Family education experience sharing-I was educated by my parents at first, and now I am educating my daughter. My life experience tells me that family education is no less important to children than school education, and even determines their development direction and affects their lives. Now I will talk about my experience on the issue of family education.
Adults are the target. Learning to be a man is the foundation of children, and children will benefit for life. Educate children to have a healthy psychology and a sound personality, and never let them become knowledgeable, eccentric, indifferent to their parents and indifferent to others and society. We should treat children as independent people, fully respect and understand them, and reason with them no matter how big their mistakes are. I have always adhered to this educational principle for children, so that they can get all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor under the education of school, society and family, and at least become qualified citizens who are beneficial to society and adapt to modern society.
Parents are mirrors. ? Genius? Can't create, but as long as parents seize the opportunity to discover, cultivate and develop their children's talents, and use their own efforts to follow their own life path, children may succeed. Parents are not only natural teachers, but also guardians, partners, friends and role models. Children's words and deeds reflect their parents' ideology. ? It's not easy to be a parent, and it's even harder to be a good parent? . That's true. How to be a good parent, I think, first of all, work hard? Learn to care? . Parents should set an example, care about the society, the country, others, friends and colleagues. Make them respect the old and love the young, be humble and help each other, be tolerant and generous, and be kind to others.
Secondly, we should strengthen our self-cultivation. Parents should adhere to moral education, abide by the law, and consciously demonstrate to their children practical activities to improve moral quality in line with socialist moral principles and norms. Thirdly, we should create a harmonious environment. The educational environment is a thermometer for children's growth. To build a harmonious family and society, the subtle influence of family life atmosphere can not be ignored, and the moral spirit of family elders can not be underestimated. If children live with proper praise and encouragement, they will learn self-esteem and self-confidence. Living in humiliation, he will learn to feel inferior; Living in equality, he will learn justice; Living in quarrels, complaints, preferences and lack of warmth, he will learn to be sophistry, blame, jealousy and indifference. What is this reality? Teaching without words? . Not alarmist.
Children are teachers. Parents should be good at learning their children's strengths. There are many children? Cute shortcomings? It is worth learning from adults. Such as exuberant vitality and good learning attitude; Not conservative, good at accepting new things; Less sophisticated, sincere and straightforward to people and things; Parents should learn from new technologies, new toys and other unknown knowledge and master the ability to play with them as soon as possible. This advantage of children should be fully affirmed, encouraged and praised by parents, and should not be ignored, accused, suppressed or even stifled.
Respect for teachers is the key. Teachers are the main body of the trinity system education of school, society and family, the engineers of human soul, the founders of children's happiness, the comforters and healers of the soul. For me, I have a deep understanding. My child is a single-parent family, and the feelings of respecting teachers and respecting morality are relatively weak, and the academic foundation is not stable enough. However, his teacher has injected a lot of sincere love and tried his best to strengthen school education with a strong sense of responsibility and dedication, so that my children can develop in a more all-round way in morality, intelligence and physical education, and make up for the shortage of our family education. Such a teacher is highly respected by me, my children and society. Gardener? The cultivated flowers will undoubtedly be more colorful.
Family education experience sharing Both parents are children's first teachers. Good family education is of vital significance to children's growth, even determines their development direction and affects their life. Our children are not the best in the class, but also have their own shortcomings. The teacher needs to be strict with her. Here, I want to talk about my own experience in children's growth education.
First,? Here? Children create a good family learning environment.
As the second classroom for children to learn, the family warns parents that their exemplary role is very important. Our parents shouldn't watch TV or play computer while the children are doing their homework. We can do things related to study instead of just accompanying them, and we can also give them appropriate guidance. Some parents even say that we are old and don't need to study. Our task is to work to earn money, and children's task is to study. Is this tone acceptable to children? Definitely not accepted. They will think that everyone should? Never too old to learn? . Secondly, family members should live in harmony and love each other. Family education is different from school education and social education, especially the relationship between parents, which will be taught to children unconsciously. In order to pay attention to the healthy growth of children, let's work together to create a good learning environment for children.
Second,? Insist? Develop good writing and reading habits
Develop in primary school? Reading? Habit is the most important. The habit of reading can not only make children learn easily and actively, but also make them enter a good learning state of loving knowledge, exploring knowledge and pursuing knowledge. As the saying goes:? Reading has broken thousands of volumes, and writing is like a god. ? In order for children to write good compositions, it is necessary to increase reading in and out of class, so that children can read more books and newspapers. For some important classic sentences, children can read aloud and recite them. In this way, children can learn to write from reading, increase their knowledge and enrich their language. Our children have been reciting Tang poems since they were two years old (they participated in 20 poetry reading competitions in kindergarten), and they will not go to bed until they have heard the story. Because of my insistence, I took pains to read to him. After reading for a long time, I can basically read independently after graduating from primary school. As long as there is a book, you can always see him in the corridor at home, on the grass next to the school, and even on the road where cars are coming and going. He began to keep a diary in the first grade of primary school (Mr. Lu encouraged him to write in the first grade, but he insisted on writing habits for two years because of the teacher's promotion and parents' guidance), and he didn't stop slowly until the third grade assigned his composition homework. In order to keep his interest in writing, I agree every time he writes a diary, no matter whether it is good or not. Of course, the composition of senior grades still needs to be revised appropriately. In our spare time on weekends, we will take our children to the library and Xinhua Bookstore to read, buy and borrow books! There are also many educators who suggest listening to Chinese classics more. Maybe there are some things that you deliberately let him remember, and he will find it boring. But when he is playing, play a tape or read it to him. After many times, you can let him recite it, and he will have a memory in his mind. Recommend some classic fairy tale books that my son likes, such as Hip-hop Bunny Playing Composition, Time Boy Mi Xiaoyang, Love Education, Biography of Pipiru, Little Doudou by the window, Grimm's Fairy Tales Collection, Dear Give me a hug, Different Ksenya Goryachova Camilla, Little Prince, Robinson Crusoe, Fables Entomology.
Third,? Okay？ Discover everyone's bright spot and all-round development
The third and fourth grades are middle grades, and the children are beginning to be a little biased. Personally, I think which subject children like has a lot to do with teachers. If a child likes a teacher, he may study this subject and he will work harder. Therefore, as parents, when communicating with children, we should first unite teachers, fully trust teachers, positively evaluate teachers, let children see the bright spots of teachers and appreciate every teacher from the heart. At the same time, every child is a shining star. Parents and friends should learn to discover children's bright spots and encourage them to show them confidently. It's time to study. It's normal to learn badly. If we can, do we still need to study? If he can ask questions, he is thinking, studying hard and being a good boy. Usually encourage, praise and understand children. As the saying goes, a good boy praises others, which is the truth.
Fourth, teaching by example is more important than teaching by words.
Parents' words and deeds have a long-term subtle influence on children, which will penetrate into their subconscious, become a part of their lives and affect their lives. I try to treat my study and life with a positive attitude and bring positive energy to my friends and family. No matter how busy and tired you are at work every day, you should take time to communicate with your children. It is inevitable that children will have emotions when they grow up. When I communicate with my child, I usually write letters, and the child's chatterbox will open, let me know what happened at school one day, share his joys and sorrows, and be his bosom friend.
Family education experience sharing III. Let children firmly establish lofty ideals.
Ideal is a fire, which can ignite the flame of hard work and progress; Ideal is a bright lamp, which can illuminate the course of life struggle. Ideal is our powerful spiritual motivation, and firmly establishing lofty ideals is the fundamental guarantee for middle school students to grow into talents. The ancients said:? If you are determined to win, you can't go far, and Rongshan can't be limited to the sea. Where do you want to go? Can't a sharp soldier keep it? That's the truth. So what lofty ideals should children set up? The growth of many excellent middle school students tells us that one's ideal is more valuable only if it is integrated with the ideal of the whole nation.
Second, let children grow up in a warm and happy environment.
Family environment is very important for children's growth. First of all, parents should care about their children's growth and create a happy environment for their growth. Children from single-parent families and divorced families have been suppressed ideologically since childhood, and their hearts and self-esteem have been hurt to a certain extent, thus affecting their normal development. In order for children to thrive, we must create a happy environment, so that children can feel the warmth of home and be happy with their parents. Some families often break out? War? Children are at a loss in panic, and older children increase their ideological burden, which affects their study and even leads to tragedy. Children are both children and friends, and we should respect them. Only in this way can children's self-esteem and personality be established. At home, we never put any pressure on our children and let them live happily. Parents are children's first teachers, and family is the cradle. Only a happy and warm family environment can cultivate and educate children, so that they can grow sturdily, make continuous progress and achieve gratifying results.
Third, let the children learn to do their own things and set them up from an early age? Suffering? The spirit of
Let children learn to do their own things and set their own settings from an early age? Suffering? Spirit is very important for children's growth. Parents should let their children learn to take care of themselves from an early age, understand the hardships of life, and establish the idea of self-reliance from an early age, not just training? Suffering? Spirit, but also cultivate the ability to live independently and become an independent member of society. In Japan, special attention is paid to raising children? Suffering? Consciously, whether in kindergartens or primary and secondary schools, they all require their children to run in cold weather, so as to cultivate their hard-working spirit and perseverance to overcome difficulties; There is a famous Eton Middle School in England, and almost all students can be admitted to famous universities. One of its experiences is to make students suffer. There is no heating in middle schools. In extremely cold winter, only students are allowed to sleep with blankets and take cold showers. Is this intentional? Bitter his mind, strain his bones and muscles, and starve his body and skin? Let students get tempered; In France, parents never let their children spend money indiscriminately, and even brothers and sisters don't easily borrow money from each other. If they want to use pocket money, they have to work, educate themselves and rely on their parents; In China, children's body and mind are becoming more and more fragile. They often show cowardice, loneliness, willfulness and selfishness, because they don't know what hunger, fatigue, difficulty and poverty are. There are many weak-willed children, which is related to their smooth life. Therefore, the more parents protect and replace, the more dependent and incompetent children are. Diligence is the seed of happiness, laziness is the bane of corruption, and comfort is the biggest enemy of children's growth and the biggest hidden danger buried in their hearts. Therefore, it is necessary to make children's lives more brilliant in adversity and after experiencing storms.
Fourth, extensively cultivate children's hobbies and constantly improve their quality.
The development of society needs high-quality talents. Children are the future and hope of the motherland. Cultivating children should not only pay attention to learning, but also pay attention to their all-round development. My approach is to provide all kinds of conditions to cultivate children's hobbies in an all-round way. Children have participated in some beneficial social practice activities since childhood, and through these studies, they can improve their own quality. I feel that it is definitely impossible for children to study hard in the future. To advocate all-round quality education now is to let children develop morally, intellectually, physically, aesthetically and laboriously. Parents must master this principle when cultivating their children. They must not learn by rote, but must let their children have their own characteristics and specialties. It is reported that China students get together abroad, and students from all over the world are singing and dancing on the stage. All kinds of musical instruments are very good, and they play well. Everyone shook their heads when China students were invited to the stage. You push me and I push you, but none of them can play. Speaking of studying abroad in China is the hardest, but in other aspects, it is far from enough. In order to cultivate children's interest in learning and reading habits, I often take him to the bookstore to buy books. I chose it for him at first, and then he chose it himself. From primary school to now, the home has been filled with dozens of books, from which children have broadened their horizons, enriched their knowledge and improved their quality. In addition, organize outdoor activities regularly, broaden children's horizons, and cultivate children not to keep their children at home all the time, but to take them out often, so that children can move happily in nature and novel environments. There are some places with special commemorative significance that children will remember for life.
Fifth, cultivate children's honest and kind character from an early age.
I often communicate with my children and reason with them from some small things so that they can really understand? Why did Pi Nuo Qi really change from a puppet to a child? . What he needs, I will meet him reasonably, make it clear to him unreasonably, and resolutely not bargain with him, so as not to let him form the habit of spending money indiscriminately. Through every little thing in daily life, cultivate children's good qualities such as pure friendship, mutual help and harmonious coexistence.