The general principle is: strengthen the belief in life, set up lofty ideals and make clear the goal of struggle. Let the spirit rest in peace and enrich life. Be confident and be able to correctly evaluate your abilities, experiences and achievements. I can always keep a positive and optimistic mood and keep my mind in a stable state. If we can do this, then no matter what kind of difficulties and setbacks we encounter, we can make ourselves face it with a correct attitude.
Learn to control your emotions
People who are not good at controlling their emotions always lose something. A person's mood can make his study and career successful, and it can also make his study and career fail. Learning to control your emotions is the wisest choice. Human emotions, like all other psychological processes, are directly regulated by the brain. Smart people use reason to control their emotions. They are the masters of emotions.
Learn to be generous
Only people with measurement will be open-minded and unite more people. People who lack measurement, haggle over every ounce, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, often alone.
Everyone should strengthen their self-cultivation, stand up to criticism and even injustice, self-denial and others. Focus on the overall situation, be generous, and benefit others.
Learn to be rational and control.
Using rational control is to control and adjust one's emotions with a clear mind and high moral cultivation, so that intense emotions can be gradually eased and subsided.
Learn to listen to advice
It is very common for people to change their emotions. All bad emotions are suppressed, which is harmful to health. We should find relatives and close friends in time, pour out their pent-up dissatisfaction and resentment, and listen to their opinions.
Learn to divert attention.
When you are angry, there is a strong focus of excitement in your brain. If you can timely and effectively adjust the focus of this excitement and turn it into a state of inhibition, you can achieve psychological balance. If you are angry, try to control your anger. You can go away and do something else, such as singing, watching movies, taking a walk and playing ball games. And force your attention to shift. "Only when it's calm can we make waves", and solving contradictions calmly can often get satisfactory results.
Strengthen personal cultivation
In the face of stimulation, some people can accept it calmly and deal with it calmly. This is their high level of self-cultivation, which can turn negative factors into positive ones.
In the face of reality, you will encounter distress at any time. Whether to complain, to be emotional, or to be strong depends on a person's cultivation level. "Complaining is too much to prevent heartbroken, and the scenery is often appropriate."
Learn to hint at yourself.
In study, work and life, unexpected things often happen. At this critical moment, when encountering setbacks or failures, tell yourself to "be calm and calm"; "Take a fall and gain wisdom"; In the face of major events, the self-alarm is "modest and prudent, and make new contributions"; This kind of positive self-suggestion is an important means to make oneself change from negative to positive, to be emotionally stable and clear-headed, and to rejoin the battle. It is also an effective way to make people cope with various environments, maintain mental health and improve work and study efficiency.
Learn to eliminate pessimism.
When a loving couple is widowed, the immune system will undergo serious changes and the number of immune cells will drop sharply. Pessimism and disappointment caused by other reasons will also unbalance the central nervous system, lead to endocrine disorders and decline of immune mechanism, and diseases will take advantage of it, such as cancer, cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases and so on.
Make a good psychological transition
When faced with a sharp turning point when returning home from retirement, this transition from the stage to the behind-the-scenes will lead to sudden psychological fluctuations, such as emptiness, loneliness, depression and melancholy. , will lead to serious imbalance and inadaptability, and even develop into morbid psychology. Therefore, in middle age or later middle age (after 45 years old), we should learn our own mental health care and prepare and train for the arrival of old age in advance. For example, people who used to sit in an office for a long time should cultivate hobbies such as walking, sports and traveling. I tend to be introverted, so I should take part in performances and dances as much as possible, make new friends and organize useful parties. , so as to change my personality, change my bad behavior and keep my good habits.
Birth, aging, illness and death are irresistible natural laws. Everyone will retire from the front line of work sooner or later, and the scope of work and life will become smaller. Most people can smoothly enter retirement life, feel happy and have rich and colorful life contents. A considerable number of people will have "retirement syndrome", resulting in psychological fluctuations, emotional instability, emptiness, loneliness, disorientation, depression, lack of rhythm, lack of responsibility, loss of appetite, and even insomnia, headache, cardiovascular diseases and so on.
In order to prevent the above-mentioned "retirement syndrome", in the late middle age, you should have a plan, have a comprehensive consideration of the retirement problems you are facing, and have a plan to complete your work. Don't wait until you announce your retirement to find that your work has been completed in a few years, and you will feel depressed because you give up halfway.
Have a preparation and plan for what to do after retirement and start a new job that you want to do well.
Learn to control your emotions.
When people are old, their physical condition is poor, their adaptability to various emergencies is declining, and their mood changes greatly, which is difficult to control. When they are angry, the excitability of sympathetic nerve is obviously enhanced, and the secretion of adrenal gland suddenly increases, which makes their heart rate accelerate and blood pressure rise, which is prone to cardiovascular and cerebrovascular accidents, often causing the occurrence and aggravation of various diseases and even life-threatening.
Older women should learn to control their emotions, not get angry when things happen, and maintain psychological balance. Don't worry about the past, don't bear any burdens, "see through the past, look down on setbacks, face today's reality, and greet every tomorrow optimistically and positively."
There should also be a psychosomatic health care plan in the later middle age and implement it. You can take part in university for the aged, Tai Ji Chuan, Qigong class, fishing, raising birds, planting flowers and other activities. These activities can make the spirit of middle-aged and elderly people have sustenance, make the middle-aged and elderly people spend it psychologically smoothly, and help to prolong life.
Shaping a sound personality and enhancing adaptability
People have stepped into this era of high modernization, rapid social change and more and more information, and the pressure from all sides is increasing. They have to cope with the fast-changing rhythm every day, such as intense work and study, frequent interpersonal communication and accelerated pace of life. In addition, towering buildings, transportation networks extending in all directions, crowded and complicated urban noise, environmental pollution and other internal and external environments are all coming at once, which is easy to cause bad emotions and promote psychosomatic diseases. People often consciously or unconsciously feel small, lonely, indifferent, empty and inferior. If you encounter setbacks or unfortunate events again, you will inevitably have excessive psychological pressure, which will make you physically and mentally exhausted, easily lose confidence and even have a mental breakdown.
Shaping a sound personality can ensure mental health, be good at self-regulation and improve mental state. Help overcome adversity and difficulties.
One's life can't be smooth sailing. As long as he has a sound personality, resilience to overcome adversity and the spirit of exploration, he will certainly reach the other side of success. Even if those who live a mediocre life are not eliminated by the tide of the times, they will hit a wall everywhere and accomplish nothing. Only people with mental health and sound personality can see the light and hope in the hardships and hardships, and can advance in the baptism of life storm.
Shaping a sound personality and maintaining a healthy psychology requires long-term exercise and training, and even requires quite hard training.