It is healthier for children to scold.

"Always criticize children and reason with them."

How many times has this sentence been said, how many parents stand up and refute: "The truth is right, but it won't work. The most effective way to make children obedient is to swear! "

Parents, you are really mistaken. In the long run, yelling education is really harmful!

Neuroscientists have found that the human brain can respond to external stimuli, just like our muscles.

Our brains have the ability to protect themselves. If we are often criticized by our parents, our brains will automatically feel that this is a threat and they will start to defend themselves. Its main manifestations include: opposition, lying and indifference.

If the brain receives a lot of negative news, it will lead to children's negative behavior. Living in this environment for a long time will gradually become stupid.

How does the brain become "stupid" after being criticized for a long time?

Study 1: Emotion will affect children's learning ability.

American children's brain development experts have come to the conclusion that the normal development of emotions is a very important factor affecting children's intellectual development through a large number of experiments on the brain and information reception.

Because brain regions (prefrontal cortex, amygdala, hippocampus, etc. ) is not only an area for regulating "fear and anxiety" (frontal lobe area), but also an area for learning new things (frontal lobe area), that is to say, the area responsible for fear is exactly the same as the area responsible for learning.

Once the frontal lobe is occupied by fear, it can only process fear information, which seriously affects children's learning.

Study 2: Hypersecretion of cortisol leads to memory loss.

Canadian neuroscience research team found that even the simplest English word "NO" can stimulate the production of stress cortisol in the brain of subjects.

During the experiment, they put the subjects in an MRI scanner and then flashed some words in front of them. It turns out that even the simplest English word "NO" can stimulate the brain to produce cortisol.

The human body has a mechanism to metabolize sebum alcohol, which can generally relieve itself without lasting influence, but if the child receives chronic stress for a long time, the brain will continue to produce cortisol.

Excessive cortisol can inhibit the production of neurons related to memory processing in hippocampus and stimulate the increase of neurons in amygdala, the nerve center responsible for fear.

In the long run, it will lead to a person's memory decline, easy to be nervous, impulsive and anxious, and even eventually lead to brain atrophy, which will affect normal development.

Study 3: scolding corporal punishment makes the brain shrink

A professor of pediatric neurology in Japan once completed an experiment with researchers from Harvard University in the United States: 1500 young people between the ages of 18 and 25 who often suffered from verbal violence and corporal punishment in their childhood were invited to observe their brains through MAR.

The results showed that the medial volume of the right frontal cortex of the subjects decreased by an average of 65438 09.9% due to their childhood experiences. The study also found that the prefrontal cortex is damaged, which is easy to produce symptoms similar to depression, and the language understanding ability will also be reduced.

Having shared so many scientific research achievements, I believe that some parents will say:

Parents who have these doubts can look at these two points:

First, it doesn't mean that children's brains change immediately when they yell and scold, nor does it mean that their brains change in a day or two.

Second, will the child who was only willing to move after being yelled at by his parents change next time? Did this scolding and scolding completely solve the problem?

If you think about these two points clearly, I believe parents will be more clear about which choice is better for the long-term healthy development of their children.

Then, if we want to avoid yelling and scolding, and hope that our children will study hard and do things seriously, what scientific methods can we use to help them improve?

Bye. Cortisol, dopamine, come here

As mentioned in the above research, if children are under too much pressure, the brain will continue to produce cortisol, which is very unfavorable for growth and development.

Compared with cortisol's "pressure switch", it definitely belongs to dopamine's "happy switch". As an important neurotransmitter, it not only plays the role of transmitting information, but also involves memory and learning ability, as well as seeking rewards to enhance learning motivation.

In order to improve children's enthusiasm and reduce the number of making mistakes again, we can train children's brains more comprehensively through EEG biofeedback training, targeted training according to their needs, and multi-point training mode.

Through the professional EEG biofeedback instrument, children's brain use status can be fed back in real time during training. When the brain is used at a high speed, reward the children with training results, so that the children can gradually develop this efficient state of using the brain and improve their attention and execution!

Children make mistakes or do badly, can't they say a word of criticism? Of course not. Criticism is ok. Pay attention to the method.

Stay calm and talk about it.

Many parents are also in a state of excitement and anger when criticizing their children. They will inevitably speak with strong personal feelings, and even say something that has nothing to do with the child's mistakes.

In fact, many times, what children object to is not the criticism itself, but the attitude of parents, so parents must not be emotional when criticizing their children.

Don't criticize often.

Correct mistakes and encourage the good. Unfortunately, parents often only do the former, and there is no balance. In the same way, in the face of children's mistakes, it is enough to say it once or twice seriously to avoid repeated nagging.

In the process of growing up, children will form a "self-concept" through their own behavior and the evaluation of others. If what they get from their parents is always negative and demeaning, then they will have too many negative comments on themselves when defining themselves, which is not conducive to their growth.

And often criticizing children will cause him greater pressure and self-confidence, and make children lose the ability to try new things. Over time, children lose the ability to face difficulties, which will weaken the brain's ability to deal with problems.

If it is really difficult for parents to control their emotions, they can also let their children participate in psychological awareness training, so that professional teachers can encourage their children to improve their behavior habits step by step with scientific psychological cognitive methods, enhance their self-management ability, and reduce parents' troubles and parenting burden.

If parents want to know exactly about their children's problems and the corresponding professional training methods, they can leave a message at the bottom of the article or backstage, and the expert teacher will provide you with professional guidance for free!