Many parents are eager for their children's success, arbitrarily take their children's summer vacation as their own, and arrange various cram schools, intensive classes and extra-long classes. The children had to walk from a "monotonous" campus into the "birdcage" carefully built by their parents. Summer vacation arrangements are children's business. We should fully respect children's wishes and give them some free time and space.
0 1, intended to let the children decide for themselves.
The goals and plans you set for him meet your expectations. Children will have their own judgments about their abilities and interests, so let them do it themselves. Parents can give some advice, but never do it for them.
02. The number of timetables is not as large as possible.
Although many timetable templates are very elaborate, if there is no connection between plans, the result of listing too many plans is that children can't remember, let alone do it!
Therefore, it is recommended that children choose a more reasonable and comprehensive planning template of 1-2, and make it carefully according to their own needs.
03. The content of the schedule should not only be studied.
In fact, summer vacation is not only the golden period of study, but also a good opportunity to make friends and broaden your horizons. Let children make a timetable with only "learning", just like when you receive an email from your boss, it will only be "OK, I'll do it" instead of "Wow, I really want to do it!"
Therefore, you can make a list of tasks, including traveling, visiting relatives and friends, going to museums and other meaningful activities. Make the summer plan colorful.
04, to plan the time, but also to plan the task.
Many children plan only "what time period" and what I should do, but there is no overall consciousness of "I have to finish XX things this summer vacation". Even if such a plan is completed, it is difficult for children to have a sense of accomplishment.
So, set "how many books do you want to read during the summer vacation", "how many friends do you want to see" and "how many exhibitions do you want to see". With task planning, children will be more proud after completion.
05. Time should be adjustable and tasks should have priority.
Many children have a whole day in their summer vacation plans, for example, they have to do 20 English problems from 8: 00 to 8: 30 in the morning, but what if they can't finish them? After doing English problems for half an hour, there is no time to do math problems later.
Or when you should have done your homework, the World Cup finals began! Once the time is delayed and the task is shelved, the timetable will easily become "waste paper" in a few days.
Therefore, the timetable should not be too tight, and there should be some room for manoeuvre; Prioritize tasks, such as "What must be done today" and "What can be done tomorrow or weekend". Let the children leave some room for the timetable. After all, it is most important to stick to the plan easily every day.
In the implementation stage, it is necessary to accompany the children to implement and try to avoid external interference.
06. Review weekly to find and solve problems in time.
Many plans ended up falling through because they didn't review and summarize in time and analyze the problems exposed in daily life. So every weekend, the family can sit together and talk about what everyone has accomplished and what they haven't accomplished this week, point out the reasons for not completing each other and analyze how to solve them together.
Good parts can learn from each other and continue to maintain, while bad parts urge each other to correct. In this way, every week can give children the motivation to stick to it.
On the contrary, some parents have gone to the other extreme: either they are too busy to care about their children's summer vacation, or they think that their children should have fun during the holidays, resulting in their children being completely left unattended. Parents should guide and help their children to make good plans.
2. Cultivation of living habits
Holidays are different from school days, but they can't be arranged at will, especially in living habits. The specific schedule and life content can be adjusted, but there must be certain rules. Today 10 you don't want to sleep, tomorrow 12 you have fun and sleep. If you are not happy to do housework today, you don't have to do it tomorrow ... The time and content settings can be relaxed, but we must adhere to living habits and unified standards, so that children can live in a unified law and avoid "playing crazy" and collecting their hearts after school.
3. Is learning the key?
During holidays, study should also be the focus of consideration, but it is not the only focus. When planning your holiday life, you should plan your study separately. For example, you should have a timetable for your holiday homework and strictly follow it. In fact, on average, every day does not occupy a large proportion of your child's time.
Many parents will go into a misunderstanding. If children's grades are not satisfactory or they face the senior high school entrance examination and college entrance examination next year, parents will mercilessly deprive their children of their holidays and let them passively complete some remedial, review and preview studies. In fact, only the children themselves know how effective it is.
4. Decompression and relaxation are also the key points.
After an intense semester of study, children should get a buffer and relaxation, so that their emotions and thoughts can be adjusted and rested. This is a well-known truth. Decompression and relaxation doesn't mean that you don't study at all, nor does it mean that stark raving mad has no plan.
You know, planned play and participation in activities are actually a powerful supplement to learning. After all, this society does not need a person who can only read. Participating in social and group activities will exercise children's broader abilities and help make up for their ability improvement outside school.
Parents are children's best friends during holidays.
During school, there is little communication between parents and children, and the content of communication is generally related to learning. Therefore, holidays are the best opportunity for parents and children to communicate emotionally, and also an important stage for improving parent-child relationship. Parents must spend some time playing with their children. Summer vacation is a colorful season and a good opportunity for children to entertain themselves and show their nature. Parents should be the guides and close partners of their children's summer activities. After work, parents should spare as much time as possible to go swimming, outing, camping, mountain climbing, listening to music, watching movies, making small crafts and other beneficial activities with their children, which can not only enrich their children's experience, increase their knowledge and get happiness, but also communicate their children's hearts and make their family life more harmonious.
6. Get in touch with society and cultivate sentiment
During the summer vacation, young people of school age should be encouraged to participate in some moderate social activities or public welfare work, such as community activities, activities to help the disabled, and non-simple tourism summer camps. Let them exercise their children's social adaptability and emergency handling ability in the process of interacting with others, and cultivate their good character of helping others and being kind to others. For online dating, parents should treat it in two ways, neither completely "blocking" nor "letting themselves go". Children should be encouraged to make friends with the same hobbies and ambitions and make progress in mutual communication. Of course, there are not a few people who use the Internet to engage in illegal activities. Parents and children should have a sense of prevention. When children meet strangers, they must be accompanied by their parents.
7. How to help children choose interest classes and group activities?
Now there are all kinds of training classes, interest classes and group activities. In fact, it is nothing more than a few categories. One is aimed at children's learning, which captures the eagerness of many "anxious" parents to make up their homework during the holidays. You can report it, but accept it, don't be too reluctant, and you can't arrange the whole holiday to make up for your child.
The second is the interest class, which has everything from sound, body and beauty, which makes parents really have a headache, because they choose according to their own wishes, not their children's wishes, and should return this right to their children, otherwise it will be a waste of money and they will not be able to let their children get exercise;
Third, group activities, especially various summer camps. In fact, group activities are exercises for children's morality, intelligence and ability, so parents should consider the content, items and forms of activities when choosing group activities for their children. Nowadays, many summer camps are either pure tourism, disguised learning, or hodgepodge, with no focus. Parents and children should ask more details when choosing, including safety, food, shelter and transportation.
8. How do children watch TV online during holidays?
After the holiday, children will inevitably play computer and watch TV. Parents should allow and understand their needs, because in today's social reality, children can play with too few things. What do you want them to do without surfing the Internet and watching TV?
Many parents may be worried because their parents are at work and their children are at home. How do we control them? Therefore, it is necessary to help children make holiday plans. There are many things to do every day, and the quantity and time are arranged. Even if children play computer and watch TV, they should be controlled within a certain period of time, as long as family agreements are made in advance.
2. How to help children plan their time reasonably?
The first stage: "free range" is still necessary.
Time: two weeks before the start of summer vacation
Important: relax first.
1. Go to my grandparents' house for a week or two.
On the one hand, children can spend more time with the elderly to make up for the shortcomings that parents can't go back to honor their parents all the year round. On the other hand, it can make children change their living environment and enhance their adaptability to different living environments. Old people live in the countryside, and children used to be closer to nature.
Step 2 travel with your parents
Parents can personally take their children out to travel, deepen the parent-child relationship, broaden their horizons and knowledge.
3. Participate in summer camp activities organized by the school.
Conditional families can organize their children to participate in summer camps organized by schools to exercise their independent life and communication skills.
The second stage: the "captive" stage
Time: Mid-summer vacation
Project 1: Learning-oriented
1. Work out the schedule.
Parents can discuss with their children to make a summer vacation schedule and give them some autonomy.
For example: what time do you get up and go to bed every day, how long do you do your homework, how long do you play, how long do you watch TV, etc. Reasonable arrangements, focused, and specific exercises according to the schedule of summer vacation.
Finish summer homework
After playing well, it is time to study hard and finish the summer homework assigned by the teacher.
3. It is more appropriate to apply for interest classes or cultural classes.
Parents can also give their children some summer interest classes and cultural classes, which can not only cultivate their interests, discover their skills, but also find the weaknesses of their homework and check for leaks.
Item 2: Not only study, but also do housework.
Help parents do housework as much as they can.
Fold the quilt after getting up, and clean the room regularly. When I see my parents, I have to help me cook, choose vegetables, wash vegetables and cook. It seems trivial, but it can exercise my children's ability to live independently in time, improve their sense of responsibility, and let them not be in a hurry when they live independently or collectively in the future.
Read more books
The summer vacation of nearly two months can provide children with good reading time. Let children find happiness in reading, and he will naturally regard reading as a habit. Parents should also set a good example for their children, and don't watch TV or play computer phones while their children are studying.
6. Outdoor sports
Paying attention to physical exercise is beneficial to children's growth and health.
The third stage: "the heart-closing stage"
Time: Last week of summer vacation
Matters: Adjustment oriented
1. Adjust your schedule and mentality.
Parents should help their children get rid of the pleasant and relaxed atmosphere of holidays, and avoid their children being too emotionally and psychologically immersed in the summer vacation and unable to adapt to the normal teaching track.
It is necessary to start to adjust the children's schedule, adjust their emotions, and stop their "crazy play" heart.
2. Preview new content
Helping children to preview the next semester's courses does not require proficiency, but at least they should have a basic understanding of the general context of knowledge.
Especially for children in junior and senior high schools, preview is very important in learning.
Check your summer homework.
Checking whether the children's summer homework has been finished is related to whether the children can spend the summer vacation perfectly.