(1) Advocate like-minded love.
In the choice of lovers, the most important conditions should be like-minded, ideological and moral, career ideal and life situation.
Interest and the like are roughly the same. It should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, obligation, career and * *.
Generally speaking, the development of heterosexual feelings is along the line of acquaintance-friend-good friend-confidant-lover.
Suo developed that love is possible when a man becomes an irreplaceable role in a girl's heart.
Arrive. In the process of sharing weal and woe and growing together, love will come into being and develop.
(2) Correcting the relationship between love and career.
College students should put their career first, straighten the relationship between love and career, and don't spend all their precious time on it.
I relaxed my study by falling in love. Because learning is the main pillar of college students' values. When women's universities put love
As the only time in life, love is a flower in a greenhouse, but delicate and charming can't stand any blow.
When love becomes a woman's only existence value, she will lose her independence and charm, and it is easy.
Lose the reason to be loved.
(3) Knowing that love is a kind of mutual understanding, mutual trust, responsibility and dedication.
Understanding each other is to create a relaxed and happy atmosphere for individuals and each other. No one pursues love just for the sake of.
Be bound; Mutual trust is a sign of self-confidence. You don't want to trust someone who is worthy of love. Others will.
Love him wholeheartedly? Responsibility and dedication mean personal moral cultivation, which is the basis of obtaining lofty love.
Foundation.
2. Develop healthy love behavior.
(1) Love words should be elegant and beautiful. Talk sincerely, frankly and naturally, and don't show yourself.
Self-affectation and affectation; Don't be rude, abusive or rude; Get to know each other, don't.
Interrogating each other endlessly will hurt their self-esteem. Otherwise, it will only disgust them and hurt their feelings.
(2) Love behavior should be generous. Generally speaking, when men and women fall in love for the first time, they often feel shy at first.
Tension will gradually become natural and generous with the increase of communication. Pay attention to the behavior in this period. some
People are impulsive and make intimate moves too early, which makes the other person disgusted and affects the normal development of feelings.
(3) Intimate movements should be elegant and avoid vulgarization. Elegant intimate movements bring into play the pleasure and psychology of love.
Effect, and vulgar intimate actions often cause negative psychological effects of emotional separation, which is not conducive to the purity of love and
Dignity is not only detrimental to the image of college students, but also a bad psychological stimulus to others.
(4) Treat each other as equals and respect each other. Don't compare each other's shortcomings with your own advantages.
Tease and belittle each other in order to show off and raise themselves. It is also inappropriate to try to test each other or put on airs, both of which are
It may hurt each other's self-esteem and affect their feelings.
(5) Be good at controlling emotions and acting rationally. On the one hand, we should pay attention to restraining and regulating the sexual impulse caused by love.
On the other hand, we should pay attention to transfer and sublimation, participate in various recreational activities and talk more about study and work with our loved ones.
Limit love behavior within social norms, not deviate, and let love develop along a healthy road.
3. Cultivate the ability and responsibility of love.
(1) The ability to meet love. Including the ability to give love and the ability to receive love. There is love in one's heart.
After rational analysis, it is a kind of love ability to dare to express and be good at expressing. A person without love is
Selfish person. In the face of others' love, one can make a timely and accurate judgment of love and make a response.
The choice of acceptance, rejection or re-observation is also a kind of love ability. Those who lack this ability, still rush.
Things are still uncertain. If college students want to have the ability to meet love, they must know what love is and have healthy love.
Love values, know what you like, need and suit. You have to deal with yourself, others and everything.
If you are sensitive and enthusiastic, you should take the initiative to care and love others. When others express their love to you, they can be timely and accurate.
Carefully judge the information of love and make a choice calmly. Can withstand the rejection of courtship or the rejection of courtship.
The reason for the interruption.
(2) the ability to refuse love. Love that you don't want or deserve should have the courage to refuse. Refuse to love
Pay attention to two aspects: First, when unwanted love comes, say "no" decisively and bravely, because
You can't force and make do for love. If you can't make up your mind or give in to the other party's hard pursuit, go ahead.
Not good for both sides. Second, we should master the appropriate ways to refuse, although everyone has the right to refuse love.
But cherishing every sincere feeling is a kind of respect for others, a kind of self-cherish, and also a kind of morality.
A test of affection. Regardless of feelings, the handling method is simple and rash, and even harsh words are added, which leads to the feelings of the other party and
Self-esteem is hurt, which is very inappropriate.
(3) Develop the ability of love and cultivate the responsibility of love. Makarenko, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, said, "The power of love.
Quantity can only exist in human non-love literacy. The wider the scope of his non-love, the more his * *.
The more noble. "The ability to develop love is not necessarily aimed at a certain opposite sex, but can be more extensive.
Love in the sense. Our relatives, classmates, friends, motherland and people all deserve our love. Develop love
Ability is to cultivate the character of selfless dedication and the ability to deal with contradictions effectively.
Only by resolving and eliminating contradictions and disputes in love and family life and being responsible for the lover and society can happiness be created.
A happy marriage.
4. Improve the endurance of love setbacks.
College students' love is restricted by many factors, so they encounter various twists and turns in the process of pursuing love.
Inevitable. The psychological setbacks in love, such as unrequited love, love illusion and lovelorn love, have great influence on college students' hearts.
Tolerance is a test. If you have a strong endurance, you can better cope with setbacks, otherwise you can do nothing.
It will have bad consequences.