Therefore, poor communication is not only the cause of low emotional intelligence, but also should be treated differently.
I don't agree. Being bad at communicating with others shows that you love observation and can observe words and feelings. Children like this usually get stuck in ideas. Emotional intelligence sometimes depends on the guidance of parents and the cultivation of childhood environment. When I was a child, I should be very talkative. Generally, when you grow up and understand a lot of things, you know how to shut up properly. [Face] @ Xiangxiang Venture VLOG Personal View.
Not good at communication, not good at IQ. It is lack of knowledge!
1. Communicate more with people and read more books on interpersonal communication.
2. Change your way of thinking.
3. Change the way you communicate. If you want to learn communication well, you must understand the principles and logic of communication.
When you know this, you will naturally know how to communicate.
Are you not good at communicating with others, resulting in low emotional intelligence? First of all, what are the performances of people with low emotional intelligence?
First, I can't control my emotions.
Second, compare yourself.
Third, people are particularly stubborn and single-minded.
Fourth, there is no discretion in speaking and doing things.
Fifth, impose your own ideas on others, regardless of their feelings.
So, how to change this state?
No matter what happens, if you want to think more about yourself and others and read more books, you must first change your mind. People who are often too honest are not excluded, but they are not very popular with others, while those who are not too handsome, a little naughty and can't tell things apart in front of major issues are very popular.
In addition, we must control our negative emotions. If you control your emotions, you can naturally handle all kinds of relationships. A word or even an inappropriate word may affect the direction of things.
Emotional intelligence determines your thinking, and bravery quotient determines your behavior. IQ only determines your EQ. Even if you are a person who doesn't communicate with others, you should say it when you should, be measured and participate in interaction more. Even if you don't say a word and don't leave the group, you are not a person with low emotional intelligence.
No, it has a lot to do with congenital factors, psychological factors and environmental factors. If a person is naturally introverted and doesn't like to communicate with others in life, he will gradually become a lonely personal environment and be bad at expressing himself. The gap with others is getting bigger and bigger, and there is no same language. How terrible.
The world is so vast that it is impossible for one not to communicate with others. Whether it's because of work, career, family, life, etc. On the positive side, communication can help your career to flourish and your life to be full and happy; On the contrary, poor communication is a big obstacle to the development of life.
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In real life, EQ is not low, even IQ and EQ are high, but "life is as lonely as snow", and there are really many people who are not good at communicating with others, especially newcomers whose careers have just started. Paying attention to and removing this obstacle will be of great benefit to the future journey of life.
The question is, what is the main reason for not being able to communicate well with others? Let's do some analysis.
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One possibility is genetic and family influence.
Today is not the past, so we don't have to deny the influence of heredity on children and families. I found that I have a problem of poor communication. Maybe mom or dad is introverted. It is hard to say whether the father is introverted or the mother is more introverted, but one thing can be inferred: either the father is introverted or the mother is introverted; Or both of them are introverted. You have to admit that the phenomenon of "not one family does not enter one household" is indeed very common.
If you are a family with many brothers and sisters and one person in the family is not good at communication, then there may be a second or third one.
If a person's family economic situation was or is now in an embarrassing situation, it can also be put in the reason of "making me unsociable".
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The second possibility is adolescence and the negative accumulation of adolescence.
Perhaps it is the primary school, especially the middle school stage, which has always performed poorly and its performance is not as good as that of teachers and parents. Long-term outdated arrangements will always make people look down, and feelings of inferiority and self-blame often emerge, which will affect a person's self-denial.
Perhaps childhood diseases or patients will also weaken the establishment and growth of self-confidence for a long time.
Maybe it's some kind of physical defect. I don't need to elaborate.
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The third possibility is the shadow of growth setbacks.
The depression of setbacks is also an important reason, including but not only yourself, but also the setbacks encountered by parents, family members, families and even relatives and friends, which will also cast a shadow over you.
The fourth possibility is the suppression of recent major events.
Although this reason will have a certain impact, it should not be the biggest one according to the law of life growth. Because the phrase "Mount Tai can move, but its nature cannot be changed" also contains the meaning of "long-term" and "accumulation"; In other words, the problem of communication is really "Rome was not built in a day", but we have included "suppression of recent major events" as one of the "suspects".
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The next question is, how to overcome communication barriers? How to be an optimistic, good at making friends and even become a "communicator"?
Provide some suggestions.
First, establish a self-confident and self-reliant attitude towards life.
What was the past? The past means never coming again. The past is history. Our suggestion is "remember history and forget the past". Bad communication is only the past, and eloquence is the pursuit of the future. It is very important to establish and build confidence. Only when there is confidence can there be action, and only when there is action can there be results.
Second, establish a sunny psychological state of optimism, kindness to the world and kindness to others.
In fact, this is a matter of world outlook. The moon is full of rain and shine, and people are short of bumps. However, the earth rotates every day and the sun rises every day. If you are positive, the people around you will be positive. You are sunny, and people around you will be sunny, which is certain (limited to space, not detailed here) and also a psychological law.
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One thing is very important. We must be kind to others and try our best to care for others, our environment and the world. Do your best to help those who need help, and do your best to help. Speaking "foreign language" means "love can change everything", including changing yourself.
Third, master the necessary skills of active communication.
You can read more books and articles on communication, such as speeches and eloquence. I have read a book before, which seems to be called the weakness of human nature. This is the work of Carnegie in the United States, which can be read. You can also take part in more discussions in the salon, and you can also take part in more oral practice, and so on. Make friends with people who have a glib tongue and learn from them consciously or unconsciously. Most of them are red near Zhu, and most of them are black near ink.
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Fourth, formulate and implement an action plan.
Starting from now, starting from now, starting from the side, starting from small things, constantly suggesting, reminding and "forcing" yourself-I am the best, I am a master of communication, and my friends are all around!
Hello, I'm glad to answer this question. I am No.24, the growth record of rural boys. Personally, I have some opinions on this issue.
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Hello, it's not that your emotional intelligence is low. You may not be good at communicating with people.
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Not being good at communicating with others may be a personality reason. Sometimes a person is introverted and unwilling to communicate with others too much.
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I am a child from the countryside. I play at home alone because I have been at home for a long time. I haven't been out much for a long time, so I seldom have the opportunity to play with other people. So sometimes when I go out, I don't like to communicate with people, but I don't like to communicate, and my emotional intelligence is not low.
To sum up, emotional intelligence is not high because of how to communicate with people. Some people have high emotional intelligence, but others don't like to communicate with others.
My answer is over. I hope my answer can help you.
Not being good at communicating with others is not a matter of emotional intelligence. But for the following reasons:
1. Natural personality. Some people are naturally quiet, not good at communicating with others, taciturn, and like to be alone and quiet.
2. Nature of work. As we all know, those engaged in sales, procurement and marketing are relatively good at dealing with people, while ordinary workers engaged in technology, research, workshop or breeding are relatively bad at dealing with people.
3. age. Young people are better at dealing with people than old people because they have active thinking, more social activities and new knowledge.
4. Experience and knowledge. People with rich experience and wide knowledge are relatively good at dealing with people. Because they have rich social experience, they are good at controlling interpersonal relationships and interacting with people with ease.
Poor communication with people is not caused by low emotional intelligence, but by personality. In recent years, there has been an understanding in society that extroversion is an advantage and introversion is a disadvantage.
First of all, the deep-seated reason for this phenomenon is the need of the development of the times. Before the reform and opening up, society respected the spirit of hard work and courage to struggle, and down-to-earth people were respected. This kind of person's character is not to engage in interpersonal relationships, but only to work hard, so introverts are popular. After the reform and opening up, what is needed is business talents who are good at dealing with people, which will inevitably lead to the popularity of extroverts.
Secondly, it is related to people's growing environment. Living in a harmonious relationship between parents and a democratic family atmosphere, children can form a cheerful personality from an early age. On the contrary, if parents always quarrel and don't care about their children's physical and mental health, children will form introverted or even withdrawn characters.
Although there is no question of who is good or bad in the two personalities, in order to succeed in society, besides professional skills, harmonious interpersonal relationships will also be of great help to you. Therefore, no matter what personality, we should consciously cultivate our ability to communicate with others.
In fact, many celebrities in history are introverted, and most celebrities who have achieved good results in various fields are introverted, such as Lincoln, Einstein, Ma Hua Teng, Hepburn and Haruki Murakami. They give full play to the advantages and talents of introverts, thus driving themselves to success. The famous comedian Degang Guo is always humorous in the program, but he is an introvert in the audience. He said frankly, "I go out to eat less than ten times a year."
Solitude is not a consumption for introverts, but a self-optimizing behavior. They can supplement their spiritual energy and nourish their inner world by studying and learning what they are interested in.
Li lives alone in a village like Taohuayuan, far away from the noise of horses and chariots, dressed in classical plain clothes, and basically cooks his own food.
When the peach blossoms bloom, you can make wine, and when the peas are ripe, you can make bean jelly yourself. Not only that, she seems to be still weak, and she can chop wood and build kilns in the fields. It can be said that she is proficient in all kinds of martial arts, and she can't help but sigh that it's really strange girl.
Therefore, there is no need to dwell on this, accept yourself, make appropriate changes, find what you are good at, and focus on it!
This has nothing to do with emotional intelligence! Whether introverted or extroverted, communication should have its own way. There is no difference between good and bad, only people who are willing or unwilling to communicate with you. Have a plenty of different industries, no * * * in communication. There are many different circles, and it's no use telling you more. There are also people with different personalities, looking at each other bored and chatting. Personally, I think that no matter what industry you are in, the first thing you understand and communicate is that you are sure that the other party and the other party agree with you. If your product or personality is well accepted by the other party, you will start to communicate and cooperate with each other.