I still remember when visitors came to the reception room for nothing. She is wearing a thick coat and a mask, but she doesn't want to take it off. I asked her to sit down. She looked embarrassed, strolled back and forth twice and finally sat down. When asked if he needed help, the tourist said awkwardly, "I don't know if I am sick." I just feel bored and unhappy, and sometimes I cry inexplicably. " Do you think I have psychological problems? "
Later, after more in-depth conversation, I realized that the visitors were emotionally troubled because of family relations and belonged to the category of psychological counseling. The visitor asked again, "Do I have serious psychological problems? Is it depression? "
With the convenience of the Internet in recent years, when people encounter some emotional troubles or life events, they will go online to seek answers. In contrast to some online symptoms such as depression, anxiety and compulsion, I label myself and think that my emotional distress is mental unhealthy and there must be mental illness.
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So what exactly is mental health?
First of all, I want to clarify two points:
First, mental health is not happy every day without troubles, it is a fairy, not a person.
Secondly, mental health is not the so-called positive energy. Positive energy is an adaptive mentality, but pure positive energy does not represent mental health.
Of course, there are thousands of explanations for mental health, and none of them is absolutely correct. The definition I want to give here is:
Mental health is to have a "flexible" psychological ability, which can help you live a more real and complete life.
Generally speaking, people with mental health can be kind to themselves, others, adapt to the environment and have a normal mood. Mentally healthy people are not without pains and troubles, but they can get rid of them in time and actively seek new ways to change the unfavorable situation.
They can deeply understand the seriousness and inevitability of life conflict, and also deeply observe the yin and yang, good and evil of human nature. They are those who can freely and moderately express and display their individuality and live in harmony with the environment. They are good at continuous learning, making use of various resources and constantly enriching themselves. They will also enjoy a beautiful life and know the truth of contentment. They don't delve into dead ends, but are good at looking at problems from different angles.
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Many times, our troubles and dissatisfaction come from comparison.
Seeing that others are healthy and happy, we always have many tangled problems. This wave of unresolved negative emotions makes us anxious and makes us doubt our mental health level.
The fact is, there has never been anyone in this world whose inner sky is always cloudless in Wan Li. If someone tells you repeatedly that he doesn't have any mental health problems, there may be two situations. The first one may be an idiot, and the second one is more likely to be a megalomaniac who is already terminally ill. Of course, there is another situation. He has realized that he has become a Buddha. However, if you really meet the Buddha, the Buddha will not bring you anxiety and doubt about yourself. You will settle down in front of the Buddha and explore the power and light. It seems that you haven't met the Buddha, and the Buddha can't cure you.
Everyone has their own psychological problems, because mental health depends not only on the individual's own psychological condition, but also on the relationship between this person and the surrounding environment. If you can actively adapt to the environment, fully understand your own personality characteristics, and engage in some constructive and social work that suits your own personality characteristics, you can get happiness and happiness from it.
A person with insecurity in his heart may try his best to increase his sense of security.
For example, he may study hard and become a bacteriologist. When he studies bacteria, he will cultivate and observe bacteria for thousands of times in front of a microscope like obsessive-compulsive disorder, and track and record the reproduction and variation of bacteria until he successfully solves the destructive reproduction problem of a certain bacteria.
He may also make a lot of money and become a rich man. He may also seize power and become a very high-level manager.
These people, who live and work with their psychological problems, can also survive and be happy in society. So some successful people have made great achievements in some aspects, and we can say that they are "mentally healthy".
In fact, it can also be said that behind their success, they may be psychologically unhealthy, and their personal success often benefits from their psychological "unhealthy".
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Ten standards of mental health put forward by American psychologists Maslow and Miethman are recognized as "the most classic standards":
1, full of security
A sense of security is one of people's basic needs. If you live in constant fear, people will soon get old. Depression, anxiety and other psychology will cause digestive system dysfunction, and even lead to pathological changes.
2, fully understand yourself
Make an appropriate judgment about your ability. If you force yourself to do work beyond your ability, you will be unable to do it, which will be very harmful to your body and mind. Because of overwork, it will even bring trouble to health.
3. Realistic life goals.
If you set your life goals too high, you will inevitably feel frustrated, which is not conducive to physical and mental health.
4. Keep in touch with the external environment
Because people's spiritual needs are diverse, contact with the outside world can enrich their spiritual life on the one hand, and adjust their behavior in time on the other hand in order to better adapt to the environment.
5. Maintain the integrity and harmony of personality.
The ability, interest, personality, temperament and other psychological characteristics of personality must be harmonious and unified in order to get the greatest play.
6. Have a certain learning ability.
Knowledge in modern society is updated rapidly. In order to adapt to the new situation, we must constantly learn new things, make our life and work handy, take fewer detours and achieve more success.
7. Maintain good interpersonal relationships.
There are both positive and negative relationships in interpersonal relationships, and the coordination of interpersonal relationships has a great influence on people's mental health.
8. Be able to express and control your emotions appropriately.
People's emotional experience of emotions is different. Unpleasant emotions must be released to achieve psychological balance. But you can't vent too much, otherwise it will not only affect your life, but also aggravate interpersonal conflicts, which is not good for your physical and mental health.
9. Give full play to your talents and hobbies.
People's talents and hobbies should be brought into full play, but they should not hinder the interests of others and harm the interests of the group. Otherwise, it will cause interpersonal disputes and increase troubles, which is not conducive to physical and mental health.
10, to meet the basic needs of individuals
Under the premise of not violating social ethics, the basic needs of individuals should be met to a certain extent. Of course, it must be legal, otherwise it will be condemned by conscience, and the pressure of public opinion and even legal sanctions will naturally lead to no mental health.
Professor Li's words about the standard of mental health are still ringing in my ears.
Teacher Li said that what we should learn to deal with in life is the relationship with ourselves, society and environment.
If these three relationships are properly handled, a healthy person can face and handle inner conflicts and live in harmony with society and the environment.
Understanding what mental health is is of great significance for enhancing and maintaining the overall health level of individuals. People have mastered people's health standards and made self-diagnosis of mental health on this basis.
If you find that one or several aspects of your psychological condition are far from the mental health standard, you should adjust your psychology in a targeted way to reach the level of mental health.
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