We often talk about it? Let children grow up healthily and happily? . Many people will unilaterally think that health means that children are not sick, and normal physical development means good health. In fact, they neglected an important aspect of mental health. Only children who are physically and mentally healthy can we call them healthy children. However, it is precisely because people ignore the important factor of mental health that children have all kinds of abnormal behaviors because of psychological problems. With the rapid development of social economy, all kinds of temptations and bad atmosphere in society always affect the healthy growth of children. As parents and educators, we should not only care about the physical health of children and students, but also pay attention to them at all times to make their mental health grow.
We can often see that students with psychological problems often behave differently. Such as extreme behavior, aloofness, hostility, etc. That's because they have a sense of loss. In order to meet the needs of obtaining such losses, they have to use? Alternative? Behavior to attract the attention of others and vent their dissatisfaction. And why do students feel lacking and have psychological problems? The answer to this question is quite complicated, and it is necessary to find it from the source, involving various factors. For example, social factors, family factors, school factors and personal factors. Now that we have found the problem, we must find a solution. Generally speaking, in my opinion, various factors should try their best to improve students' mental health, as follows:
1. More psychological counseling institutions or hotlines should be set up in the society, and more psychological counseling activities should be carried out so that parents can consult and get help in time;
2. Parents should pay more attention to their children, establish a good parent-child relationship, create a warm family environment, and promptly handle and guide their abnormal performance;
3. Schools should also set up psychological counseling rooms and provide students with mental health courses regularly. Class teachers and subject teachers should pay attention to students' every move, find problems in time and solve them in time;
4. Students should also keep a cheerful, tolerant, positive and optimistic attitude and establish a correct outlook on life from an early age. The above points alone cannot completely avoid the occurrence of students' psychological problems. To reduce students' abnormal psychological phenomena, we must start from the details and start from bit by bit. Different situations have different treatment methods.
John? Holt's book Why Children Fail wrote:? Is it a lot? Idiot? It's not innate, it's acquired The process usually goes like this: first of all, what is a child who does not follow the normal track? Diagnosis? Defective; Then, children are taken care of and treated as if they are really defective; Later, the child himself felt that he was flawed; Finally, he became more and more fond of experts. It can be seen that a mentally sound child, under the influence of the surrounding environment and the opinions of relatives around him, will gradually become a mentally defective or mentally unsound person. This also shows that family environment and social attitude play an important role in the development of children's mental health.
I once watched a video of a graduation report meeting. This is not a graduation report meeting of a general school, but a graduation report meeting of a school that specializes in educating students who have slipped. I was deeply impressed by a girl in junior high school. Her story goes like this: as long as I can remember, my parents have always quarreled and the family atmosphere is not harmonious. Then my parents divorced. Father didn't want her and ran away with another woman; She followed her mother, and her life was not very comfortable. In order to support their families, mothers go out early and come back late every day, and there are few opportunities to communicate with girls. Slowly, the introverted girl began to hate this boring life and her parents. Girls go from being tired of studying and playing truant to meeting unhealthy young people outside. Later, the girl ran away from home and wandered around with the bad young people she met outside. Girls think they are free and can get rid of the shadow of family and live the life they want. Later, under the guidance of unhealthy young people, girls began to degenerate and take drugs. When there was no money to buy drugs, the girl remembered her mother and went home to steal the money from home and ran away. The girl's mother couldn't find her anywhere and didn't care too much, because she thought she stole money just to make a living. Later, all the money at home was stolen, and girls began to steal it in society. It was not until she was caught by the police that she was forced to give up drugs and enter this educational reform school. From her graduation report, we can see that she chose to degenerate and run away from her family because she hated her parents for not giving her a complete family and for not caring about her.
We can see that it is precisely because of the lack of family care since childhood that this girl did not get the care she deserved, and her heart was traumatized, but she was unable to communicate with her family and express her feelings, and eventually she went astray. A flower that is about to bloom has withered like this, which is regrettable and thought-provoking. Some people will say that, in the final analysis, the reason is that parents should not have conflicts and should not divorce. I want to say, wrong! Parents' divorce is not the root cause, but their attitude and care for their children after divorce. I have also met many people whose parents are divorced. They live like other people whose parents are harmonious, and there is not much difference. When asked about their parents' divorce, they admitted that it was between their parents. If they are for the good of everyone, they agree, and maybe they will find another world after separation. It can be seen that their hearts are completely different from those of girls, and there is no hatred at all. I am sure that the reason is that after the parents divorce, they should explain clearly to their children, constantly express their love for their children in behavior and language, and let them know that their parents care about him, and that he is not abandoned or redundant. If possible, take part in more parent-child activities to get closer to your children. This will not cause psychological shadow to children, so that children can successfully pass the turning point in life.
In fact, behind every weird behavior, there is a broken heart. Sometimes the little things we think are the big things that affect other people's lives. Some people say this is serious! I said it wasn't serious. Haven't you ever heard that once bitten, you are afraid of straw rope for ten years? It was because I was bitten by a snake that I had a psychological shadow. Looking at snake-like objects such as straw ropes in the future, I will unconsciously think of bad memories of being bitten by snakes, and think that everything like snakes is snakes. In fact, students are the same. If they encounter unpleasant things at home or at school, they will be in a bad mood. If these emotions are not handled properly, they will affect for more than ten years or even a lifetime.
Tell me my own example! I remember in a Chinese class in my primary school, the teacher asked everyone to raise their hands to speak and read words, and I also raised my hands voluntarily. The result was really set on fire by the teacher. I don't know whether it's honor or misfortune. A new word is not pronounced correctly. As a result, my classmates burst into laughter and I blushed. I really want to find a hole to get into. The teacher didn't stop other students from laughing at me at all, and also suspected that I didn't preview the text last night, and all such simple words were mispronounced. I was laughed at by my classmates at that time, which was very shameful. The teacher even suspected that I didn't do my homework. I feel helpless and angry. It's a pity that my efforts last night were not affirmed. I was angry that the teacher doubted himself casually without investigation, which was unfair. There are many other students who haven't done their homework. Why should they be laughed at and suspected that they just mispronounced? I have hated that teacher since then. Until now, although I don't hate him, I don't like him very much. From then on, I dare not raise my hand to speak, even if I can answer, I am afraid that I will be laughed at if I stand up and say something wrong. Now that I have grown up, I understand a truth: what I think is a small matter is likely to become a big thing for others and affect their lives. Now that I am a teacher, I have to understand this truth. I often wonder what would happen if my teacher patiently taught me to read that word instead of doubting me and told other students to stop booing? What will I become now? But anyway, things have happened. What I can do now is to do a good job in my current education and be patient with every student. Because I know that teachers' words and deeds, a casual praise or casual criticism will have a great influence on students. I have had an unpleasant experience, and I understand the benefits. Therefore, I don't want my students to have this experience. I hope my students will be happy and have no regrets when they look back on their schooldays when they grow up.
As a teacher, I often remind myself to look at the problem from multiple angles and try to look at it from the standpoint of students, so as to narrow the distance with students, gain their trust and convince them. Moreover, when dealing with everything, we must make clear the cause and effect of the matter and listen to opinions from all sides before we can draw a conclusion. For students who have caused psychological shadow, we should pay more attention, listen more, understand the causes of psychological shadow, and skillfully prescribe the right medicine to help students get out of the predicament and pass every turning point smoothly. Usually pay more attention to the changes of students at school and contact parents in time if there is any situation. As a teacher, the most basic thing is to keep a good attitude, give students a good image and set a good example. At the same time, we should pay more attention to the renewal and growth of knowledge and skills. In fact, every child is born kind, every student is eager to learn, every parent wants his children to be successful, and every teacher wants his students to be excellent in their studies. Later, the reason why children are different from what we imagined was because parents and teachers from outside defined them, judged them and ignored what they really needed. In fact, every seed can produce a good flower, as long as a little sunshine and a little rain and dew!
Experience of Children's Mental Health Education (2)
Mental health education for primary school students is based on the laws and characteristics of primary school students' physical and mental development, using the methods and means of psychological education to cultivate primary school students' good psychological quality and promote the all-round and harmonious development of primary school students' physical and mental and overall quality. Approaching the new curriculum for the development of every student? Compared with the past education and teaching, it pays more attention to every student's emotions, emotional life and experience, moral life and personality cultivation, and students' dignity. Does this mean that the requirements for teachers in the future are not just completion? Preach, teach, and dispel doubts? Task, but should become a qualified psychological counselor, undertake the new task of mental health education.
Therefore, it is particularly important to carry out mental health education scientifically and effectively in curriculum reform. Let me talk about my own two attempts and experiences in mental health education for primary school students in the new curriculum reform:
First, establish a modern concept of children and education.
The concept of children is the overall understanding of children, that is, the sum of various views on children; Educational concept is an attitude towards children and an educational idea implemented under the guidance of a certain concept of children. Scientific outlook on children and education is the premise for teachers to carry out mental health education for primary school students.
Second, create a harmonious and pleasant material environment for education and teaching.
Give children a piece of air and let them breathe freely; Give children a green space and let them grow flowers and grass; Give children a painting wall and let them paint freely; Give children a feeding garden and let them feel the cuteness of animals. Follow children's nature and let them grow up happily.
Create a beautiful, safe and comfortable material environment. If there are various outdoor venues on campus, it has the function of stimulating pupils' experiences and inducing pupils' activities and behaviors. In the activity venue, colorful equipment and materials are designed to make everything green and full of vitality. The classroom is the main activity space for primary school students, and we strive to make the room spacious, bright, warm and comfortable. The content of the layout changes with the change of educational goals and seasons. The neat and beautiful material environment evokes the primary school students' love for life, cultivates their sentiment, enriches their lives, stimulates their curiosity for knowledge, and cultivates their exploration spirit and interest in life.
Third, create a democratic and harmonious spiritual environment for education and teaching.
The spiritual environment of campus education and teaching refers to the relationship between people and campus spirit, including the humanistic factors and activity space of primary school students' life, study and game. Psychologist Suhomlinski made such a vivid and appropriate metaphor for the relationship between cognition and emotion. Emotion is like fertile land, on which the seeds of knowledge are sown. ? On the other hand, what if you leave? Emotion? This fertile land? , still can't stand it? Develop well? Fruit.
1. Treat students equally and cross over to the old? Generation gap? .
Under the background of curriculum reform, teachers are required to change their mentality, change the condescending authoritative attitude in the past, communicate with students with a kind face and an equal and harmonious tone, and shorten the distance between teachers and students. Heart distance? . In such an atmosphere where personality is respected, emotions are understood, behaviors are encouraged and efforts are affirmed, students can fully release their potential creative energy, express their thoughts and feelings without any worries, and naturally express their doubts. The first is to create a harmonious, relaxed and happy learning environment.
A good classroom psychological environment is a powerful guarantee for high-quality teaching. Psychological research shows that a harmonious and pleasant atmosphere helps students to actively participate in classroom activities, while a tense and indifferent atmosphere will greatly inhibit students' enthusiasm for learning. How to reduce and eliminate students' psychological pressure in learning and cultivate students' good learning attitude? In teaching, teachers should play the role of a good guide, organizer and collaborator, create the best psychological atmosphere, let students experience their emotions, communicate with their hearts, accept their ideas, adjust their emotions, train their behaviors, let students fully display themselves, and let them learn well and easily. This not only improves students' interest, confidence and courage in learning, but also cultivates students' spirit of cooperation and exploration. When students' thinking, interests and hobbies have room for publicity, they will walk into the teacher, talk with the teacher and become friends, laying a solid foundation for the healthy development of students' psychology.
2. Teachers and students are sincere and relative, understanding and achieving growth.
Sincerity is the most important thing in interpersonal communication. You should understand others and put yourself in their shoes. As a teacher, we must show our true self in front of students, treat every student with sincere love, and let students feel authentic. Montessori said: A teacher is not only a teacher, but also a psychologist, because he wants to guide children's life and mind. ?
Understanding is an important principle to carry out mental health education. Adults are eager to understand, and children are more eager to understand. Many successful educational cases tell us that there is no education without understanding. Only by getting to know our students through various channels can we achieve the goal of successful education.
As a teacher and psychological counselor, it is difficult for him to work smoothly if he doesn't understand children's psychological feelings and get along with them sincerely. With the constant change and development of society, people's psychology is also changing. Social factors and family education have brought some difficulties to our education. Only by actively exploring, adapting to new situations and facing new problems can we constantly discover the latest trends of children and embark on a road of keeping pace with the times and not falling behind.
The modern education view holds that teachers should not be the masters of education and should not have the concept that authority is inviolable. Command and compulsory education is actually a soft knife, which not only denies students' rights and dignity, but also leads to students' psychological obstacles and stifles their creativity. Put down your airs, strive to create a relaxed and harmonious atmosphere, communicate with students as friends, and exchange sincerity for sincerity, so that students can truly feel that you are his friend, and then you can go deep into their inner world and let them accept your kind opinions and suggestions from the heart.
3. Dedicate sincere love and promote emotional internalization.
The basis of psychological blending between teachers and students is emotional friendship and love. Teachers should pay attention to those students who have various shortcomings, and pay more attention to students with psychological obstacles. Because these students are often depressed, unbalanced, withdrawn and psychologically fragile for one reason or another. When students encounter things that are not satisfactory, they will have bad emotions and have a certain impact on their study and life. How to minimize this negative impact? I think teachers should have a deep understanding of students, be good at communicating with students, have heart-to-heart talks, then enlighten students, listen to their inner feelings, perceive their inner world, care for and care for every student with teachers' sincere love, so that students can have their hearts pinned, their emotions confided and their spirits relied on. When students need care and help, teachers should lend them a helping hand in time, so as to inspire their young hearts, make them believe that they can do it, and gradually develop good psychological quality.
The above is my experience in learning mental health education. In the future work, I will continue to explore new methods of mental health education for primary school students, effectively promoting their mental health and promoting their all-round development.
Experience of Children's Mental Health Education (3)
2 1 century is a century full of competition. Dare to take risks, dare to explore, be good at competition, be good at cooperation and be creative are the basic requirements for talent specifications in 2 1 century. All these qualities are closely related to good psychological quality. Quality education requires students to develop morally, intellectually and physically. The development of students' quality is multifaceted, and psychological quality is not only an important part, but also a great constraint on the development of other qualities. It is both the starting point and the destination of quality education. In the article Rethinking about Quality Education, Comrade Bin Liu talked about three elements of quality education. He pointed out: "The second essence of quality education is the all-round development of morality, intelligence, physique and beauty, and the other is psychological quality and the ability to withstand setbacks. It is very important to look at social problems with what kind of mentality. " Whether a student's mental state is normal and healthy, and whether he understands and handles family relations, classmates' relations and learning problems correctly will often affect a student's learning attitude, which is an important issue related to whether a student can become a healthy person. Therefore, mental health is the premise and foundation of developing good psychological quality. On the contrary, with good psychological quality, people's mental health level will also be improved.
First of all, mental health education is the goal and core of implementing quality education.
First of all, mental health education is closely related to moral education.
Mental health education is that educators use psychological knowledge to help students correctly understand themselves and the world, adapt to society and give full play to their potential. Moral education is an activity that educators exert influence on students purposefully and systematically according to the requirements of a certain society, and cultivate students' ideological consciousness and moral quality. Both of them are educating people, and each can play a unique role, learn from each other and promote each other in the unified educational activities. Psychological education has a certain influence on moral education. Psychological education appropriately expands and perfects the goals and contents of moral education; Psychological education provides new methods and techniques for improving the effectiveness of morality; Most importantly, mental health education is conducive to updating educators' views on education and students, and has a positive impact on the whole education.
Secondly, mental health education can promote the improvement of students' cultural and scientific quality.
A study of 475 senior high school students shows that academic performance does not depend entirely on intelligence factors, and the differences among top students (whose grades are higher than IQ expectations), average students (whose grades are equal to IQ expectations) and poor students (whose grades are lower than IQ expectations) are related to personality characteristics. Excellent students have good work habits, are interested in learning, finish their homework on time, care about their academic performance, be serious and responsible and have a plan. Low achievers are self-disciplined, self-regulated, impulsive, playful, greedy for near profits, poor relations with peers, uncooperative, selfish, disrespectful of authority and tradition, not good at socializing, unhappy at school and at home, often defending themselves, resenting others, being at a loss and pessimistic about setbacks and pressures. It's normal for ordinary groups to go up and down. It can be seen that cultivating positive emotional quality, good will quality and personality characteristics can promote the improvement of scientific and cultural quality.
Third, mental health education can promote the development of physical health and physical quality.
Mental health and good psychological quality lie in a healthy body; The development of physical health and physical quality also depends on good psychological education. Psychological research shows that teenagers pay special attention to self-concept or self-consciousness, including their own image observation, concepts and opinions, their own appearance, physical strength, motor function, etc., and often compare their own image with ideal standards or peers. Comparison results, satisfaction or inferiority, if not treated correctly, will also have a negative impact on physical development. The above shows that a healthy mentality is a psychological condition for good health. Maintaining psychological health and improving psychological quality through psychological education is an important measure to provide this psychological condition.
Not only that, good psychological quality is also of great significance to the development of physical fitness and the full play of physical fitness. Whether it is the elements of physical beauty such as modeling beauty and vitality beauty, or the physical qualities such as strength, speed, endurance and agility. The development of these qualities requires corresponding psychological conditions. For example, extroverts are suitable for strong and fast activities, while introverts have strong motivation to accomplish their goals and are suitable for precise tasks. At the same time, you can develop your physical potential through the improvement of motor skills. Motor skills are acquired abilities, which are manifested in quick, accurate, fluent and skilled body movements. Motor skills contain arbitrary elements and are related to intellectual skills. Motor skills are psychogenic skills. It is neither an unconscious, reflex action, nor a simple muscle reaction like shaking your head. It is controlled by internal psychological process. Therefore, improving sports skills and giving full play to people's physical potential must rely on the cultivation of good psychological quality.
Finally, improving psychological quality through mental health education is the basis and condition for forming aesthetic quality.
As Suhomlinski said, without psychological cultivation, aesthetic cultivation is unimaginable. In addition, many excellent psychological qualities are not only the expression of inner beauty, but also the conditions for the formation and development of aesthetic quality. For example, a person can correctly understand the reality, treat problems objectively, comprehensively and fairly, face reality correctly, love study and work, give full play to his intelligence, have self-knowledge, correctly evaluate himself and behave appropriately, which are all manifestations of rational beauty. Another example is compassion, sincerity, integrity, justice, not afraid of violence, cheerful, diligent, careful, creative, supercilious, strict with self-discipline, self-confidence, modesty, self-esteem, etc. These are all manifestations of personality beauty. These excellent psychological qualities cultivated through mental health education are not only a part of spiritual beauty, but also a condition for the formation and development of aesthetic quality.
In a word, mental health education is an arduous and great project, a dynamic new topic and the core of implementing quality education.