Nowadays, the competition is more and more fierce, so it is particularly important to have a healthy mentality. The following psychological problems are common nowadays:
First, seek failure and narcissism.
Some people feel depressed after experiencing the low tide of life. Even if there is a great opportunity before him, he will be afraid, because at this time he has lost his mind and dare not imagine success. On the other hand, narcissists are often the opposite. They have reached the point of arrogance, almost ignoring the people in front of them, and feelings are the most important. Such a person will only make more people hate him, stay away from him and eventually fail.
Second, naive ideas.
Because of too little social experience, people often make decisions and expected goals that are not commensurate with their abilities, and the result will naturally end in failure. After failure, they may fall into a negative thinking, lose communication with people around them, and become more naive and closed. There is the same mentality, in order to win the attention of others, I volunteered to play the clown, even if I ruined my image. The consequence of this mentality is that I will not be recognized by others, and it will also deal a blow to my work and career.
Third, revenge caused by inferiority complex.
Many people often fall into inferiority complex because of their birth or temporary lack of ability. If they are not recognized by others for a long time, they will become afraid to compete with others. Successive failures will make them hostile to their opponents and even do many outrageous things to get back at them. If you get into this situation, it will only make your anger stronger. In the end, you can't dissipate, and you will be burned alive.
Fourth, paranoia and deception.
Sometimes you will find that your friends around you have changed and you don't know him. It is not that you have changed, but that he has changed. Sometimes pretending nothing happened in front of you, you will often speak ill of you behind your back, and even wonder if what you have done is aimed at him. After a long time, it may even involve framing you. But he doesn't have a good life either, because colleagues and friends will stay away from him. What you cheated was a lie. If you cheat once, maybe you won't cheat again. After a long time, your friends will start to get tired of you.
This is my analysis. I hope my analysis can bring you some help. Everyone's psychology has great potential. By accumulating one's own psychological energy through psychological adjustment and making oneself stronger psychologically, one can exert the ability beyond the level, thus better transforming the external environment, gaining more external resources and achieving one's career and life.
How to carry out psychological adjustment?
Ewing Weber and john morgan, famous American psychologists, with the assistance of American Psychological Association 159 psychologists, used the theory of human behavior pattern and psychological research results to conduct in-depth research on the "psychological adjustment techniques" used by many political elites and business elites in their daily lives, and made a detailed analysis and explanation of their psychological adjustment strategies.
1. The interesting thing about life is that it is an open process full of many uncertainties. Among them, there is the pain of failure, the joy of success, the stimulation of adventure and the profundity of thinking. Imagine, when our life lacks these, is it still worth pursuing and struggling?
2. Trust between people is mutual, and the stronger party must be the first to extend an olive branch to the other party. This kind of trust only reflects the essence of trust, because trust is not surrender.
3. To communicate and cooperate with others, you should learn to put yourself in the other person's shoes. First of all, we must have a broad mind. When misunderstood by others, don't argue for yourself and get emotional, but prove yourself with practical actions. Secondly, we should have a sense of the overall situation, consider the problem from the other side's point of view, and accept criticism actively and sincerely; Thirdly, we should have the courage of self-criticism; At the same time, we should be good at frank and open communication and enhance mutual understanding.
If you want to win the favor of others, you need to like others first. If you want to like others, you must see the advantages of each other.
Let others know that you have the same interests as them, which is very important for maintaining a good relationship. If you always talk big in conversation, you will be hated; If we are talking about topics of mutual interest, it will be much easier to narrow the distance between us.
6. People who are often surrounded by people with ulterior motives value sincere feelings and care between people more than people with humble status.
7. Work for yourself, and you will go it alone; If you work for others, there will be dozens or hundreds of people to help you-the basis of cooperation lies in * * * winning.
8. When a person concentrates on doing things, he will forget himself and forget too many right and wrong things attached to himself. And the habit of caring too much about your own interests will become an obstacle to your career.
9. Remember these two points when dealing with people: First, others are important; Second, it is also important to be yourself-treating others from an equal perspective will help you do things calmly.
10, the best way to overcome strong self-awareness is to pay more attention to others, their interests, wishes and actions, so as to temporarily forget themselves.
1 1. Criticism is like a dog. When it sees that you are afraid of it, it will chase you and threaten you more and more. But if you turn around and face him bravely, he will stop yelling, wag his tail and let you feel-how to deal with criticism and insult reflects a person's quality and philosophy of life.
12. Imagine that ten most prestigious painters get together, sit around the round table and draw an apple in the middle of the round table. What will happen? Everyone has to draw a different apple, because everyone looks at the apple from different angles-stubbornly believing that their views on things are correct, and adopting a closed attitude towards others can only limit themselves-so listening more is more important than talking more.
13, when a person is afraid that others will look down on what you have done, he wants to brag most. At this time, you want to attract others' attention by exaggerating the facts, and when you talk nonsense, it often leads to ridicule.
14, when you want to brag, think about how much you hate others to brag, then you won't do such a stupid thing.
15, what will be done is far more important than what has been done. The value of the past is that it will help you in the future.
16, habitual resentment can lead to self-pity, and self-pity is the worst emotional habit a person can develop. When these habits are deeply rooted, it will be wrong not to feel sorry for yourself. Some psychological studies have found that such people only feel good in tragic situations.
17, there are many reasons for insecurity, not because our wisdom and ability are really insufficient, but because we use the wrong scale and always compare our actual standards with the ideal, perfect and pure "ideal self".
18, if a person really deserves everyone's praise, there is no need to be arrogant, otherwise it is shallow. Bragging, conceit, boasting, arrogance, etc. In fact, it is a cover-up for the mentality of failure or complete failure. On the contrary, humility shows a person's confidence in success.
19, you should have a few books that you know best, just as you should have a few closest friends. We should cultivate a wide range of reading interests. Only in this way can we broaden our horizons, deepen our outlook on life and cultivate an open attitude.
20. When you are awake, let yourself read some books that need to be absorbed to understand. When you are tired, read some light books that don't need too much thinking.
2 1, exchange an apple and get an apple; Exchange an idea and get an idea. Choose a person with different talent and personality, who can make up for your shortcomings.
22. Smart leaders are good at knowing people and employing people, not acting on personal likes and dislikes. They have a profound understanding of human nature, and skillfully guide and use it, so that people with different personalities are placed in appropriate positions.