First, the problem of physical condition lies in constipation first.
Constipation is not only unpleasant, it leaves toxins in your body, produces waste gas, bad bacteria, free radicals and even cancer cells, and causes abdominal distension, body odor, bad breath, rough skin, abscess and even intestinal cancer. Most cancer patients have a secret history of defecation, and the size of tumor is directly proportional to the degree of constipation. All cooked food can't be kept in the refrigerator for three days. If you stay in a 36-degree intestine for 72 hours, all cooked food will rot and stink!
Our ancestors did not have constipation. They eat raw, have no toilet, and squat and defecate. In the past, shepherds consumed 2-4 times as much oil as we did, and farmers consumed more than 2 times as much dietary fiber. Their exercise is 5- 10 times that of ours. City people are cooking now, destroying digestive enzymes. Sitting and defecating, anal muscles degenerate. Many people mainly eat refined sugar and starch every day, lacking both oil and dietary fiber. From day to night, we sit in the car, office or bar, and going to the toilet and having sex become unique sports. Such living habits make our intestines dry and harden, reduce intestinal peristalsis, make abdominal and anal muscles fragile and cause constipation.
To relieve constipation, you need to get used to eating raw and squatting to defecate. Do not use laxatives, which can only cause drug poisoning and malnutrition. You need to abstain from sugar, eat less starch, flour and rice, and eat more high-fiber foods such as coarse grains, vegetables, fruits and seaweed, such as oats, konjac, broccoli, spinach, apples and kelp. Eat more fatty foods, such as flax seeds, walnuts, cocoa, peanuts, etc. Supplement lactic acid bacteria, such as drinking yogurt; Supplement oligosaccharides, such as eating soybeans and onions; Drink more water. Drink 1-2 glasses of water first thing in the morning. Exercise every day, especially abdominal exercise, such as sit-ups and interactive aerobic sex.
If it still doesn't work, eat fruit or lettuce 4-5 times a day, 2-4 spoonfuls of linseed oil and 2-3 times of dietary fiber. Constipated people defecate freely, no less than the energy released during orgasm. It turns out that God put our excretory organs and sexual organs together, which is both economical and wonderful.
Relaxation is not only enjoyment, but also conducive to detoxification. In addition, in addition to avoiding taking medicine, you only need to open the window, drink water and walk every day, and your body toxins can be greatly reduced. Conditionally choose organic food, organic health care products and filtered water.
Water is God's antidote to all people, which is both natural and economical. Water accounts for more than 60% of the body, participates in almost all metabolic processes, and can really remove fire and detoxify. Most of the "antidotes" on the market are laxatives, which exclude more money in your pocket and more nutrition in your body!
Detoxification is helpful for beauty, but it also needs to supplement essential fatty acids and antioxidants to make the whole beauty. You need to eat more deep-sea fish such as salmon and tuna, organic or green eggs, and natural phytochemicals such as red grapes, green tea, ginkgo, cocoa, tomatoes, garlic, mushrooms and poria cocos.
Second, psychological problems mainly lie in stress.
Stress is first and foremost a physical concept and physical feeling. The growth and development of the fetus in the mother must bear the pressure from all directions. Passing through the narrow birth canal during natural childbirth is a process that needs to endure great pressure. Experts used to think that the narrow birth canal is an obstacle to human evolution, because if the birth canal is wider, the capacity of human brain may be larger and people will become smarter. But now experts don't think so. It is generally believed that the process of being squeezed at birth is like a psychological and physiological massage, which helps to activate all its psychological and physiological functions and increase its tolerance to diseases. Statistics also show that children born naturally are generally healthier than those born by caesarean section.
The pressure that the body can feel is tangible, and we can clearly know the source, size and escape way of this pressure. For example, on a crowded bus, we clearly know that the pressure is given by people around us. The more people there are, the greater the squeezing pressure. The way to escape is also very simple, just get off. Faced with psychological pressure, it is not so simple. Psychological pressure often gives people an overwhelming feeling and makes people have nowhere to hide.
Part of psychological stress is caused by life events that have happened or are about to happen. For example, unfinished homework, upcoming exams, conflicts that must be faced, etc. We are well aware of the source of these pressures, so it is much easier to deal with them. Although there are some objective standards to measure the magnitude of these psychological pressures, in the final analysis, their impact on people is very obvious individual differences. The same thing, in the eyes of some people, is nothing, while in the eyes of others, it is a big deal. It has a lot to do with a person's personality whether lifting weights is easy or not. Those who are too demanding and strict with themselves tend to magnify small things and turn small pressures into big ones.
Generally speaking, the events that constitute psychological stress are mostly adverse events. However, a good event can also become a great stress. Give a simple example, such as promotion. Although the responsibility and workload may increase after job promotion, for some people, the increase of psychological pressure may not be proportional to the change of responsibility and workload. They are likely to be overwhelmed by psychological pressure soon.
Good things cause psychological stress because our inner balance has been broken. Each of us has a realistic self and an ideal self. There will be some differences between the two, and the ideal self is generally better than the real one. When the so-called "good things" that happen to you are only good enough to be close to your ideal self, there is no problem to bear. However, if the "good thing" is far better than the ideal self, trouble will follow. The biggest trouble is not believing, that is, not believing that you deserve such a good thing. It is said that after Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor, he didn't believe that beggars and monks could have such good luck, so that he once got carried away in the garden and told Ma Huanghou how he became emperor, making him feel unworthy. I regretted it afterwards and wanted to kill the people who heard him say those words. This is an excellent example of turning inner pressure into attacking others. Zhu Yuanzhang was one of the most brutal emperors in China history. The reason is that he doesn't believe in himself and projects this distrust on others, thinking that others don't believe in himself, so killing people has become a tool to counter the psychological pressure from imagination and distrust.
Even if there are no major events, ordinary interpersonal relationships will cause certain psychological pressure. As long as two or more people are together, the people in it will inevitably have pressure, but this pressure is obvious and not obvious. Interpersonal pressure mainly comes from the following aspects: competing with each other and hoping to behave better than others; Control others instead of being controlled by others; Try to make your words and deeds conform to other people's standards; Trying to please others to achieve a certain goal; Wait a minute. These are normal when the degree is very light. However, when it is serious enough to make you or others feel unhappy, you should consider making some changes.
Even if there is no pressure from external events, the pressure from internal conflicts is just as uncomfortable. Such pressure is first of all at the level of values. In the process of growing up, a person will come into contact with different values, some of which are contrary to others. So our hearts have become the battlefields of these values. For example, anyone may have been educated for self-interest and altruism. Although the former is mostly through non-mainstream channels, it will still have a great impact on people. When a decision has to be made in a certain situation, pressure arises. Therefore, a person without stable values faces much more psychological pressure than a person with stable values.
There is also a kind of psychological pressure that is not caused by external events, but comes from the conflict between physiological needs and social norms, which is generally called the conflict between spirit and body. Physiological needs tend to "do whatever you want", and the role of social norms is to limit this tendency. Conflicts arise from this. This is everyone's psychological pressure. The only difference is that some people skillfully turn their physiological needs into advanced needs to meet the requirements of social norms, thus achieving a relatively harmonious state; Others use social rules to maintain a balance that does not conflict with reality; Others directly oppose social rules, and what awaits them will be compulsory punishment.
In the face of pressure, we may consciously and actively look for some measures to solve it. For example, we can work overtime to finish what we have to do and ease interpersonal conflicts by improving communication. However, our handling of psychological stress is not entirely at the level of consciousness. When the pressure is so great that our intelligence can't think of a good way to deal with it, the pressure will penetrate into the subconscious level. The subconscious handling of stress is somewhat tragic. There are two main ways to deal with it, one is to express stress with psychological symptoms. These symptoms include some familiar technical terms, such as depression, compulsion, fear and anxiety. For example, a student who is about to take an important exam may have serious anxiety symptoms. These symptoms suggest that the psychological pressure is too great, which has reached the level of problems, rest, or seeing a psychologist.
Another way to deal with stress at the subconscious level is somatization. In other words, turn psychological problems into physical problems. The study of this change has become an independent discipline, called psychosomatic medicine. Many diseases that seriously affect people's health are caused by psychological factors, such as hypertension, gastric ulcer, chronic headache and so on. Take gastric ulcer as an example. Many patients with gastric ulcer are people with high work or life pressure. They are usually mentally strong. However, strong psychological pressure found a breakthrough in their relatively weak stomachs. The ulcer on the stomach wall is a symbol of this breakthrough.
My treatment of a headache patient is very dramatic. Going to a friend's house to play, it happened that his aunt was at his house. His aunt has suffered from migraine for three years. She saw many doctors, did various tests, took Chinese medicine and western medicine, and spent more than 20 thousand. She didn't find any problems and didn't see any improvement. The purpose of her coming to my friend is to ask him for help and find a good doctor. I overheard these situations and initially judged that her headache was a physical problem caused by psychological problems. Under the great pressure of work, she did not have psychological symptoms-depression, but symptoms of headache. I advised her to take antidepressants for a while. At first, she didn't believe that a psychiatrist could solve her headache. Later, after repeated explanations, she agreed to give it a try and reluctantly bought a box of medicine with my prescription to take home. In order to boost her confidence, I prescribed her an antidepressant that can take effect quickly. . Three days later, my friend called my house and said that her aunt's headache had recovered by 8% or 90%, and asked him to invite my guests for her. Of course I agreed without hesitation. Take this example, I want to say that whenever there is physical discomfort and no problems are found in various tests, it is necessary to consider whether it is a physical problem caused by psychological factors. At this time, seeing a psychiatrist is almost the only choice to solve the problem.
Psychological stress is a mixture of devil and angel. It is called the devil because it can really bring people both mental and physical harm. It is called an angel because it also has many benefits. There are two main advantages. First, under psychological pressure, we can maintain a good state of awakening and keep our intellectual activities at a high level, so that we can better handle various events in our lives. I once read a cartoon, which showed the benefits of stress well. A man sat at a desk full of papers, with a pen in his right hand and a time bomb in his left. The title of the cartoon is: I can only work efficiently under great pressure. I had a similar experience in writing. If the editor doesn't rush the manuscript, it is absolutely impossible to write anything. The more urgent the editor is, the faster the manuscript will be completed. Further thinking, many things in my life, as long as they are done, are basically related to external pressure; What is not done is mostly because there is no pressure. So by the way, thank all the people who have given me pressure. Second, when the psychological pressure is not too great for us to bear, it can be a kind of enjoyment, perhaps the best spiritual enjoyment. All competitive activities, that is, people create some psychological pressure out of thin air when there is too little psychological pressure, are aimed at enriching our spiritual life.
There is an interesting phenomenon of mutual cancellation between various psychological pressures. On the surface, all kinds of psychological pressures are mixed together, and the pressure that people can feel will be the sum of all kinds of pressures. Actually, it is not. For example, the work pressure is too great. If you watch a football match that will also give people psychological pressure and fierce confrontation, the pressure at work will be temporarily replaced. Each of us can use one kind of pressure to find our own way to relieve another kind of pressure.
There is no psychological pressure at all. Let's assume that there is such a situation, which must be more terrible than a situation of great psychological pressure. In other words, no pressure is itself a kind of pressure, and its name is emptiness. Countless literary and artistic works have described this emptiness. It is a lifeless situation than death, a great sorrow of being alive but not feeling alive. In order to eliminate this sense of emptiness, many people choose extreme measures to find pressure or excitement, and some people find it, in work, life, friendship or love; Others even paid the price of their lives in the process of searching. For example, some drug addicts were cornered by emptiness from the beginning. A person with appropriate occupational stress will not take drugs, and neither will a person with appropriate sense of family responsibility.