The first paper on family education: Family education and kindergarten education complement each other.
Family education refers to the education and guidance that parents give their children in a family's daily life, including the influence of parents' personal habits on their children. In other words, family education is the teaching and demonstration that parents consciously give to students through their own words and actions. Family education is an important part in the field of education and the premise and foundation of campus education and social education. Therefore, early childhood education needs family education to promote the smooth development of early childhood education. At present, many parents, teachers and even children themselves have similar questions about family education. Everyone hopes to find the most suitable learning materials and educational methods, cultivate children's study and living habits, let children learn actively, grow up healthily and happily, and improve their comprehensive quality. However, a child is a child after all, just like a small sapling. Without correct guidance and training, it is easy to stagger and become a useful person. Every child will always have some shortcomings in personality and behavior, and occasionally make some small mistakes, which will really have a certain negative impact on his study and life. In fact, there are many ways to educate children. You need to carefully consider and choose appropriate methods, teaching materials and suggestions, and you can also choose to watch home-school video programs that suit you, so as to be effective and effective.
First, do a good job in the basic role of family education in preschool education.
Family education is an important part of collective education and social education. Among these three education systems, family education is an irreplaceable part of other education systems. Because family is the cell of society and the first environment for people to live. In this environment, the first relatives that children see when they open their eyes are their parents. Parents provide the most basic life and survival guarantee for their children, so the children give their first trust to their parents, that is, they give their lives to their parents. Chinese medicine embodies humanistic care in children's social education. The key is that educators should really understand the connotation of social behavior, that is, starting from children's affection, they should integrate humanistic ideas such as care, sympathy, equality, respect, justice and difference into educators' behavior patterns, so that children can be influenced and infected by humanities, thus developing the mind of humanistic care. Dewey said? The main feature of children's world is not the truth in the sense of conforming to external things, but sympathy. ? In other words, children are full of sympathy and care, but the problem is that we can't throw them away in education. Therefore, we should attach importance to the basic role of family education in early childhood education. In daily family education, parents should use their proper words and deeds to infect young children. As the saying goes, all the people who are close to Zhu Zhechi are black, so that young children can subtly acquire the basic character.
Second, in the implementation of preschool education, family education should play an extended role.
It can be said that family education not only has the preparation function of early childhood education, but also has the extension function of early childhood education, which is mainly reflected in the following four points: ① Intelligent development. Parents who want to cultivate a smart child will naturally attach importance to the development of children's intelligence, mainly including the cultivation and development of language, thinking, memory, imagination, creativity and motor skills of children aged 3-6. ② Health education. Parents who want to cultivate a healthy child will naturally not neglect health education for their children, which mainly includes education for children aged 3-6, such as nutritious diet, environmentally friendly clothes, games and fitness, regular work and rest, and mental health. ③ Moral education. If parents want to cultivate a noble child, they should naturally attach importance to the cultivation of children's moral character, which mainly includes the cultivation of learning quality, social etiquette, public morality and behavior habits of children aged 3-6. 4 artistic accomplishment. If parents want to cultivate a gifted child, they should naturally attach importance to their children's artistic training, including the cultivation of artistic talents such as music, painting, dance, handicrafts, instrumental music and chess for children aged 3-6. Of course, it is necessary to help children choose the appropriate artistic expertise according to their talents and hobbies. Parents are children's first teachers, which is of far-reaching significance to their healthy growth.
Third, do a good job in the supplementary role of family education in early childhood education.
There are many things that children can't learn in kindergarten. Therefore, at this point, family education plays a supplementary role in preschool education. So how should family education play a complementary role?
1. Do a good job in cultivating children's character
Family education is a conscious action, but sometimes, people's instinctive vicious behavior will often be exposed and reflected unconsciously, which will often have a certain impact on children's three views. Therefore, at this time, family education should pay attention to showing the good side to children and hiding the bad side, such as the quarrel between parents, which should not be shown to children, thus showing the importance of a harmonious and friendly family atmosphere.
2. Cultivate children's basic life skills
Early childhood education often lacks life skills, and family education can meet this. For example, in daily life, it is necessary to cultivate students' basic living habits, such as going to bed early and getting up early, brushing your teeth and washing your face, and eating as much as possible when having a big meal, so as to cultivate students' good life routine in daily life and make a good supplement for early childhood education, so as to carry out early childhood education smoothly.
Fourth, summary.
? Parents are children's first teachers? There is nothing wrong with this sentence. The quality of a family education environment will directly affect the formation of a child's normal three views. Therefore, while doing a good job in early childhood education, we should not ignore the influence of family education on children's habits, so as to complement each other in daily education.
Author: Xiao Unit: Nankang District Kindergarten, Ganzhou City
References:
[1] Mu Yanqing. How does family education supplement kindergarten education [J]. Contemporary preschool education, 20 10(3):37-40
[2] Sun Taiying. On the Complementarity of Kindergarten Education and Family Education [J]. New Curriculum: Late, 2013 (11): 21-21
The second part of the family education thesis: the development strategy of family education
Children are the bond of the family, and it is every parent's good wish to expect their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. However, contrary to expectations, many families have formed a wrong outlook on life, world outlook and values due to improper parental education methods, and two generations have blamed each other, and even families have broken up, resulting in social unrest. From this perspective, children's education is very important, not only related to family harmony and happiness, but also related to the rise and fall of the country and the nation. According to the author's observation, understanding and practical experience for many years, the following suggestions are summarized for discussion.
First of all, parents must match their words with their deeds, so that their children can become honest from an early age.
Parents are children's first teachers, and their words and deeds have a far-reaching impact on children. Therefore, parents must match their words with their deeds. For example, you must buy your child what you promised to buy, and you must buy it on time and on time. Never promise what you can't do, or you will lose your prestige in front of your children. Over time, your children will think that you are lying, cheating and not listening to you. Parents should not only often tell their children the story of "wolf coming", but also let their children understand the dangers of lying, so that they will not lie; We should also learn from ancient Ceng Zi: Ceng Zi's wife wanted to go to the scene and the children clamored to follow. In order to coax the children, the wife lied to let them kill pigs for them. Hearing this, the children stopped clamoring to leave. When my wife came back from the field, she saw Ceng Zi killing pigs. She quickly stopped it, saying that killing pigs was a child's trick. How can you be serious? However, Ceng Zi believes that children can't be deceived, and they should do whatever they say. Parents are trustworthy, and children will be honest.
Second, parents should choose a good partner for their children and let them have a good growth environment.
What children fear most is loneliness and no friends. What is the biggest punishment among children? I'm not playing with you? . Children like small partners, but parents must choose good partners for their children. Keep children away from those who lack discipline, have bad ideas and morals, and behave badly. As the saying goes? Near Zhu Zhechi, near Mexico. Is it black? Associating with people with bad conduct has a great influence on children. In the story of the three major movements in ancient Meng Mu, Mencius can become a saint whose knowledge and reputation are second only to Confucius, the greatest educator and thinker in ancient China. He moved three times with his mother and chose a neighbor with good conduct.
Third, parents should not be too strict with their children's education, but should be appropriately tolerant.
It is normal for children to make mistakes when they grow up. As parents, we should tolerate children, help them analyze, know where they are wrong, and give them a chance to correct. Some parents are proud of their children and demand a lot from them. They don't allow their children to make any mistakes, from reprimanding to punching and kicking. The result is that children are afraid of being scolded for doing something wrong and dare not tell the truth. Over time, I got into the bad habit of telling lies. The two teachers I know are both respected old teachers in the school. Their family circumstances are very similar. They all have a son of average age, who was taken to study by the teacher. However, the two teachers' methods of educating their children are quite different: one is gentle, the other is calm, and the other is tepid. The child made a mistake and ran into trouble. He did not immediately criticize and investigate the responsibility, but comforted the child first, then helped the child analyze the cause and effect of the matter, and encouraged him to praise if the child made progress next time. Under the influence of his father's words and deeds, children have been doing things steadily since childhood. Another teacher, on the other hand, strives for perfection in everything. When a child makes a mistake, he should immediately carry out severe criticism and education and ask the child to ensure that he will not make mistakes again. If he makes another mistake, the punishment will be more severe. In order to escape the father's scolding, the child had to lie, gradually became dishonest, one to face, one behind his back, and finally ran away from home. Therefore, different family education has created completely different growth trajectories for children.
Fourth, parents should not spoil their children, let them have a sense of right and wrong and learn to be grateful.
As the saying goes, children are their own good. Many parents regard their children as their favorite, fearing that their mouths will be deformed and their hands will fly. They meet all their requirements and cover up all their shortcomings. Over time, children will take it for granted, so they are selfish, ungrateful and don't care about others. The author knows a family, and parents are particularly fond of their children. Units and neighbors can only say that children are good, not bad, otherwise parents will turn against others. As a result, when the children grew up, the two old people were driven out of the house by the children and had nowhere to go. Moreover, several of their children ask their parents for money every day because of drug abuse, and the two old people are scared every day and live a life that is worse than death. This is the result of doting on children. In addition, parents should communicate with schools, teachers and neighbors, keep abreast of their children's performance, and educate their children with schools, families and society. In short, parents must educate and cultivate their children according to their age characteristics, love but not spoil them, give them proper space, educate them to respect the old and love the young, let them learn to be grateful, pay attention to their ideological trends, and let them set up lofty ideals, be good children at home, be good students at school and be good citizens in society. Only in this way can children grow up healthily and become useful people to society.
Author: Peng Hubin Unit: Datian Town Central School, Renhe District, Panzhihua City
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[1] People's Republic of China (PRC) * * * and the Ministry of Education. Compulsory education ideological and moral curriculum standards (20 1 1 version) [S]. Beijing: Beijing Normal University Press, 20 1 1.
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On Family Education Part III: Misunderstandings and Countermeasures in Family Education
? Family education refers to the education and influence exerted by parents and other elders in the family on children and adolescents in daily life. ? It can be seen that family education plays an inestimable role in people's enlightenment, growth and success, and good family education will benefit people for life. At present, parents pay more and more attention to the education of their children, but there are still many misunderstandings in the education process, which seriously affect the development of children's mental health, personality formation, behavior and social adaptability. Therefore, how to correctly implement family education, and then promote the healthy growth of children is imminent.
1 the misunderstanding of current family education
? Although China people have attached great importance to family education now, due to the deep-rooted traditional feudal consciousness in people's minds and the profound influence of closed exam-oriented education, most of the family education in China is still in a simple, spontaneous and random stage, and scientific and systematic family education has not yet been popularized. ? ② The misunderstanding of family education is mainly manifested in the following four aspects:
1. 1 misunderstanding of educational concept
At present, most parents are aware of the importance of family education in children's growth, but in the process of education, most parents' concept of family education is still outdated. Many parents always give their children what they think is the most important, thinking that the best material living conditions for their children are for their children? Love? And ignore what children really think and want. This thought originated from China's traditional thought for thousands of years, and was also influenced by the concept of unfair competition in today's society. Therefore, today's society unconsciously forms an atmosphere. Parents always satisfy all their children's wishes at any cost, wearing the most expensive clothes, eating the best food, buying the best toys, attending the best early education, kindergarten, attending the best training class and so on. When children grow up, they always pay attention to their words and deeds, fearing that their children will fall. Parents always take care of and protect their children as a matter of course and have high hopes for them. They are expected to have super powers and have a happy future after study and graduation. But in fact, it always backfires. Parents are heartbroken and often give everything for their children, but children are increasingly rebellious, truant, puppy love, self-centered, indifferent, pursuing individual freedom and so on. From the perspective of the whole family education, this result is inevitable, because parents always arrange everything for their children, but neglect to cultivate their children to develop good habits such as living, studying and making friends. In daily life, it is difficult for children to make a breakthrough in a short time if they do not pay attention to cultivating their excellent characters such as self-improvement, self-esteem and independent thinking.
The misunderstanding of 1.2' s educational model
? The survey shows that parental rearing patterns have a direct impact on children's psychological quality, living habits, learning behavior and the development of various abilities, and are an important factor affecting their psychological health and life achievements. ? (3) One is over-protection of children. In recent years, most families are only children. Parents are obedient and responsive to their children, and regard meeting all their wishes and requirements as their love for their children, ignoring their responsibilities as educators to respect the elderly and love the young, and to be modest and courteous in family education. Second, excessive interference with children, many parents always impose their unfulfilled wishes on their children, regardless of their own needs and ideas. Although parents give their children life, they have the freedom to choose a suitable lifestyle and ideal goals; The third is to encourage children's revenge, encourage and appreciate children's revenge, which can easily make children ignore their mistakes, and then form selfish, force-loving and other bad qualities.
1.3 Misunderstanding of Educational Content
In this competitive modern society, parents are more worried about the success of their children and their daughters. In addition, most families are only children and have great expectations for their children. Mainly reflected in the unscientific planning of children's education content, parents only make plans for their children based on their own wishes or experience, and do not follow the actual situation of their children; Even some parents are willing to compare and follow suit. When they see what other children are learning, they will also ask their children to learn. They have no respect for their children's wishes and force them to learn things they don't like. As a result, the children's specialties have not been brought into play, and the courses arranged by their parents have not been learned well. Then let the children form rebellious psychology and stifle their enthusiasm and creativity.
1.4 misunderstandings in the educational environment
Some families always cause a series of family conflicts and disputes because of the low quality of educators, low family income and poor living environment. Family members are not harmonious, quarreling constantly, and ignoring children's feelings and opinions. Such a living environment will inevitably affect the formation of children's healthy psychology and sound personality. At the same time, the family cultural atmosphere also greatly affects the growth of children. Many parents are busy running around, thinking that they only need to meet their children's material needs, but they don't pay attention to their psychological needs, their spiritual observation and consideration, and they don't pay attention to the creation of cultural atmosphere in their families. It is conceivable that the healthy growth and improvement of children's psychology and morality will be seriously affected without a good family education environment.
2 Analysis of the reasons for the misunderstanding of family education
In family education, the basic elements of family education practice activities include educators, educatees and educational influencers. The quality and correctness of family education directly affects a person's healthy development.
2. 1 The influence of family education environment
? The famous psychologist Dennis vividly compared the growth of a child to the growth of a tree: the heart is like a root, although invisible, it is very important; The invisible part is related to the height and strength of a tree and the survival and development of a person. He pointed out that the growth period of roots is five to fifteen years, and the trunk and leaves will grow after fifteen years. The important growth period of children's psychological construction is also in the first fifteen years of life. ? It can be seen that the importance of family to the development and growth of children's mental health. Family members are harmonious and democratic, help and love each other, understand and respect each other, and let children live in a good family environment. Learning from an early age will help children develop good habits of treating others and things, and then have excellent qualities such as modesty, courtesy, self-reliance and independence. At present, the rapid development of society is constantly impacting people's lifestyles and habits, and some families are also facing more challenges, and contradictions and conflicts are also emerging one after another.
2.2 the impact of educators' own level
As educators of family education, parents have an important responsibility for the healthy development of children's body and mind. Parents themselves should constantly learn to enrich themselves, be strict and self-disciplined, and set an example for their children. At the same time, create a positive and healthy living and learning atmosphere. If parents are generous and sincere, positive and optimistic, and brave in struggle, their character and quality will unconsciously infect their children in daily life, so that children will form a healthy and optimistic character; On the contrary, if parents' own quality is relatively low, they always complain and complain about injustice regardless of the occasion, and they can't establish a good image of other family members, such as vulgarity and selfishness, which will invisibly form negative psychological hints in the child's growth, and the shadow will be reflected in the child over time.
2.3 The consciousness of the educated is limited.
With the development of the times, the gap between children and parents is gradually widening, and many parents are used to educating their children with old educational methods. In the process of family education, educators often think that the educated are only the main body of education, ignoring that the educated are also independent individuals with subjective initiative. Therefore, parents should constantly learn and communicate, get rid of outdated educational concepts, fully understand their children's advantages and specialties, and plan their children's future according to their hobbies and specialties, instead of blindly asking their children to go their own way. Nowadays, children are very different from their parents in both material conditions and school social environment. An active understanding of modern children's psychological needs and life circles can promote communication with children, thus cultivating children's active and healthy psychological life and learning style.
3 out of the misunderstanding of family education countermeasures
? Nowadays, many studies have proved that children's good personality characteristics, moral quality, behavior habits and attitude towards the world are all formed in their parents' usual exchanges. ? ⑤ Therefore, in family education, it is especially necessary to do the following:
3. 1 Create a positive and harmonious family environment
People's ideological experience always comes from practice and from the environment in which people live. Therefore, a good family atmosphere is beneficial to the health of everyone in the family. In a warm and harmonious family, children can unconsciously learn excellent moral and psychological qualities such as respecting the old and loving the young, modesty and tolerance. Parents should attach importance to the construction of family environment, actively create a harmonious humanistic family environment, not only attach importance to children's theoretical study, but also cultivate their temperament, interests and abilities in many ways. Strengthen communication, understanding and communication between parents and children, and fully satisfy children's sense of belonging, respect and accomplishment. At the same time, parents should conform to the development trend of the times, constantly improve their personal quality, strengthen the concept of lifelong learning, expand and update their knowledge, understand their children's psychological world and new concepts, change traditional educational concepts and methods, and educate their children in a brand-new way. Then create a healthy family culture and education environment and provide a solid guarantee for children's growth.
3.2 Be good at using appreciation education methods
Parents should constantly innovate old educational concepts, see the advantages and highlights of their children and be good at appreciating them. In education, we should not only correct children's mistakes when they make them, but also actively discover the excellent qualities and characteristics of children in real life and constantly cultivate these excellent qualities and hobbies. ? Good boy is praised? Is based on psychological theory. Parents' evaluation of children will affect their self-criticism and development. Therefore, in daily life, after a child has done something worthy of praise, he should be good at discovering and praising his behavior.
3.3 Respect children and learn to empathize.
Parents should understand and respect their children, actively communicate with them, exchange opinions with each other on the premise of understanding, respect their personal ideas, and seize the opportunity to give correct guidance. Instead of forcing children to follow their parents? Design? Understand that children are independent individuals and have the right and freedom to choose. In daily life, parents should spend more time with their children, listen to their voices, interact with their children, learn to put themselves in their shoes and pay attention to their inner feelings and changes. Besides, what should I say when teaching children? Gold content? Let your children accept your opinions and suggestions convincingly, instead of nagging in their ears, which will be counterproductive. It is also necessary to cultivate a child's positive and optimistic mood so that he can still face difficulties in his future growth.
3.4 Observe and learn to judge children's psychological changes.
Parents should always pay attention to the changes of children's psychological state and judge their psychological problems. Children's abnormal psychology is usually mainly manifested in emotion, behavior and psychology. Emotionally, it is mainly manifested as irritability, fear and anxiety. In behavior, there are often abnormal behaviors, which make it difficult to concentrate and withdrawn. Psychologically prone to autism, depression and other diseases. When parents find that their children are abnormal in these three aspects, they should take measures and actions as soon as possible, actively enlighten and guide them reasonably. In severe cases, corresponding psychotherapy methods are adopted to help children get out of their psychological predicament as soon as possible. Realize a healthy and happy life.