However, for many families in China, "confinement" is really not a simple matter. It is not only related to the recovery of pregnant women and the growth of babies, but also affects the stability and unity of a family. Many family conflicts are foreshadowed from confinement. Therefore, no matter from which angle, we should pay attention to this problem.
At present, there are two views on "confinement" in society. One advocates confinement and the other advocates non-confinement.
The party who advocates confinement thinks that this is a great event in a woman's life and must be treated with caution, and has formulated various strange customs for confinement. For example, you can't wash your hair and take a bath, you can't eat cold seafood, you can't blow a fan to turn on the air conditioner, you can't go out for a walk ... If one of them is not strictly observed, it will definitely lead to "moon disease".
On the other hand, people who advocate not confinement naturally strongly oppose the custom of confinement. They think those taboos are traditional bad habits and women should do whatever they want after giving birth. And they insist that only women in China are confined to confinement, while women in western countries are not confined to confinement after giving birth, so they go to work and take care of their children!
In fact, both views are too extreme.
From a medical point of view, women have undergone tremendous changes in all aspects of their bodies after nearly ten months of pregnancy. Compared with the long pregnancy process, the delivery process is extremely short. Therefore, after giving birth, women need a relatively long time to gradually restore all the systems of the whole body to the state before pregnancy, and this recovery period is generally as long as 6 weeks, which is called puerperium. Moreover, the recovery of puerperium is important and necessary for every postpartum woman.
Therefore, if "confinement" refers to the recovery of puerperal period, then in fact, West Renye Fang should be confinement.
The traditional confinement in China is full of all kinds of strange restrictions, in fact, it is more of a cultural custom. As a modern woman, there is no need to set so many taboos and be so strict.
Some people may ask, why don't female stars need confinement? They always return to work soon after giving birth and always maintain a radiant image. For example:
Tong Liya, who gave birth to her son blossoming half a year ago, participated in the variety show "Real Man", and her state was even better than before pregnancy;
Angelababy of Angelababy came back to record Running Man less than three months after giving birth to her son Sponge. Who hasn't said "you look great"?
Including Ma Yili, Sun Li and Zhao. People who are recognized as "awesome" by the public, their postpartum comeback is also very fast. The key point is that when they appear in public again after giving birth, they are not only full of spirit and rosy, but also as slim as before pregnancy, and they can't see the appearance of a baby at all.
Do they have any exclusive secrets about confinement? Is there anything we ordinary people can learn from?
Although we don't pursue the beauty of being photographed, we can at least learn from their confinement lifestyle to help our bodies recover as soon as possible and take better care of the growth of newborns.
Inadvertently, I came across this book "I may be the highest-paid Yue Yue in China: A Nursing Manual for Yue Yue". Perhaps, at first glance, you will think that the author is bragging. However, after understanding the author's experience and reading the contents of the book, you will feel worthy of the name, just like me.
Judy Chung, the author of I may be the highest-paid Yue Yue in China, is not a professional writer, but she is indeed a Venus Yue Yue with 15 years of experience. She has taken care of many stars, such as Tong Liya, Angelababy, Jiu Yehui and Yin Xu, and her reputation has exploded. She has been employed by many stars and successful people, so she said she "may be".
Many people think that the most important thing in confinement is to take care of the newborn, because ta has just come into this world and is still so weak and helpless. So most families will pay attention to their children in the second month, and several adults will turn around a baby. In fact, it is the mother who needs more care in the month.
Because childbirth is a huge consumption for the maternal body, the female body needs to go through a long recovery period after giving birth to the baby. Moreover, childbirth will greatly affect the hormone level in the maternal body, and then affect their mood. At this time, the maternal body and mind are in an extremely fragile state and need the patient care and care of the family. After all, if there is something wrong with the mother's physical and mental health, the baby will not be taken good care of.
The maternity that Zhong Ju has been taking care of not only suffers from what the old people call "moon disease" physically, but also rarely suffers from "postpartum depression" psychologically, all thanks to her careful care and warm company.
Looking through this book, you will be attracted by the delicious pictures in it. This is Zhong Ju's original Moon Meal, and each dish has corresponding effects, such as moisturizing and beautifying, invigorating spleen and regulating qi, or warming qi and blood. And each dish is equipped with detailed recipes and practices, which is convenient for readers to follow.
Some people will become very irritable after delivery, and some people will become sensitive and depressed after delivery, which are actually caused by the drastic changes in hormone levels in the body. In the face of postpartum women with great emotional fluctuations, Zhong Ju always has her own methods to enlighten them. For example, help coordinate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and ease the tense family atmosphere; Prepare some foods that can regulate hormones and help hormone levels return to normal.
Every woman will inevitably face the reality of being out of shape during pregnancy. As soon as the child is born, the topic of slimming will be put on the agenda. However, postpartum slimming must not be rushed, because women will have great changes in both bones and muscles after childbirth, so they must lose weight step by step according to the actual situation. For postpartum weight loss, Zhong Ju also gives practical and pertinent suggestions in the book, as well as weight loss recipes!
Although taking care of the mother of the second month is the most important thing, the mother is an adult and can express her needs. In contrast, it is much more difficult to take care of newborns. After all, every newborn baby is very delicate and needs careful care from parents. However, novice parents have no actual combat experience. In the face of such a baby who can't communicate and is soft all over, it's really impossible to start. So more than half of this book is about how to take care of newborns.
Let's start with food. For newborns, the best food is breast milk. Some mothers have more breast milk, so children don't have to worry about rations. Moreover, some pregnant women may not have breast milk for the time being, so they need to find a way to cook some milk soup to supplement their nutrition from the moon meal.
In the book, Zhong Ju explained several key points of breastfeeding in detail, such as how to judge whether the baby is full, how to burp the baby, and the milk blocking problem that breastfeeding is easy to encounter, which can be found in the book.
Besides "eating", the daily care of newborns is also very important. For example, how do newborns dress? How to bathe a newborn? How to cultivate good sleep habits of newborns? These common problems require novice parents to study hard to take good care of their babies. After all, things related to children are not trivial.
Some people say that most of the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law arise during the confinement of children. For the older generation, confinement must strictly abide by various customs, such as not washing your hair or taking a bath, not blowing air conditioning, not going out or even going to the ground, and so on. But in fact, some ancient taboos are no longer applicable today, and even bring harm to children and affect family harmony.
How to deal with such contradictions? The key is to learn to communicate and understand each other. In view of these contradictions, Zhong Ju also gave detailed answers in the book. At the same time, she also teaches many intergenerational communication skills to help readers better handle family relations.
Although newborn children can't express their thoughts in words, they can already perceive other people's emotions and family atmosphere. Some people say, "Home is a place to talk about love, not reason." On the issue of taking care of children, although everyone has differences, the ultimate goal is to hope that children can grow up healthily. Therefore, instead of arguing about everything, it is better to think about how to resolve differences and create a harmonious and friendly family atmosphere, which is more conducive to children's growth.
If you are a expectant mother, I recommend you to read this book. It can help you "confinement" more easily. Even if you can't afford a star's moon, you can learn to sit on the moon like a star!
If you are a prospective father, I strongly recommend you to read this book, because "confinement" is something that a family should take seriously, especially Bao Dad, who should know what he is doing in order to take better care of his wife and children.