One of the four unhealthy psychology:
First, seek failure and narcissism.
Some people feel depressed after experiencing the low tide of life. Even if there is a great opportunity before him, he will be afraid, because at this time he has lost his mind and dare not imagine success. On the other hand, narcissists are often the opposite. They have reached the point of arrogance, almost ignoring the people in front of them, and feelings are the most important. Such a person will only make more people hate him, stay away from him and eventually fail.
Second, naive ideas.
Because of too little social experience, people often make decisions and expected goals that are not commensurate with their abilities, and the result will naturally end in failure. After failure, they may fall into a negative thinking, lose communication with people around them, and become more naive and closed. There is the same mentality, in order to win the attention of others, I volunteered to play the clown, even if I ruined my image. The consequence of this mentality is that I will not be recognized by others, and it will also deal a blow to my work and career.
Third, revenge caused by inferiority complex.
Many people often fall into inferiority complex because of their birth or temporary lack of ability. If they are not recognized by others for a long time, they will become afraid to compete with others. Successive failures will make them hostile to their opponents and even do many outrageous things to get back at them. If you get into this situation, it will only make your anger stronger. In the end, you can't dissipate, and you will be burned alive.
Fourth, paranoia and deception.
Sometimes you will find that your friends around you have changed and you don't know him. It is not that you have changed, but that he has changed. Sometimes pretending nothing happened in front of you, you will often speak ill of you behind your back, and even wonder if what you have done is aimed at him. After a long time, it may even involve framing you. But he doesn't have a good life either, because colleagues and friends will stay away from him. What you cheated was a lie. If you cheat once, maybe you won't cheat again. After a long time, your friends will start to get tired of you.
These are four kinds of unhealthy psychology. Everyone's psychology has great potential. By accumulating one's own psychological energy through psychological adjustment, one can exert one's ability beyond the level, thus better transforming the external environment, gaining more external resources and achieving one's career and life.
Four kinds of unhealthy psychology II:
Indulgence psychology
Indulgent candidates account for a considerable proportion in the group of candidates. They think that the end of the college entrance examination means the end of the bitter days, and they should treat themselves well to make up for so many years of hard work, so they play freely.
Chen Guotai graduated from high school last year and is currently studying in a university in Tianhe District. According to his recollection, after he finished the last subject of the college entrance examination last year, he first had a night of partying with his classmates, and then for the next few weeks, he constantly indulged himself: drinking, surfing the Internet, sleeping late, traveling and so on. At that time, he thought that liberation had finally come, and all the desires that had been suppressed for many years should be released. He has no time to care about how he did in the exam, and all the rules of life have been broken.
Some parents are not at ease with these behaviors, but connive at them, which makes this phenomenon worse. Even some candidates have contracted some bad habits, which will seriously lead them astray.
Chen Guotai mentioned that after he entered the university, he couldn't keep up with the intense learning rhythm of the university because of excessive relaxation in the summer vacation. Especially in military training, he suffered a lot because his biological clock was not adjusted well.
Depression psychology
The performance of depressed candidates is that they can't eat well, sleep well, feel depressed, and some are accompanied by compulsive thinking and behavior, and blame themselves. Some people are even difficult to understand because of their sudden personality changes and irritability. When they have an argument with their families, their emotions are on the verge, and in severe cases, they will have suicidal thoughts and even commit suicide.
Ye Zhining, who graduated the year before last, is a typical depressed student. He was so depressed after the exam that he stayed at home all day and didn't go anywhere. His parents went to work, leaving him alone at home. He kept thinking about the scene of the exam, doing the college entrance examination questions over and over again, thinking about the wrong questions, and his sense of loss was out of control.
Later, it turned out that Ye Zhining really didn't play well. His family ran around for him and finally went to the City University of Hong Kong at his own expense. Even if he went to a good school, Ye Zhining was always unhappy. He is always worried that Hong Kong students will look down on him.
Empty psychology
Vacant candidates will be in a vacuum when they suddenly relax from the tense college entrance examination study. For a considerable number of students who are pushed away by their parents and teachers on the way to the college entrance examination, with the release of pressure, they will feel a sense of nothingness and disorientation. Especially after the college entrance examination, parents' requirements for their own life and study have changed, and everyone's expectations are focused on scores. This feeling is more obvious.
Ruan Dandan, who is now studying in a university in Wushan, Tianhe, slept beautifully for a few days after the college entrance examination last year to make up for her long-lost sleep. But after a few days, Danny found himself doing nothing and his heart was empty. Every day, I either sleep or watch TV I'm at a loss, and I often feel at a loss. Without the examination questions, Danny felt that his IQ had dropped to the lowest point and his thinking had become dull. The rich study life in the past has disappeared, but now it seems that I have lost my goal and can't find my own direction. And several of Dandan's classmates have this feeling.
Ruan Dandan brought this kind of psychology to the university. At first, she was very interested in joining every club, but after a day or two, she found that she had no motivation to support her, so she surfed the Internet in the dormitory all day and would be at a loss in the end.
Anxiety psychology
Post-test anxiety is also common, and many candidates will suffer from it after the test, especially those who usually do well in their studies. They often expect high values, but when waiting for the list to be released, they will become anxious because of uncertainty. For those candidates with weak psychological quality, this anxiety will continue to increase. For example, some college entrance examination students will experience anxiety to insomnia and then from insomnia to depression.
Ruan Miaoyu, who took the college entrance examination the year before last, has now entered Sun Yat-sen University. She recalled the time after the college entrance examination and talked with Kan Kan. Difficult? ! First of all, she is full of expectations for her achievements. Generally speaking, she feels that she is playing normally and will be admitted to a good school, but she is worried about what to do if she fails. There is still some time before the results are announced, and she is really not sure. In addition, parents and relatives kept asking about the exam, which made her more anxious and irritable, and even suffered from insomnia at night.
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