How to understand the natural principles in heterosexual communication

Middle school students should master the principles and methods of heterosexual communication when they get along with the opposite sex. We should grasp the two principles of "nature" and "moderation". The so-called "natural" principle means that in the process of communication with the opposite sex, words, expressions, manners, feelings and thoughts are natural and smooth, neither blindly impulsive nor feminine. Eliminating the unnatural feeling in the opposite sex is the premise of establishing a normal opposite sex relationship. The best embodiment of the natural principle is to treat opposite-sex students as same-sex students, establish opposite-sex relationships as same-sex relationships, and treat opposite-sex interactions as same-sex relationships. The relationship between classmates should not be uncomfortable or unnatural because of the participation and existence of the opposite sex. The so-called "moderation" principle means that the degree and way of heterosexual communication should be just right and accepted by most people. There is neither premature germination of love for heterosexual communication, nor psychological harm caused by avoiding or rejecting the opposite sex; Neither too much participation in "separate activities" between the opposite sex, nor nervous in front of the opposite sex, refused to accept the enthusiasm and help of the opposite sex. Of course, it is not easy to be accepted by most people, and there is also a question of whether a natural and moderate heterosexual relationship can be recognized and accepted by most people around (including teachers and parents). What are the correct and appropriate ways to make friends? First of all, we must overcome shyness. When communicating with the opposite sex, feelings should be natural, manners should be generous and normal. So as not to let normal heterosexual communication go astray. Second, be honest. In the process of communication, we should be frank and selfless and treat each other with sincerity, which is the premise and foundation for establishing and developing good relations. Don't use "friendship" or "friendship" as an excuse to bluff the opposite sex. Again, leave room. Although we have made intimate friends, we should leave room for what we say and do, and we should not be reckless. For example, when talking about some sensitive topics between the sexes, try to avoid them. Physical contact in communication should be measured, not too frivolous or too formal. In the long-term communication with a certain opposite sex, we should pay attention to the relationship between the two sides, and don't go "too deep" or "too far" to avoid exceeding the boundaries of normal communication. In addition, both men and women should avoid pestering those bad emotions and behaviors in conversation; Avoid too much solitude in group activities; Don't make too many restrictions on the range of friends. Communicating with students of the same sex and opposite sex can also avoid the inadaptability and unnatural psychology when the opposite sex gets along alone.