Respect nature and give children a self. Parents can't be absent from their children's psychological growth, and there will be many troubles in the process of growing up. The ability to cultivate will affect children's life, and cultivating children will make them grow better in the future. Respect nature, give children a chance and teach them how to educate themselves.
Respect nature and give children a self 1 respect nature and give children a self.
Case:
A mother told me worriedly that her 5-year-old daughter was very sensible and loved by everyone. The kindergarten teacher said that she was obedient, and her relatives and friends praised her as a good child, but she found that her children were particularly "preoccupied". I don't know why. We talked for a long time and found out the reason why the child was in a heavy mood. Here, I want to tell my parents and friends about this mother's mistakes in education, so that we can learn from this lesson and let our children grow up healthily and happily.
This is a mother who attaches great importance to family education. Since my daughter was two years old, she has been strictly disciplined and asked to be a good boy. Especially in front of everyone, whenever the child behaves well, the mother says to her, "Look, others praise you as a good boy!" " "Whenever a child behaves" badly ",he says to his daughter," Look, others are laughing at you! Over time, the desire to let others boast that they are a "good boy" was deeply buried in her daughter's heart. No matter what occasion, the girl hopes that everything she does can be praised. If the kindergarten teacher praises others for not praising her, she will be extremely unbalanced in her heart. Usually, if the performance is a bit "out of line" (this "case" was set by my mother), before my mother says it, she will have a kind of self-blame and self-regret. " I am always afraid that others will say that I am not good. I am tied to my child like a curse, which makes her live very tired at an early age and forms what her mother calls a "heavy heart".
During the conversation, the mother deeply reflected on her education and realized that her daughter's "preoccupation" was caused by her improper education. She recalled with emotion: "When I was young, my mother taught me this way. This is a misunderstanding in education! "
Early education, please respect the child's nature.
Whether the mother's so-called "good boy" standard is appropriate depends only on how the child lives happily and develops well. Children in early childhood are the most innocent. They should grow up in a childlike world and fully enjoy the happiness of childhood. Parents should let their children grow up according to their own nature, so that their potential can be brought into play and their personality can be developed soundly. Parents certainly have the responsibility and obligation to educate their children, but this kind of education should promote their development on the basis of respecting their nature. If children are brought up to do everything according to the standard of "good boy" defined by adults, and every move is to be praised by others, then children will inevitably lose their innocence, personality and childhood happiness. When a child is young, he is used to looking at the faces of adults. When he grows up, in order to please others, he may have to hide his views and say things against his will. In this way, it is difficult to seek truth from facts and adhere to the truth in work; It is impossible to have happiness in such a life, and this distorted personality is contrary to the training goal of China's new generation, which parents do not expect.
Children should not be required to be "out of line" everywhere, and nothing should be "out of line"
In addition, children's physical and mental characteristics determine that they learn and grow through constant trial and error. Parents can't ask their children not to make mistakes, and they can't ask them to be "out of line" everywhere and everything. Instead, they should create a relaxed environment for their children to act independently according to their own wishes and let them develop healthily. It is necessary to evaluate children's behavior, but the evaluation should help children's development. Parents can't judge their children's behavior by "good children" and "bad children" in general, but should guide their children to know which are good behaviors and which are bad behaviors according to specific circumstances; What to do and what not to do, and pay attention to gradually cultivate children's ability of self-evaluation and develop the habit of judging right and wrong with their own minds. If they think it is right, they will stick to it, and if they do it wrong, they will not think too much about other people's opinions. In this way, children can be cultivated into independent, independent and sensible people, which is also very beneficial for children to form a good character and a healthy personality.
Respect nature and give children a self. 2 Respect children 1 1 rules.
1, listen carefully to what the child wants to tell himself; Don't be so impatient when children talk to you.
2. Take time out to play and chat with children every week; Don't ignore the existence of children because of your busy work. You are no busier than the president of the United States!
3, every child will have his flash, learn to appreciate the talent of children; Don't be stingy with those compliments.
4. Let children do their own things, including dealing with conflicts between children; Parents should try not to interfere with problems that children can solve by themselves.
Hey? 5。 Love what children love to do, even like to listen to their favorite songs and cartoons and participate in games between them; Don't think that this is all a child's game, let alone worry that others will say that you are immature.
6. Show great interest in what children do and take an active part in it. Don't turn a blind eye to what children are very passionate about.
7. Encourage children to have their own opinions and opinions. Even if they are immature, let time tell him the truth, so that children can grow their talents and learn from them. Parents don't tell the results in one sentence, which will make their children feel dissatisfied.
8. Allow children to have their own privacy; Don't read children's diaries, drawers, QQ chat records, emails and letters for various reasons.
9. Try to call the child's full name and give him a sense of independence; Don't call them "children" or "Neil", especially in front of their companions, and treat them as children who will never grow up.
10, let children say what they want to express or clarify their views; Don't interrupt the child's unfinished words casually, let him go on, right or wrong.
1 1. Your promise to your child must be fulfilled. Don't break your word, or you will not only lose your prestige in front of your children, but also lead by example and mislead them.