To properly handle the problem of puppy love, we can deal with it from the following aspects: (1) rational victory.
We should clearly realize the harm of puppy love and overcome this immature feeling with reason. The most direct harm of puppy love is that it seriously interferes with learning. Because you think about the opposite sex you like all day and all night, it will make you have no mind to study and it is difficult to concentrate in class. Because you don't listen carefully, your academic performance will get worse and worse.
Some people say that the attraction of career, the drive of love and the reaction of discrimination and oppression are the three major driving forces of life. Therefore, if puppy love is handled well, it can produce "synergy". Relevant statistics show that most of those who had intimate relationships in middle school neglected their studies and failed in love, and some even changed from "deep love" to "deep hatred".
On the contrary, most teenagers who bury their love in their hearts and concentrate on their studies not only have a successful career, but also get the favor of heaven. Therefore, teenagers should take a long-term view and overcome their feelings with reason. The essence of perseverance is to conquer oneself. If you can beat yourself, you will get rid of puppy love.
(2) Mental health
Pay attention to mental health, don't watch inappropriate newspapers, magazines and film programs, focus on learning, read more biographies of great men, cultivate your willpower and set lofty goals.
Some teenagers are in puppy love or unrequited love, and like to exaggerate their position in each other's minds, thinking that their words and deeds are related to themselves and even influenced by themselves. The other party's performance dropped and was criticized by the teacher, thinking that it was because of himself, so I felt sorry for the other party; The other person has been depressed or lost weight recently, thinking that this is because the other person misses himself, so he is very moved. This kind of psychology of teenagers is actually a kind of "self-love".
(3) Normal communication
Every adolescent boy and girl, with the gradual maturity of physiology, will begin to pay attention to the opposite sex students, hoping to get to know them and communicate with them. This is a normal psychological phenomenon.
Teenagers' attachment to the opposite sex is not what some parents and teachers think, but a shameful thing. This has little to do with moral quality. Most teenagers have had puppy love or unrequited love with the opposite sex they like very much. The key is how teenagers correctly handle the relationship between puppy love and normal communication between boys and girls. Don't be overly sensitive, don't think that the opposite sex is in love with you, and don't always show love to others.
(4) Participate in activities
Take part in more group activities, distract yourself from liking the opposite sex alone, and don't associate with the opposite sex alone. By participating in meaningful group activities, you can cultivate your own sentiment, set up lofty ideals, and get help and friendship from your classmates. At the same time, doing so can distract your attention from puppy love and relieve your troubles.
There is no puppy love now, maybe there will be soon. Therefore, we should try our best to avoid interacting with students of the opposite sex alone, because the love fire of teenagers will be ignited by the opposite sex at any time due to physiological and psychological factors, even if it is difficult to put it out.
Learn to get along with the opposite sex naturally and generously. Don't let yourself fall in love. Sometimes it's not true love when two people get along. Teenagers should try their best to complement each other's advantages, learn from each other, help each other and protect each other in the process of interacting with the opposite sex. This can avoid falling into the wrong path of puppy love, and it will also be more conducive to the healthy development of teenagers' body and mind.