The reason is that the child is still young before marriage, and he has not understood this aspect and can't explain it clearly; When his son gets married, he feels that he is an adult. Besides, it is not convenient to elaborate on the feelings of his daughter-in-law. I don't know that children are young and have little social experience. I haven't witnessed with my own eyes the retribution facts that have caused trouble and died because of lust since ancient times, and I have heard them widely, so I still don't believe them. In addition, I don't seriously read good books that are far away from lust and abstinence, plus secular heresy and nonsense from evil friends, so I think sex life is a happy thing, so indulging in prostitution leads to injury and death. Countless people have lost their heirs because their children are unfilial. It's really sad, regrettable and tearful!
Parents should pay attention to their children when they are 14 or 15 years old and know their interests and hobbies. If the child begins to enter sexual development, carefully check whether there are stains such as nocturnal emission when changing clothes. If you find this situation, immediately quote the ancient sage's admonition, tell him clearly and in detail that lust will die, and give examples of people who died tragically because of lust, so that children can know what is at stake and keep their spirits. If you get married, don't be afraid of trouble, especially enlighten and educate your father, your mother-in-law and your daughter-in-law, and explain to your daughter-in-law as soon as possible all kinds of good books to stay away from lust, abstain from sexual desire and prostitution, so that her daughter-in-law can persuade her husband privately. Never cause lifelong pain because you are lazy, afraid of trouble and disrespected.
Therefore, Confucius specifically pointed out: when people are young, their blood gas is uncertain, so they should strictly abstain from lust. This shows that he attaches great importance to this problem of teenagers and is very afraid that if this problem is not handled well, it will be very unfavorable to the continuation of individuals and even the nation. Because in adolescence, it is the same as when plants and trees just start to grow and germinate and insects hibernate. When the vegetation just germinates, it is necessary to cut off the seedlings and not dry them; When insects are hibernating, they go to dig their dormant caves, and all the insects die. Sages remind young people to try their best to control their passions, let them know what is at stake and cherish themselves, so as to protect their young bodies. If you can control your passion when you are a teenager, firmly grasp it and cut it off, you will be able to fill the world, govern the country, make contributions and do a vigorous career in adulthood with great spirit, because your spirit has not suffered losses. These noble morals and extensive knowledge are based on the strict prohibition of lust when I was a teenager!