Self-confidence is the premise of success and the secret of happiness. Only by self-confidence can we remain optimistic in the face of difficulties and setbacks, so as to find ways to overcome them. "I am confident that if I live for 200 years, I will hit the water for three thousand miles." Maybe someone will say, why don't I want to be confident? But I just can't be confident. Yes, how can I make myself confident? I think it's better to look at your strengths and explore your potential. As the saying goes, the feet are shorter and the inches are longer. Everyone has his own strengths and weaknesses, and everyone has his own unlimited potential. People can't just stare at their own shortcomings, shortcomings and present, but learn to appreciate themselves and look at their own strengths, strengths and future. Traditional educational ideas and backward humanistic concepts make most people look at people and things in reality with rigid eyes, which is difficult to change. Materialist dialectics has long told us that there are no unchangeable people and things in the world, and development and change are eternal. The era of "looking at the big at the age of three and looking at the old at the age of seven" has long passed. We educators should first wake up and stop looking at students with colored glasses. We must first be a confident person ourselves. Don't always compare your own shortcomings with the advantages of others. It's really annoying. We should learn to appreciate ourselves, accept ourselves and encourage ourselves. If you can't do this, you can think of ways, such as accumulating your own successful experience and experience, keeping a diary and writing excerpts; List your own advantages on paper, and at the same time write one or two famous sayings, aphorisms or your own mottoes that can inspire you, stick them on the wall and other places that can be seen everywhere, and see them every day to motivate yourself. In short, we should find ways to make ourselves confident. Self-confidence can make us happy, and happiness can tap our potential and be efficient. The so-called happiness, the sooner the happier, the sooner the happier. If a virtuous circle is formed, it is not difficult to have a good attitude.
Second, we must learn to adjust.
Life is ever-changing, and joys and sorrows, sickness and death, natural and man-made disasters, joys and sorrows are inevitable. A failure in the exam, a misunderstanding of our partner, and a radical remark will all affect our mood. There are always many unsatisfactory things in life, which require each of us to learn to adjust our mentality. How to adjust? The simplest and most effective way-replace negative hints with positive ones. When you want to say "I'm finished", you should immediately replace it with "no, I still have hope"; When you want to say "I can't forgive him", you should quickly change it to "forgive him, I am also wrong" and so on. We should develop the habit of positive suggestion at ordinary times. Say "I can do it" and "Great" to yourself. It would be great if these two sentences became a mantra! Yes, we must learn to take the initiative to hint, think bright, put ourselves in the shoes and think from multiple angles. If winter comes, can spring be far behind? The end of the dark night is dawn. Without some hardships, how can plum blossoms be fragrant?
Third, we should learn to be tolerant and cultivate our broad mind.
If a person is narrow-minded and only cares about himself, it is easy to get angry, unhappy and haggle over every ounce. When you are broad-minded, you will tolerate others, appreciate others, tolerate others, and your mood will remain optimistic. The so-called "step back and broaden the horizon" and "benevolent people are invincible". I think great people are great because they are broad-minded. Lin Xiangru endured Lian Po, and only then did he have an "awkward neck turn", and Zhao was strong; Zhuge Liang forbeared Zhou Yu, Battle of Red Cliffs was born, and the three countries stood firm; * * * The Producer Party launched a national united front, and New China was founded; Only when teachers tolerate students can they come up with better educational methods and enjoy the fragrance of "peaches and plums all over the world". Let's be kind to every child, deeply understand everyone, believe in ourselves and others, be strict with ourselves, be lenient with others, be mindful of the motherland and look at the world. In this way, we can keep a good attitude.
In the final analysis, it is people's ideals, outlook on life and world outlook that determine people's mentality. A person who has lofty goals, a correct outlook on life, a broad mind, persistent enterprising spirit, challenges himself, is unyielding in his fate, firmly believes in himself and thinks positively, then he will certainly be able to maintain a good attitude and have a good life.