Love teaches us restraint and thinking, but few people can do it. Many people get emotional when they encounter problems and can't control their emotions. But if they want to have a healthy and long-lasting relationship, they should have the ability of rational thinking against instinct and not be a walking corpse enslaved by instinct.
The beginning of intimacy is to attract and slowly ignite the fireworks of love. When a person is in love, he will expect too much from the other half. Little things in life will bring you back to reality from your ideal. Please love according to human nature and guide him in your way. Worry and ignorance are the chief culprits of "relationship breakdown". The more you know about the hidden organs in intimate relationships, the more you can effectively avoid falling into the trap, and naturally you have nothing to hide.
Teach him how to love you in a humane way. When there is a problem, many girls may let each other know their interests by repeatedly pointing fingers and denying them, so that they can correct their mistakes. But in fact, over time, he will have negative resistance, gradually lose his "mobility" and even spoil it. But when you follow the human way, he will be inspired by spontaneous motives, and he will think that his life is inseparable.
How to conform to human nature?
1, often praise or encourage him.
What kind of person do you want him to be, encourage him in that direction, and label him like this, the easier it is for him to become that kind of person.
For example, if he gives you a gift, you should encourage and affirm him. "That's very kind of you. How do you know I like this? You really understand me! " ! When you put such a label on him, he will be more careful when preparing a gift for you next time. Most men don't want the same response, but want your approval, so that he will feel that what he has done is worthwhile and will do more for you spontaneously in the future.
2, emotional stability, non-violent communication
When you have questions, don't be angry and ask questions or "make a long speech" as the first reaction. This will not only give people a great sense of depression, but also easily reduce your emotional atmosphere. You are also being led by the nose and easily caught by people.
A woman with stable emotions is supercilious, confident and relaxed, and even a little careless when facing men. It is precisely because of this invisible girl who is not controlled at will that she will feel uncertain about you and need to think carefully before she will pay more attention to you.
3. Learn to make correct demands.
You can ask for anything reasonable. Don't be afraid of the other person leaving just because you want more. When you are not afraid of losing each other, he will become the one who is afraid of losing you. Don't ask him in a commanding manner. Don't acquiesce that "the other person will do everything for me" and then communicate with him in a "high-profile" way every time. Your mouth can be sweeter.
4. Give yourself a high standard of love first.
What kind of love you want, you must first love yourself with the same standards. When you know how to love yourself with high values and principles, he will continue to love you as much as you love yourself. But if all he feels is that you don't love yourself, or you are in love, you don't pay attention to your feelings, don't take your needs seriously, and don't even have a trace of your own rules and framework, it will only stimulate the "evil" in the other person's personality.
5. Grasp the big events and let go of the small ones.
Pay attention to the general direction when you are in love. Don't dwell on small details all the time, which consumes the patience of the other party. If there is no news back in a few seconds, you will be angry. Occasionally I forget to say good morning and good night, but I will be timid when I encounter big contradictions. Don't dare to punish if you make a mistake, and don't dare to leave if you cheat.
There is no bottom line on major issues, and haggling over every ounce can only be ignored in the relationship. The more entangled and consumed in small matters, the easier it is to lose the initiative in future major events. You will be uncompromising in the face of big problems, principled and intimidating, and have the thinking of "almost enough" in the face of small problems.
Step 6 Enhance your own value
Don't rely too much on each other, and gain a sense of security through each other. Being too close can easily lead to aesthetic fatigue, make you feel insecure, and suffer from the occasional indifference of the other party.
What you need to do is to improve your value and spend more time on yourself. The more you focus on yourself, the more curious he will be and the more he wants to spend his mind on you. You are attracting him, not worrying about him leaving you. This charm will bring you more sense of security and make you confident. When you are in good shape, your relationship will be more comfortable and last longer.