First, create a democratic and harmonious family environment.
Family environment, parents' upbringing, attitudes and ways play a great role in the development of children's healthy personality. A democratic and harmonious family atmosphere helps children to have a positive attitude towards life, and they can consciously participate in family activities. Love, care and understanding between parents; Parents' consideration, respect and care for their elders; Parents' strict love for their children is moderate, demanding and loving, which can enable children to correctly understand and evaluate themselves and form positive emotions such as self-esteem, self-confidence, autonomy, self-control, kindness and responsibility. But if you live in an unharmonious and unhealthy family environment, for example, family members are not harmonious, often quarrel and don't care about children. Children living in this environment are insecure and distrustful, and some even tend to be aggressive or violent.
Sukhomlinski said: Every moment, when you see a child, you see yourself. Educating a child means educating yourself and testing your personality. Parents must have a healthy personality to influence their children. In the modern society where the pace of life is accelerating day by day, parents should not only be busy and work hard for their lives, but also face lively, curious and active children after returning home. Here, please be a role model for children anytime and anywhere, guide them patiently, and don't treat them with a rude and impatient attitude, so that children can express themselves in a free, relaxed and equal family atmosphere.
Second, we should respect children, protect their self-esteem and enhance their self-confidence.
Although the child is small, he is also an independent individual with his own wishes and interests. Parents should learn to gain insight into their children's inner world, communicate with their children in a tone of consultation, guidance and encouragement, and think from their children's point of view instead of imposing their will on them. Don't scold or abuse children because they are young, especially don't ridicule or satirize them. Nowadays, children have good learning and living conditions, but they are under great psychological pressure and have a heavy learning burden. That's because some parents, regardless of their children's wishes and interests, force their children to participate in various interest classes and training courses, killing their playful nature. The relaxed and happy weekend has become a "torture day" for children, who are busy with homework and interest classes from morning till night. Adults often impose their will on their children, ask them to achieve their goals, and treat them with orders and accusations, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of their personality. Parents should affirm and encourage their children's progress bit by bit, increase their self-confidence and protect their self-esteem.
Third, we should cultivate the independence of children's lives.
At present, most children are only children. Every child is the little sun at home, and the conditions of eating, drinking and having fun are the best at home. However, due to the overprotection of parents, they think that children only need to concentrate on their studies, and other things are arranged by their parents, which leads to children's "mouth to mouth, clothes to reach out" and no ability to take care of themselves, especially children in cities, who are spoiled everywhere. If children depend entirely on adults in life, it will not only directly affect their health, but also be detrimental to the formation of children's labor habits and civilized behavior.
Fourth, pay attention to cultivate children's communication skills, lively and cheerful personality and love.
Communication ability is very important to a person's life. Today's children have no brothers or sisters and are the center of the family. Therefore, it is easy to develop shortcomings such as willfulness and self-centeredness, and is not good at interacting with peers. As parents, we should bring our children into contact with other children, observe more and interfere less, so that children can learn to adapt, accumulate experience and gradually learn to interact.
I think: a lively and cheerful personality is beneficial to children's life, and children will encounter some setbacks in their study and life. At this time, parents should not use the language of accusation and criticism, but use the tone of encouragement to guide and keep their children lively and cheerful. Especially for children's playful nature, don't blindly suppress it. Let children keep their innocent and lively nature and have a happy and carefree childhood.
We can teach children to learn knowledge and skills in 20 years or 20 years, but it is impossible to teach them to become a person with good moral character and healthy personality. Only having a healthy body and personality is the greatest happiness in a person's life, and we, as educators or parents, are one of the creators of this happiness. Only through long-term unremitting efforts can children have this kind of happiness.