As a first-time mother, I am familiar with parenting encyclopedia, but after raising a baby for one year, I gave up scientific parenting decisively for the simple reason that the book didn't say how to raise this baby I gave birth to.
Sorry, I gave up breastfeeding.
Every new mother who has just become a mother will be taught that breast milk is the best food, and then there will be all kinds of chasing mothers.
For the baby's only ration before he was half a year old, I used to be a mother who got up in the middle of the night to suck milk.
The dim light in the living room and the hum of the breast pump accompanied me for more than two months in the early morning.
I can't bear to look back at the pain of milk. Mastitis and chapped nipples are painful memories that every lactating mother can't erase all her life.
Before I got pregnant, I needed several cups of coffee every day. I didn't touch a drop after pregnancy, lamenting the expectation of breastfeeding. I set a time limit for myself at the beginning of pregnancy and weaned myself for six months. There is no reason, I just want to be more free.
Perhaps it is physical reasons, and the pursuit of milk has never been successful. Small. Mixed feeding from birth. He is highly hereditary, and his growth rate has not been delayed by polyculture. This also made me more determined to stop breastfeeding after adding complementary food for six months and start the road of whole milk powder feeding.
Maybe it's because of early weaning. I don't feel uncomfortable at all. At the same time, I changed the brand of milk powder for Xiao, and it was not affected at all. In this way, six months after the baby was born, I picked up the coffee cup again. Every morning, with the grinding sound of the coffee machine, the baby holds the bottle and does not interfere with each other, feeling full of disobedience.
Don't tell me to sleep alone
The spontaneous sleep transmitted by the internet has made countless mothers unable to extricate themselves and even caused death.
I want to ask the parents of novices and veterans, a newborn baby. The whole world is strange to him. He is looking for a little security from your arms. Why is it so harsh? Children grow up surrounded by love, and the hug you can give is actually very short. When he grows up and doesn't need your arms, he will naturally leave.
Xiao Ya is a high-demand baby from birth. In the first 10 months, cuddling and breastfeeding are almost the only ways to sleep. Coupled with various problems that affect sleep, such as the waking period of newborns, the rapid development of large-scale sports, and the teething period, my father and I are on duty for countless nights, and we have not tried any other methods except cuddling. The wrist crushed by the baby and the sore arm the next day became the physical witness of that period. /kloc-a boy of 0/0 months may have grown up, but suddenly he learned that he didn't need to hug to sleep, and he didn't wake up when he fell asleep. Since then, war-like chaos has quickly entered the whole world in an instant.
Children have their own laws of development. Please open your arms infinitely when he is very young, let the closest temperature in the world help him through the most difficult time and wait for him to grow up calmly.
Come on, have dinner with me.
For the feeding of children, I have followed the teaching of books since the beginning of complementary food, and even a little rigid.
At the beginning of adding complementary food, I gave about 10 days for each food to change to the next one, from less to more, gradually increasing, observing the baby's preferences and how much to eat, and also recording the food types and food intake during meals. Seeing such a step-by-step mother, perhaps most people will say, that's right, and all kinds of parenting science knowledge are also advocated in this way. What's the matter?
There is no problem with this operation, but it is not suitable for my baby.
Changing food types so slowly is actually unfair to babies who want to try more varieties, which will also lead to a longer transition period of complementary food.
During the transition period from 8 months to 10 months, Xiao Ai didn't like complementary food, and made a living in the world with milk of nearly 1000 ml every day. The doctor's advice is to continue feeding and change food types regularly. In two months' time, the tired old mother changed the pattern to make complementary food, and really achieved a tragic ending: the mother was as busy as a dog in the kitchen, and the baby just took a bite.
Small. Maybe he was born too picky about the taste of food. No matter add mushroom powder or shrimp skin powder, just touch it. It was not until I was a child 1 1 month old that I found a meat sauce for my baby, which completely opened the road of complementary food that had been turbid for a long time.
This meat sauce doesn't add any salt, but it will add a little salt as a natural preservative. Adults can't taste any salty taste when they eat it. You can give Xiao a big bowl of noodles, which seems to be contrary to the original intention of not adding salt to many parents, but in the choice of eating or not adding salt, I chose the former.
Next, I met Xiao, who refused to eat the rice cooked for him alone, but insisted on having dinner with me. I still obeyed his choice. From 1 year and 3 months, Xiao Ah officially joined the family table culture and began his delicious life.
Picture book? Cartoons? You chose.
Black and white card, a seemingly incredible big card, is no stranger to many parents. The pursuit training of newborns depends almost entirely on these cards. I also bought a set, but it was only used a few times and was classified as idle. There is a simple reason. Xiao Ai likes to put his arm around others.
After discovering xiaoyi's habit, I gave up watching cards. You like to look at people with your arms and see what's not. Watching still pictures is not as good as watching moving people, and you can also chat at the same time, killing two birds with one stone.
Speaking of picture books, I spent a lot of money on them. But before the age of one, little A, who loves to move, has little time to sit down. From sitting up, crawling all over the floor, to walking, he always moves like a perpetual motion machine except sleeping. Reading picture books? That's a fable. All my knowledge of objects comes from real life, not from cognitive picture books. Such a learning environment has enabled Xiao A to have a vocabulary close to 2000 when he is about one year and seven months old, and he can also speak short sentences in daily communication.
Abandoning the guidance of picture books, I chose life-oriented learning. Language is always a tool for scene communication. If you don't learn to communicate and use it in specific situations, it is impossible to master it quickly.
As for cartoons, I watch cartoons early, about one year old. Lovely Paige watched it hundreds of times, and I never deliberately restricted him from watching cartoons, because I saw that he could learn a lot from cartoons, and I also watched it with him and discussed the content together. Many times, he looked at it with doubt. I threw him a question and asked him to find the answer from the cartoon. This kind of entertainment and recreation makes A Le unique.
Many people will tell me, aren't you worried about your child's eyes? I can only tell you, can he sit in front of electronic products for half an hour? The answer is no, a one-year-old or two-year-old child's attention will not exceed 10 minutes, and then he will run away. More often, my TV or IPAD is just a radio, and the baby plays his car world in the background music. Son, sometimes when you give control to him, you will find that their "self-control ability" is beyond your imagination.