The highest state of mental health, the first level.
Always be grateful: experience is a kind of wealth. When we attend the funeral, there will always be some feelings; When we recover from a serious illness, there will always be all kinds of treasures. Gratitude must always be maintained. It will not only make you feel sorry for a stone and a grass, but also make you indifferent to some invisible pressures and calm your desires and struggles. More often, some happiness often comes from this.
Diligent in reading: Reading and studying are all chatting with wisdom. Use the experience of others to increase your wisdom. Why not? Turn reading into a habit, some of your ideas come from this, and some of your opinions come from this. And you can cure fools, and you will keep your personality charm for a long time.
Sow kindness: We should do our best to make those who are more bitter and difficult than you feel the sunshine and beauty of this world. Such kindness should be sown often, and inadvertently, the most beautiful flowers of human nature will bloom. Are you sowing kindness for yourself? Cultivate your heart? .
Cultivate hobbies: piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, flowers, birds, insects and fish, there is always one for you, so you must cultivate a hobby for yourself. It will wash your body and mind, open your memory and imagination, and spread your romance. When you devote yourself wholeheartedly, it will bring you unexpected peace and enjoyment. There are also photography, collection, writing and singing. These are monosodium glutamate in daily life, which makes our life taste bit by bit.
Gain and loss go hand in hand: there are two kinds of pain in the dust, one is the pain of not getting, and the other is the pain of love. With your efforts, everything you want is regarded as a gamble. Victory is calm; Defeat doesn't matter. I was lucky to get it, but my life was lost. The most bitter thing in the world is love, even husband and wife. If there is a fate, we will get together, but if there is no fate, we will leave. Fortunately, this era is over? Years of burning passion? Calm down, you are still sure. After all, life is lonely.
Calm down: your age does not allow you to be immature. You know, you have finished what happened around you? Don't like it? Arrive? Accustomed to it? This process, if you are not used to it, shows that your heart is not mature enough. Don't blame the mountain gods, blame the land, blame yourself, and add to your troubles. /
Precipitate friends:? No one asks if you are poor in the city, but if you live in the mountains, do you have any distant relatives? . Whether he is related or not. Friends? Snobbers can be found everywhere. When your life is at a low point and you are in trouble, the two-way warm hand is your friend. Never believe those sweet words when you are rich.
Learn to bear: some things need to be forgotten silently, and after one time, you will gain wisdom; Some pains and troubles need you to bear silently; Experience once; Enrich it once. Don't expect others to pity and sympathize with your pain and troubles. Dreaming of your own circle, you need to untie the bell and tie the bell. This is the best tonic for your heartache.
The highest level of mental health is the second level.
? My consciousness is consistent with my inner experience, and what I say to people is consistent with my consciousness. So these three levels are consistent with each other and integrated. ?
This is the description of the highest state of mental health by the famous psychologist Rogers. He believes that such people have two core characteristics: not deceiving others and not deceiving themselves. Such people love the truth, no matter how painful the truth is, they don't escape, and they don't have to deceive others or distort the truth themselves. The realistic consciousness brought by this courage is the cornerstone of mental health. On the contrary, unhealthy people lack the courage to face the truth, so their ability to understand reality is problematic. They deceive themselves and others, turning their lives into an indistinguishable fog, and their hearts eventually lost their way in this fog.
However, the reason why healthy people have the courage to face the truth and the reason why unhealthy people don't have the courage to face the truth is because they are in love.
Generally speaking, healthy people get enough love in childhood, especially before the age of 2~3, so they believe that truth is love in their hearts. So they like the truth, even if the truth is painful at first, they still believe that this pain is the way of love. On the contrary, unhealthy people get too much pain in their childhood, so for them, the truth means pain, so they hate the truth. Even if the truth means happiness at first, they are still convinced that there is unpredictable pain behind this happiness.
Therefore, love is more important than anything else. But unfortunately, new parents are often eager to shape their children, and even use violence against very young children, hoping to turn them into the genius of the devil. This method can only be counterproductive.
Before the age of 3, their main learning content is not knowledge, but relationship, that is, the relationship between parents and him, which is the cornerstone of his future personality.
If his parents have a good relationship with him, full of love, respect, trust and tolerance, then the seeds of love, respect, tolerance, trust and independence will be planted in his heart, and he will naturally love the truth when he grows up. If this relationship is a bad one full of violence, scolding and dogma, it will plant seeds of hatred, hostility, distrust and rigidity in his heart. Children will always be afraid of the truth and develop various ways to deceive others and themselves in order to stay away from the truth? These methods are called psychological defense mechanism in psychology.
The highest level and the third level of mental health.
Lan Ruo is the abbreviation of Aranjo, which is a Buddhist term. Brahma's name is Aranya, which means forest. Quiet place, free place? . It is a place where Buddhists/monks live and practice. Lan Ruo is the residence of a monk. Great Sun Classic Sparse, Volume III? Alianruo, known as the "land of happiness", is empty and quiet, which is exactly what pedestrians like. Or a unique couple, or two or three people, build a limited number of small houses outside the temple, or make them by donors, or live in open spaces under trees. It is also synonymous with Buddhist temples: Alonro; A Galand; Galand; Buddhist temple; Buddhist temple; Buddha's brake; Buddhist temples; Monk brake; Monk residence; Monastery; Monk temple; Monks; Monk Yu; Monks and buddhist nun; Monk blue; Sangalan; ; Ancient temple; Monastery; Baosha; Temples; Temples; Temple brake; Temples; Temple residence; Zen temple; Zen temple; Zen temple; Baosha; Incense brake; Jade brake; Mental braking; Xiasha; Temple brake; Gold brake; Brahma; Phoenix brakes; Fan Yu; Gong Fan; Fan Ju; Marco Lin; Fan cheng; Lin Tan; Zen language Infinite in the blue should mean not clinging to a fixed practice place, and having a Buddha in your heart, anywhere can be a practice place.
A bhikkhu can be divided into a bhikkhu who was born and a bhikkhu who entered the WTO. Is China's entry into WTO close to what Taoism advocates? People in the world of mortals, the heart in the mountains? Field. People are impetuous and busy because of greed, but their hearts are surging and struggling? Inner peace? Self-expansion, self-attachment, too centralized, unable to let go, heavy shoulders, sustained damage to health, illness with fate, and declining quality of life. Old saying:? Self-propelled and static braking? Can be said to be a mental health policy.