? According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, we can understand that children now know their own physiological needs, so they will look for "safety needs, belonging needs, respecting needs and self-realization". Today's society is different from before. It has developed rapidly, and now the needs of children are different. Failure to meet these needs will lead to a series of psychological problems for children.
There was a child in the sixth grade I used to take, who was excellent in all aspects and wanted to win the first place in everything. But there will always be irritability and joy, and in extreme cases, you will cut your hand with a knife. People who don't know her think she is depressed, and when she is angry, her parents think she is terrible. At that time, I came into contact with painting psychology. From the photos, I found that her heart was healthy, and I understood that she just wanted attention. I will give her more care, always fair and absolutely impartial, and I will also chat with her more and communicate with her as a friend. The child and I became good friends. I will lose my temper, but I will not lose my temper. After graduation, he will come to see me and chat with me every semester. He always told me that if every teacher was as understanding as you, it would be nice if my mother understood me as well as you. I didn't say much, just smiled and said, "The baby may also think that her mother can understand me." I always thought she was a happy but dissatisfied person. Until April this year, he suddenly sent me a message saying that he missed me. I thought the epidemic prevented her from seeing me for a long time. I chatted with her, and the child suddenly told her that she was diagnosed with moderate depression and was taking medicine. I was shocked. Isn't it good? What's going on here? I'll let her draw one at once. The style of painting has completely changed. She is impetuous! I called her mother to find out the situation and met her. Seeing the scar on her hand, I couldn't help crying with her. Maybe my crying touched her, and she allowed me to accompany her for treatment. During the treatment, I realized that she was not as happy as I thought. She was responsible for everything that should have been borne by adults, and she was afraid every day. The root of all this comes from the disharmony of the family when I was a child, which made the children feel insecure; Later, when the family had a second child, parents didn't learn how to deal with the relationship between Dabao and Bauer. In adolescence, parents can't understand their children and can only communicate with them in the way they think is right. Children's needs for "security needs, belonging needs, respecting needs and self-realization" have not been met for a long time.
How do we get along with children?
1. When we give it to our children, we give ourselves what we need. We'll give her whatever she needs, and it's no use giving her anything wrong.
2. Dealing with children's problems, first deal with children's emotions and then deal with problems, and can't solve problems under negative emotions.
3. Hugging children more will give them a sense of security.
May we continue to learn to meet children's psychological needs, and children with rich spirit will certainly become healthy children!