don't rely on children for everything. Please let go of your hands and let the children grow up by themselves! Because your every move always affects their lives.