Adolescent education experience (1)
Youth is the most brilliant, beautiful and precious time in life. It is like a sunrise and a flower, which makes people yearn for and praise. However, adolescence is a thoughtful period and a changeable season. People at this stage are often impetuous, and are prone to mixed joys and sorrows. How to face some sudden storms?
First, face up to psychological problems and shape students' sound personality.
Sound personality is an essential quality for students to go to society, and the shaping of sound personality must follow the law of students' physical and mental development. Senior high school students are in the awakening and development period of "self-consciousness" and "independent consciousness". When they grow up, there are still many immature places, and they must rely on the guidance and help of teachers. It is necessary to change "external plastic" into "internal plastic", master students' hobbies, enrich students' lives, and make students full of confidence in their study and future. Teach students to learn self-evaluation, self-regulation and self-control from the aspects of modern consciousness, self-cognition, basic moral norms and codes of conduct, so as to form their own relatively stable personality characteristics and achieve the goal of constantly improving personality shaping.
Second, give psychological guidance to adolescent students and teach them the methods of psychological adjustment.
High school students entering adolescence, with the maturity of physical development, will inevitably have curiosity about the opposite sex and look for love. They are inexperienced in life, impulsive, lack of self-control, and easily fall into the quagmire of puppy love. In order to guide students to correctly understand the harm of puppy love and successfully spend adolescence, psychological counseling is needed for students. Chatting is one of the effective ways to deal with students' psychological emotions. If teachers can skillfully grasp the opportunity, take the knowledge of adolescence and sexual psychology as the guide, and analyze it layer by layer, it will go deep into students' hearts and enlighten them. In addition, there are sensitive and important issues such as "xx phenomenon" such as "super girl" and "pursuing high consumption" such as wearing clothes. If teachers can use relevant psychological knowledge for educational guidance, their persuasiveness is far better than empty preaching.
Our school has brought adolescent education into the scope of students' ideological and moral education, and regularly provides adolescent education to students, including modern youth outlook, adolescent physiological and psychological knowledge, watching adolescent knowledge videos, questionnaire design, distribution and analysis. With what kind of outlook on life as the theme, organize students to discuss and discuss in various forms, guide students to draw a clear line between pure friendship, sincere love and puppy love, recognize the scientific outlook on life, set up lofty ideals and aspirations, educate students to cherish the good times of adolescence, concentrate on their studies, let students know themselves, and achieve self-love, self-respect, self-respect and self-improvement, with certain self-control ability.
Third, build an overpass to pour out one's feelings and carry out psychological consultation.
People's psychological activities have their hidden side, and students hope to solve some hidden psychological problems through counseling, especially individual counseling. In order to eliminate students' prejudice and misunderstanding about mental illness, such as mystery, fear and shame, we always adhere to the principle of confidentiality in consulting work, starting with prevention. Teachers use the opportunity of individual talk and individual education to guide some students with psychological problems and obstacles according to the actual situation of students, and strengthen individual education for students. For example, students who are introverted and unsociable can combine relevant social psychology knowledge to carry out social communication and social adaptation education; For those so-called "hopeless" students, guide them to exercise their will quality; For students with poor academic performance, we should not only educate them for the purpose of learning, but also teach them scientific methods of observation, memory and thinking, so that they can improve their learning methods and make greater progress; Students' emotional, personality and interpersonal defects caused by mental health problems should be eliminated in various ways to avoid unnecessary harm and consequences. When conducting individual education and psychological counseling, the tone should be mild, the attitude should be sincere, and the appropriate place should be chosen for conversation. This will help students better adapt to society and know themselves, improve themselves, and promote students' self-awareness of self-psychological health care and self-psychological support system.
Fourth, establish new health files and psychological files.
After freshmen enter the school, the school conducts physical examination for students every year, and establishes a health card for each student to understand and master the physical development of students. Physical education class regularly tests students' health. The school has formulated the standard grading standard of the exercises between classes, designed the list of the exercises between classes, and assessed the quality of the exercises between classes from three aspects: fast, quiet and tidy. In this way, the quality of recess exercise is improved, and students who are growing and developing in adolescence get exercise, which is more conducive to their health.
Teachers can use observation, experiment, scale measurement and other methods to understand and master the characteristics and level of each student's psychological development and establish each student's psychological file. For example, students' psychological characteristics such as intelligence development level, personality characteristics and temperament types can be measured by psychological scale; We can also understand the psychological development of students' psychological process, emotional will, self-awareness and social communication ability through observation and experiment. You can also understand the typical psychology of students through their manners, notes, articles and behavior. Then teachers can establish psychological files in the form of cards for future management, education and teaching activities.
Through the above work, we can better understand the psychological and physiological state of students. It can not only take care of students' age characteristics, but also take into account each student's personality characteristics, systematically and dynamically observe their psychological changes and development process, and truly teach students in accordance with their aptitude, aim at the right medicine.
The Experience of Adolescent Education (2)
Recently, parents have been complaining that children contradict him and disobey discipline. He hit the child many times for this, but it still didn't work. What should I do?
After listening to my parents' helpless voice, I also fell into deep thought. Perhaps at this time, I can best understand my son's distress after his adolescent rebellion. I tried my best to help him find out the educational problems and try to help him solve them. After seeing him off, I thought a lot:
I think parents should make two points clear: first, why children don't obey their parents' discipline; The second is how to effectively discipline children.
First, there must be a reason why children are disobedient. Parents should find out the reasons, especially the children's psychology, in order to educate correctly. Listen to the voices of the children. Parents are often used to talking by themselves and making their children obey. Family should be a place where children can speak freely. Parents should pay attention to leaving the opportunity to speak to their children, especially introverted children. Parents should pay more attention and encourage their children to talk more. Parents should not neglect the exchange of ideas with their children because of their busy work. In particular, fathers want to have a beneficial exchange of ideas with their children, and the topics at the dinner table are often relatively relaxed. It is the best and warmest time for children to talk and parents to listen.
The second point is the method of education. Tolerance and restraint are both important. There is no consensus on whether it is better to be tolerant or strict with children. In reality, the lesson of family education failure is often too lenient or too strict. Parents should understand this truth. Children's happy character will not be developed in reprimand. Parents' timely praise can help children develop a good character more than other material rewards. There is no contradiction between praising children and restraining their bad behavior. The foundation of children's happy life begins with encouragement and praise.
With the growth of age, children gradually become independent and have a stronger thirst for knowledge. On weekends, parents can take their children to see exhibitions and other activities, so that children can see big scenes and broaden their horizons; We let him do everything he can, such as making a reasonable study and life plan; If you do something wrong, parents don't have to point it out directly. You can let him compare those wrong behaviors with children of the same age, so that children can understand what is right and what is wrong.
Educating adolescent children is really a headache, but as long as the method is proper, it can still achieve good results.
The Experience of Adolescent Education (3)
Today, after listening to Mr. Shao's explanation on the education of adolescent children and some suggestions on treatment methods, I was deeply touched and benefited a lot, which made me increase my understanding of educating children and learned many good ways to educate children.
After listening to the teacher's explanation, I realized that I usually have many misunderstandings and even wrong management methods in educating my children, which led to the formation of some bad habits in my study and life, and also made my children's own specialties and hobbies not be effectively brought into play. Parents blindly ask their children to study hard and don't need them to do other things, ignoring their psychological growth and their adaptability to life and society. As long as children study hard, they can get high marks and good grades in all subjects. "Learning first, grades first" is the goal set by parents for their children, so parents undertake all the logistics support work for their children. Children want to do some housework within their power, but they are afraid of delaying their study time and affecting their academic performance. If the child does well in the exam, it will be sunny at home; If the child fails in the exam, it will be a gloomy day at home. In order to make their children get excellent grades in all aspects, parents are willing to spend a lot of money to let their children participate in various super-long classes and advanced classes, which also brings great pressure to their children and weekends that are more tiring and busy than going to school.
Adolescent children have their own unique ideas and views on things; If children's views are different from those of parents and express their opinions, parents will think that children are disobedient. If you talk back to your parents again, you will feel that your child is very rebellious. In fact, these are some normal manifestations of children at this stage of adolescence. Parents should have a correct attitude and actively guide and trust their children. They need the recognition and care of their parents, teachers and classmates, and even more need our friendship.
Usually, we should pay more attention to children, encourage them to establish self-confidence, establish a good relationship with them, and not interfere in everything, which will inevitably cause their dissatisfaction. If children are managed by high-handed means and paternalism, they will be more dissatisfied and strongly resisted. Simple and rude ways to manage children won't work. We should give children equal right to speak, respect their personality, listen to their voices patiently, enter their inner world and solve problems that children can't handle well by themselves. Don't blame children at will and criticize them at will; In the management of children, parents should be proactive, play a positive guiding role, and establish a good communication platform with children, which can make children feel happy and be conducive to their mental health. Treat children with less criticism and more appreciation; Take the initiative to find admirable reasons for children and pay more attention to their advantages. When discovering their shortcomings, we should be more tolerant and give them more time. As long as children make some corrections every time, they can make progress. Correcting their shortcomings should be practical and patient. Less order, more equality; We should believe in children's ability, give them more confidence, make them feel "I can do it", respect their correct choices, talk as little as possible in a commanding tone, and let children know that we are all equal, so as to increase their self-confidence. Less care in life, more care in spirit; What children can do well must be done by themselves, so that children can take care of themselves as much as possible in life. We should give more positive encouragement in spirit, so that children can keep a good positive attitude.
Create a harmonious and happy family, let children study, live and grow in happiness, and let children have a beautiful and happy youth.