The first point: that's the kind of pain brought by giving birth to a child in October. Although I have never experienced childbirth, it is in real life or in film and television dramas. I have seen the kind of pregnant women who have given birth, yelling and tearing their hearts out. It will produce deep empathetic memories, so it will also unconsciously produce fear of childbirth.
The second point: colleagues and sisters around me, their personal experiences and looks have already been instilled in their hearts. During pregnancy, I had a big belly. As long as you are not pregnant, you must keep working and your body is very heavy. Some people still have to squeeze buses and subways. That kind of difficulty is bound to make me unable to feel the same.
The third point: pregnancy will make your figure out of shape, poor postpartum recovery will make you fat, and pregnancy spots and striae will affect your beauty and overall image. Even if you need to throw a parturient, you need to open a knife on your stomach and leave a scar. You are not only a little unwilling to accept it, but also afraid of being rejected by your husband in the future. It is difficult to have the best of both worlds when you are afraid of pain after giving birth to a child and afraid of leaving a scar after giving birth to a woman. There will naturally be inexplicable fears.
The fourth point: I am afraid that the gender of the child does not meet the requirements of my husband and in-laws. Now it is allowed to have three children, two more choices, and two children and three children. A few years ago, family planning was tight, and only one child was allowed. If the daughter-in-law could not have a family reception, she might be treated coldly and embarrassed by her father-in-law, and some of them directly divorced and swept the door. Although everyone knows that it is up to the man to have boys and girls, the husband's family directly blames the daughter-in-law for the problem of not having a boy.
Fifth point: For professional women, especially those who are on the rise or struggling for their careers, it is very likely that their direct interests will be damaged and their positions and careers will be lost during this period because of childbirth. This kind of psychological pressure sometimes really makes some infertile women have a strong sense of fear and discourage them from giving birth.
Of course, in the long run, it is also possible to consider the milk powder money after the birth of the child, as well as the cost of going to kindergarten, getting married and getting married in the future. Although this may seem alarmist, some women do choose to have fewer children. Or consider it and regenerate it if conditions permit.