First, take Chinese as an example. Some children can read words directly without looking at pinyin, while others can read pinyin fluently. Look at English again. Some children read paragraph stories directly, while others are still learning words. I believe that when you see this, when you witness with your own eyes that the children around you are on the same starting line with your own children, you can appreciate the pressure and anxiety brought by the gap to your parents.
Perhaps some parents will choose to report their children to class; Some may not be able to restrain their anger, and always lose their temper because their baby is not as good as others; Some may force their children whether they like it or not, but they just can't lose to the hard work of others; Some, perhaps, will let nature take its course and learn slowly at school. We all know. Don't worry, there may be various countermeasures.
I am also one of the parents. It is false to say that you are not in a hurry or anxious. Seeing that the children around me are generally excellent, I always think that mine is not bad, but there is still a certain gap compared with other children, and I am also thinking deeply.
I carefully reviewed my daughter's growth process. I am a happy childhood, and I am very happy every day. I never worry about eating and sleeping. I took part in some interest classes, mainly painting, dancing and riding. I only concentrate on learning English. As a parent, I don't have a clear goal and plan. I just hope that I can grow up psychologically and physically when my children are young. As it turns out, I did it.
However, I'm really a little unprepared for the status quo that primary schools just started punching in. Fortunately, I am not the kind of competitive mother, so I must not lose to others. I carefully combed the advantages and disadvantages of the child, combined with the child's personality characteristics, first gave myself a reassurance. Although the children are not the best in the punching group, they are also of medium level. Find the level gap and practice in a targeted way.
Take English for example. I find out the short stories I haven't seen in online English courses before and start reading them. At first, the child was afraid of difficulties. After reading it twice for so long, it was still not smooth, and he lost patience and interest. It doesn't matter. I read with her. We start with words, then sentences, and then short stories. Not once. We'll read it again in a few days. This was repeated for a month. One day, I was washing dishes. I said to my daughter, find an English book you want to read, show it to me, and punch in today's reading. She went to find a book she liked. After reading fluently, her eyes shone with incredible light. She said to me, Mom, I feel like a foreigner. Haha, I said yes. She said, I want to find another one. I told her afterwards that these things were not difficult. Don't find it difficult to read a long paragraph. In fact, it is also sentence by sentence. Practice and read more, and you will naturally become proficient. When you are proficient, you will find a natural sense of accomplishment. Then, instead of refusing, I liked it very much.
Say Chinese again. Before the children go to school, the kindergarten learns pinyin for half a year. I have the ability to read pinyin initially, but my fluency and autonomy are not satisfactory. At first, the teacher didn't specify the content of punching in. We just read according to our own preferences, and the method is that everyone reads a sentence. Then I watched a passage by myself. Stick to it every day. It is also a month's time, and the fluency is obviously improved. Since the teacher explicitly requested the content of punching in, we will do it according to the teacher's request. In addition, the book we are reading now is also very interesting. Although some children can read slowly, they can read fluently by themselves. Sometimes when reading a book, she will giggle and turn to me and say, Mom, this story is really interesting. Then keep reading.
So far, I don't know whether the children's reading clock is still at the middle level in the class, because I seldom watch other children's reading later, because I know that the implementation of every plan is a process, from initial confusion and anxiety to trying to make a plan, sticking to it, and then achieving initial results. Although the child has made progress in reading now, I am more concerned about whether she can really like reading, find pleasure and a sense of accomplishment from it, stick to it for a long time and form good habits.
I think it's all about figuring out what the goal is, then making a feasible plan, trying to get this plan on the right track, step by step, and then you will definitely see the effect.
Calm down, you will have a stable mood and clear thinking, help yourself and help your children grow up. Try to be a wise mother, let children find happiness and achievements in their studies, and continue a happy childhood! Encourage yourself, come on!