Anxiety is often manifested as persistent anxiety and intense emotional experience of anxiety. These students are always complaining about their inner uneasiness. They often complain about trifles about their parents and their surroundings. They are always unhappy, dissatisfied, nervous and unable to relax. Worried about relatives, academic failure, bad interpersonal relationship, criticized by teachers, laughed at by classmates, etc.
There is also anxiety caused by maladjustment, which is mainly manifested in maladjustment to school and dependence on parents and families.
Xiao Miaofang: Parents and teachers should pay more attention to their anxiety and let them feel the warmth of the group. Euphemistic criticism is also appropriate, especially to encourage their small progress in time.
Psychological counseling can achieve good results by using relaxation training, hypnotherapy and other skills.
2. Test anxiety
Test anxiety is a complex emotional phenomenon, and students' emotional reactions such as psychological tension, anxiety and fear during the test can be called test anxiety.
Small recipes: carefully prepared, know fairly well; Lower your goals, lighten your psychological burden, and really go into battle lightly.
When students realize their stage fright, don't panic. There are several ways to alleviate it:
One is to be quiet, stop marking papers and answering questions, rest quietly on the table, divert attention, and stop mandatory memory about exam activities.
Secondly, you can use the "adjusting breathing method" to relax the whole body, take many deep breaths and breathe evenly. When breathing, the brain had better get rid of other distractions, stare at a fixed target or close it slightly, and breathe repeatedly with rhythm, which will also quickly eliminate stage fright.
3. Confrontation behavior
These students often show the absoluteness of their thoughts (either black or white); Too self-righteous, but often "go high"; Love to play the devil's advocate and be rude to teachers and elders; Unwilling to obey their parents' wishes, they often contradict their parents and sometimes run away from home to confront them; Like to play tricks on others.
Small: Because confrontational behavior is sometimes easily mistaken by teachers and parents as just a moral problem, but only criticism and punishment, which may lead to the opposite result. Therefore, teachers and parents can give such students more understanding, establish a good relationship and adjust their cognition. Psychological counseling techniques and methods can help these students change their attitudes. As far as psychological counseling is concerned, cognitive therapy, behavioral therapy and group psychological counseling can all be adopted.
4. Excessive addiction to the Internet
"I often go to Internet cafes. In fact, I didn't go there to play games, but for a sense of accomplishment that I couldn't feel at school or at home.
-Excerpt from an interview with a classmate playing games in an Internet cafe.
The survey found that excessive infatuation with the Internet has a high correlation with students' grades, psychological and emotional factors and some bad behaviors. Students with good academic performance are less obsessed with the internet. Students who are obsessed with the internet are prone to anxiety, while students who are introverted, lonely and feel isolated from other students are prone to be obsessed with the internet. Students who smoke, take drugs, fight, gamble, run away from home and commit suicide are obviously more obsessed with the internet than ordinary students.
Small: The influencing factors of internet infatuation are complex, including individuals, families, schools and society. Using the following methods can change students' behavior habit of indulging in the internet.
(1) family therapy
Parents and children are advised to openly communicate the reasons why their children are obsessed with the Internet. Parents should sincerely listen to their children's feelings, accompany them on vacation or help them develop some new hobbies that are beneficial to their physical and mental health.
(2) Support groups
Let students join mutual aid groups, interest groups and other groups. Thereby reducing the dependence on network communication. For example, you can join some pop music choirs or song clubs, first establish good relationships with students who have the same hobbies and languages in real life, and then further develop other interpersonal relationships.
(3) Behavior Contract Law
Let the students who are obsessed with the internet enter into a behavior contract with themselves or their parents on the premise of consultation, and take the initiative to accept external supervision, so as to get rid of their obsession with the internet.
In fact, it is very important to establish relationships between people, and making students feel love is the key to solving problems.
Tired of learning
Tired of learning is a process that some children will experience when they grow up, or because of someone, something, or their own mood problems, which leads to the emergence of weariness. So, what if you are tired of learning?
Small recipes: (1) Find out why you are tired of learning. Don't deceive yourself. Think for yourself. What is the real reason why you are tired of learning? Is it because of relationship problems, study problems, or something else? Only by finding the reason can we solve the problem.
(2) slowly adjust your emotions. Tiredness of learning is not formed in a day or two, and it cannot disappear in a day or two. What you have to do is to have confidence in yourself and have the courage to change your psychology.
(3) Seek help to communicate with your parents or trusted teachers, so that they will give you some help and you can get rid of your weariness of learning earlier. Of course, seeking professional psychological counseling is also a good way.