About health and knowing people

Therefore, there was a Shang Shu in the Tang Dynasty, surnamed Zheng, who always lived a frugal life. One day, a distant relative visited him. This distant relative is a farmer. Seeing his simple clothes, Zheng Shangshu asked him what he wanted. A distant relative said, "I want to find a job with you." When Zheng Shangshu saw that others were simple, he promised him, prepared to write a letter of recommendation for him, and arranged for him to go below. A few days later, he had dinner with his distant relatives and ate cakes, and found that he had thrown away all the cakes. Zheng Shangshu thought, "Why is there such a difference between appearance and heart? I thought he was dressed simply and must know the hardships in the world. I didn't expect him to waste more than a rich boy. How can such a person be good or bad? " Zheng Shangshu personally picked up the crust he threw away and ate it himself. After giving him some belongings, he sent him home. As it happens, the first generation of famous minister Zeng Guofan also encountered a particularly similar thing. Yi Zongkui, a A Qing dynasty, recorded this incident in The New World Theory: When Zeng Guofan was stationed in Anqing, one of his relatives came to see him and wanted to do something with him. Zeng Guofan left him and prepared to give him a job in the future. One day more than a month later, two people were having dinner together, and there was a barnyard grass in the meal. Relatives picked out barnyard grass and threw it on the ground before eating the bowl of rice. When Zeng Guofan saw it, he prepared the travel expenses and sent him home. The relative asked Zeng Guofan why he sent himself away. Zeng Guofan said: "You are not rich at ordinary times, and you have never been outside. It's only been over a month since you gave up farming and came to my barracks. When eating, you will pick the barnyard grass before eating. I am worried that if you change your mind in the future, it will drag you down. " "From eating barnyard grass, such a small thing, from small to large, from near to far, we can see that this person has a tendency to change his mind. Zeng Guofan's observation of people is very comparable, and his future achievements have a lot to do with his good observation of people. So let's go back to the Tang Dynasty. In the Tang Dynasty, there was a man named Lv Yuanying who stayed in the East from an official position. He usually likes to make friends, and some like-minded people come to see him. Lv Yuanying is very kind to them, but she is cautious in making friends. She often judges whether she can make friends by observing some details. A scholar named Ren came to Lv Yuan to be a traitor. Lv Yuan was equally polite and arranged a job for him. Lv Yuanying likes playing chess, just as Ren likes playing chess, so they often play chess together. One morning three months later, Lu Yuanying suddenly said politely to Ren: "I am overstaffed here, which will inevitably delay my husband's future. I'd better find another job. I am really sorry! " "Say, prepared a gift for him, and see him off. Although Ren didn't want to go and couldn't say anything, he left with a gift. Ren later worked for another official, but a year later, he was bought by the official's political opponents with huge sums of money, fabricated lies and framed the official, and almost sent him to prison. At the beginning, when Lu Yuan sent Ren Mou away, many people didn't understand, even his descendants didn't understand why he did it, but Lu Yuanying didn't explain. It was not until more than ten years later, when Lv Yuan was dying, that he earnestly said to his children and grandchildren around the bedside, "You must take it seriously and make friends carefully. When I was here more than ten years ago, I got along well with a janitor named Ren, but one day, while we were playing chess, someone sent me an approval. Just as I was approving the documents, he secretly changed a chess piece while I was not looking. In this way, the situation changed suddenly and he won the game. In fact, I saw all this out of the corner of my eye, but I didn't say anything. It was for such a chess piece that I made up my mind to dismiss him and stop seeing him. Speaking of which, he secretly changed a chess piece while I was not looking. It was a piece of cake, but I saw that he was terrible. If you don't say anything today, I'm afraid you don't know the truth, which will cause misunderstanding. In other words, I have nothing to worry about. Through the above three stories, we can get some enlightenment: in the process of interacting with people, we should be good at understanding human nature from nuances, and when cultivating our self-cultivation, we should not only be strict with ourselves on major issues, but also pay attention to details and be cautious in what we say and do.