1, fairy tales are no less harmful than pornographic and violent films.
There are many stories similar to Snow White and Cinderella in Grimm's fairy tales. These stories were loved by others because the heroine was beautiful, and finally lived a happy life.
These fairy tales have always been loved by children, especially girls. However, grauer, a professor of sociology at Purdue University in the United States? Holtz believes that such fairy tales are not conducive to children's growth. Because these fairy tales virtually propagate the truth that as long as a person has a beautiful appearance, he can succeed and get the favor of others.
Grauer? Holtz and his colleagues studied 168 Grimm's fairy tales, and found that most of them have descriptions about appearance. On average, there are 14 fairy tales, and one in every five fairy tales will write an ugly girl as a vicious villain.
When these fairy tales teach children the right and wrong, good and evil in the world, they also leave a mark on their young hearts: good people are handsome and beautiful, while ugly people are generally bad people. Grauer? Holtz believes that classic fairy tales are no less harmful to children's psychology than music and movies that promote pornography and violence.
His statement is not alarmist. Because children's cognitive ability to the world is very limited, the information and knowledge gained through reading are often true to them. Even if they are just fairy tales, they can easily imagine them as a reflection of the real world. In fact, many parents in China are aware of this problem.
Some parents report that their children are addicted to Grimm's fairy tales and insist that their parents dress them up before they go out. At school or kindergarten, they don't want to play with ordinary or ugly children. Parents asked them why they did this, and their answer was: "Beautiful girls will be liked by many people, and they will meet Prince Charming in the future and live a particularly rich life."
At the same time, often watching Cinderella's "perfect" fairy tales will also make those girls who consciously look ordinary feel frustrated, and it is easy for them to embark on the road of excessive pursuit of external beauty.
It is precisely because this kind of fairy tales invisibly promote the truth that "beauty is good and ugliness is evil", which makes it easy for children to enter the misunderstanding of judging people by their appearances. Even many children will judge whether a person is kind and worthy of communication by his appearance when he grows up. This will have a very negative impact on their interpersonal relationship and life.
The study found that these girls are more likely to be deceived by so-called "modest gentlemen" when they grow up, lose their correct judgment and eventually ruin their happiness.
There are still many dangers in fairy tales.
A prominent feature of Grimm's fairy tales is that the protagonists in many fairy tales are liars. Kingsoft King in Kingsoft Internet Security is a liar. The giant asked King Jinshan to help them distribute their inheritance, but he refused the money and cheated the giant of his inheritance-nod, cloak and shoes. The farmer's wife in Brother Smart was cheated by a cattle dealer, so the farmer stayed on the side of the road and cheated the passing woman of her money and her son's horse.
These people cheat only other people's property, while some swindlers not only cheat money, but also harm others and themselves. In Little Farmer, the little farmer first cheated a shepherd's cow, then cheated 300 gold coins from the miller who helped him, and then not only cheated the shepherd's sheep, but also induced the shepherd and the whole village to die.
In "Smart Gleiter", Gleiter stole the roast chicken that the host entertained the guests. In order to escape punishment, she used lies to provoke the relationship between host and guest, so that she escaped. In the backpack, hat and horn, the third son took the treasures of the three charcoal burners as his own through deception and plunder, and then he used these three treasures to force the king to marry the princess to himself and let him inherit the throne.
In these stories, the protagonists all get wealth by fraud and finally get a happy life. Such examples are not uncommon in Grimm's fairy tales, and the cunning hero is often endowed with the image of wit and intelligence. Children who have seen too many fairy tales often take playing tricks on others as fun, and some even think that playing tricks on others is the means of success.
Besides, in the story of the princess and pea in Andersen's fairy tale, the prince must marry a real princess. His method of examining whether a person is a princess is to put a pea on the bed, take out twenty mattresses and press them on it, then spread twenty duvets on it, and then let the princess sleep on this bed for one night. If she can feel the peas on the bed, it proves that she is a real princess.
Because no one can have such delicate skin except a real princess. This story is obviously materialistic, which can easily lead children to pursue material and luxury. In The Skillful Hunter, the hunter first helped three giants snatch the princess, and then was attracted by the beauty of the princess and killed three giants. The story suggests to children that hunters help others and eat black.
More dangerous because of negligence.
There is no doubt that fairy tales are all for children, but they are all created by adults without exception. Therefore, in the process of creation, adults will inevitably reflect the mainstream values and evaluation system of the real society in their works. However, many values, such as judging people by their appearances and getting success by intrigue, are often incorrect and are the dross of adult society.
If children are exposed to such fairy tales too much, parents do not give correct guidance in time. Over time, children will agree with the views in fairy tales and take them as their own principles.
Many parents attach great importance to and guard against the contents of TV, Internet, books and other media that endanger the physical and mental health of teenagers. Unfortunately, few parents notice the hidden harm of fairy tales to their children. Parents generally believe that fairy tales are simple and have only positive educational significance, and children can fully understand them without the guidance of parents, which also leads to almost no parents can deeply understand the contents and ideas in fairy tales.
However, these neglected hazards often have a more lasting and dangerous impact on children, because children are exposed to fairy tales earlier than TV, Internet and other media. The younger a child is, the less he knows about the world. At this time, any information and knowledge will have a great impact on their values and ways of thinking.
Therefore, the thoughts, words and deeds conveyed in fairy tales have a strong and lasting influence on children, and sometimes even affect their lives.
Therefore, as parents, when reading fairy tales to children to enrich their spiritual life, we must not forget that not all stories are suitable for children. While carefully screening, parents should pay attention to timely guiding their children to correctly understand these stories. Only in this way can fairy tales really benefit children's physical and mental development.