Willfulness is a reflection of a common abnormal psychological state of children. It is also a means for them to blackmail their parents and meet their own demands. For children, willfulness is a reward based on the compromise of parents' behavior towards children. Parents' lack of effective education and correction for wayward children will make their wayward development uncontrollable and the consequences will be unimaginable. So, how to correct the child's waywardness?
(1) Dig deep into the root causes and find out the reasons. It is the key to correct the wayward children's behavior and analyze their wayward psychology. Children's waywardness is caused by a variety of psychology. Some are to meet some material needs, some are to be spoiled by parents, some are to show their strength, some are to get recognition from others, and so on. In short, all kinds of psychological needs are the reasons for willful behavior.
(2) Find out the reasons and implement education. As parents, it is necessary to admit that some requirements of children are reasonable. Also tell them that some requirements are not allowed by family and social conditions. Let children know their own material requirements, parents' doting, winning in the competition, and others' recognition can not be solved by willfulness. We must rely on our own efforts and cooperation with others. The correction of children's wayward behavior should pay attention to the methods of children's psychological laws.
1, mental transfer method
When children are willful, they can be diverted from some stimuli. Let the children do something else. Such as; Tell stories, jokes, etc. So that the willful excitement can be diluted. For example, when children go shopping and see remote-controlled cars, they insist on buying them, but there are similar toys at home. You can say, "There are more beautiful ones over there. Let's go and have a look. " Draw the children away first, and then educate them patiently. On the contrary, if parents scolded their children loudly at that time, it would not only have no good effect, but also cause their children to cry loudly, and finally parents had to compromise.
2. Temporary avoidance method
Let children calm down and think, and let them lose the object of human nature release. After calming down, education, explaining the reasons and finding out the problems will make children's waywardness learn some lessons.
3. Comparative induction
Wayward children are aggressive and have strong self-esteem, so comparative induction can be adopted. The so-called "comparative induction method" is to compare the deeds or behaviors of heroes with prophets and philosophers, thus stimulating children's self-esteem and competitiveness, and thus inducing children to actively change their wayward behavior. For example, children are very afraid of injections. Before the injection, both parents and children said "it would be nice to have an injection", but the child was still unwilling to have an injection. I will also willfully say, "I won't have an injection." Then parents can say in another way: "Didn't you say you should be as brave as an uncle of the People's Liberation Army? I don't think you are as brave as your PLA uncle! " In order to induce and resolve children's willfulness.
(3) Don't beat and scold, don't indulge.
Behavior correction of wayward children should avoid beating and cursing and endless accommodation. These two extreme practices are not helpful to correct willful behavior. American psychologist William? 6? 1 Keke's research shows that children's willfulness is a manifestation of psychological needs. So remind all parents in the world that although willfulness is a bad behavior, don't ignore the psychological needs of children.