Research shows that a good network of relationships can greatly promote the healthy development of children, and harmonious and warm family social resources can enable parents to enthusiastically accept and guide children and help them build their self-esteem. If parents often have conflicts, children's self-esteem and happiness will be negatively affected, and they are more likely to feel lonely and depressed; The attributes of neighborhood communities have a great relationship with children's growth. A safe and civilized living community and people's average education level can help children get social resources, increase their happiness and reduce the occurrence of problem behaviors.
In some rural areas, social resources outside the family are abundant, and the competition in these areas is not very fierce. People are more considerate and help each other. Everyone is familiar with it, and their living habits are similar. When parents go out to work, they will entrust their children to their neighbors to look after them, forming a harmonious neighborhood relationship. Urban children have lived in reinforced concrete forests since childhood, and their neighbors rarely walk around, are unfamiliar with each other, and their neighborhood relations are relatively indifferent. Children who grow up in a harmonious neighborhood are more likely to feel happy and happy, which makes up for the lack of parents' upbringing of children with lower economic status to some extent.
Coleman believes that family social resources are social resources to promote the psychological well-being and ability of individuals in the group. With the help of language, trust, ethics, responsibility and recognition between people, social resources enable people to communicate and integrate. At the same time, people can get the priority of information and opportunities through their relationships, thus increasing their personal growth opportunities. In families with less social resources, their children will inevitably encounter some obstacles in their study and life when they adapt to school life and integrate into new peer circles. Faced with strange teachers, classmates and tired parents, I often feel that there is no one to talk to.
On the other hand, parents with disharmonious family relationships may be overworked and have a hard life, and they are more likely to have conflicts because of trivial matters in life. Once there is a conflict, it is easy to make a scene and swear at each other, which will make the children on the sidelines feel anxious, lonely and helpless and reduce their self-esteem and happiness. In the face of children's problems or children's mistakes, such parents often lack patience and acceptance, and often take punishment, rejection and other means without asking the reasons, which is not conducive to children's self-development.