Many times, psychology is like a healing pill, which allows you to know others and yourself. I know I'm not perfect, but I also know that I need to improve myself gradually. Here are six psychology books for you to know yourself. I hope they will help you.
The art of love
The art of love
[America] Ai frome
Douban: 8.8 points
Fromm is a famous psychologist, psychoanalyst and philosopher. He wrote many books in his life, and every book was very good. I like his book The Art of Love best. This is a small but fine book, not very thick and easy to read. Everyone should read books about love.
I don't know love until I read it; After reading it, you will know that love is not just talk. Not everyone has it, and not everyone knows it. Love is an art and an ability.
As we all know, without love, there would be no human existence. But "most people simply regard love as a question of being loved, not a question of loving others and their ability to love others."
The ability to love can also be divided into maturity and childishness. You see, in the love we see and feel, do we often feel that the other person is naive, self-centered and will not think of others? This kind of care requires more and pays less.
Fromm said that love is more important than being loved. Love is not expressed in words. Love should be an action, a practice of human strength. Love, the main way of action is to give, not to receive. To be loved is to wait for others to give love. Once you can't get love, your heart will be empty and lonely. Love can generate strength and spread heat, but weakness can hardly generate love.
Fromm has a very famous saying about the explanation of "love" and "being loved", which often appears on the Internet. He said: "Immature love is: I love you because I need you;" Mature love is: I need you because I love you. "
I read this little book for the first time.
In this book, he regards "love" as an art, and if he wants to be a master of this art, he must cultivate his ability to love, and he must cultivate his sense of restraint, concentration and patience.
The scope of love is not so narrow. Love in love is only a small part of love. In his book, he also expounded the objects of love such as fraternity, maternal love, sex and self-love. We should learn to love ourselves and others. All people who have the ability to love others must love themselves. He pointed out that true love is the expression of inner creativity, including care, respect, responsibility and other factors.
And I just like the concept of "creation". Love is the expression of inner creativity, and love is the expression of action. Whether facing family members, lovers or friends, we should actively display our ability to love and express our love for them through mature love and actions.
In the art of love, I hope we can understand what love is and what true love is as soon as possible. I hope we can become masters of this art as soon as possible, instead of being incompetent in love.
The road to happiness
Bertrand Russell
Translated by Fu Lei
Douban: 8.9 points
When we are all in a state of anxiety, we always feel that we still have a lot of things to do, or that our situation is very painful and we envy others' brilliance, but we don't live at that moment at all. What we feel is Russell's "Being alive is happiness", which is more open, clear and enviable.
Russell's name is also famous in the history of philosophy. He is one of the most outstanding philosophers in the 20th century, as well as a famous mathematician, essayist and social activist. He has made research achievements in various fields, and is really a "wise man of the century".
Einstein said, "Reading Russell's works is one of the happiest times in my life". I began to look forward to reading his books before I read them.
His books are not very complicated, not as profound as his History of Western Philosophy, and many of them are intelligent opinions, but these opinions can show his love for life. In the preface, Russell hopes that his book can help many men and women who suffer misfortune but can't enjoy happiness to diagnose their symptoms, get rid of their methods and become happy through appropriate efforts.
I remember a friend told me that after reading this book, he became much more open-minded Reading his books is really like talking to a noble soul.
In this book, he discusses the "root of misfortune". What are the reasons for unhappiness? If you want to have real happiness, you must know the reason why you are unhappy.
The main reasons for his misfortune are competition, boredom and excitement, fatigue, jealousy and fear of public opinion. And he elaborated on the root of every misfortune. I believe there is always something written in your heart.
After discussing the source of misfortune, he opened a door for us to discuss what is the source of happiness. As for the source of happiness, he wrote several chapters: enthusiasm, love, family, work, hard work and giving up, all of which he wanted to analyze. In other words, if we can handle these things in life well, then these things may become the source of our happiness.
When reading this book, you can read golden sentences of what, and you can also read a lot of insights. So I copied them in my notebook. Whenever I was unhappy, I quickly calmed myself down, found a solution and got along well with my heart.
"Happiness is not like ripe fruit. Only under the action of a happy environment can it fall into your mouth. " I think happiness is really not a gift, but a kind of wisdom. On the road to happiness, I hope you can master the secret of happiness as soon as possible.
Inferiority and transcendence
Adler
Douban: 8.4 points
Alfred adler is a master of psychology as famous as Freud and the founder of individual psychology school.
I like what he said most: "People are not confused by things, but by our own ideas about things", which solved many doubts.
Many of us feel inferior inside, don't know what to do, and want to hide carefully. In his view, there are two kinds of inferiority complex, one is inferiority complex caused by physical defects and arrogance, which makes people live a negative life and even have mental disorders; However, inferiority has another feature, which may also make people try to make up for their weaknesses.
Everyone has a sense of inferiority more or less, so how to treat inferiority correctly?
Adler said: "The most important thing is to reduce patients' inferiority complex and make them confident. However, inferiority will not be completely eradicated, in fact, there is also a positive side. So we don't want to eradicate it completely, because inferiority can be used as the basis for building something. "
For people with "inferiority complex", all difficulties have become a feeling of "bumpy life". Out of pessimistic personal philosophy, they can easily walk into the darkness of life. If a person is always pessimistic about things, it is difficult to overcome the difficulties in life. So although I have an inferiority complex, I need to know how to transcend this inferiority complex and make myself more valuable.
It's no use escaping from inferiority complex. Only by bravely accepting can we see the source of inferiority and try to overload it. How do you want to surpass yourself? Go and open this book.
On human growth
carl ranson rogers
Douban: 8.8 points
Carl rogers is an outstanding humanistic psychologist. He pays attention to people's self-development and personality development, and emphasizes that people have the ability of self-adjustment to restore mental health.
I like reading the works of humanistic psychologists, such as Maslow's demand theory, which all attach great importance to people's self-development. In Rogers' view, people have a tendency to strive to achieve, which to some extent stems from the inconsistency between ideal self and realistic self, and this inconsistency is also the source of anxiety.
I like reading Rogers' books and his thoughts, not only because his thoughts are deeply rooted in people's hearts, but also because of his pleasant words, such as: "The process of life is the process of being yourself and becoming yourself."
"A good life is a process, not a state of being; It is a direction, not a destination. The direction that constitutes a better life is his whole physical and mental choice when he has psychological freedom to move in any direction. "
In this book, while reviewing his personal experience, Rogers also puts forward ways and means of personal growth. Maybe, you will read on like me and get a lot of inspiration. What inspires you is a good book.
Live the meaning of life
viktor emil frankl
Douban: 8.6 points
Because I really love this book, I have written a special book review for this book before. If I can only recommend you one monograph on psychology, I would like to recommend this one, which is also a book that will make you suddenly enlightened.
Psychologist Victor frankl founded "Meaning Therapy", which is called the third Vienna psychotherapy school after Freud's psychoanalysis and Adler's individual psychology.
Why do you recommend this book? Because he is called the miracle of the 20th century, he tells you with his own life course what is the hope in a desperate situation and what is the meaning of life. His research object is his own suffering, and he has a deep thinking about suffering and a deep understanding of the meaning of life.
During World War II, as a Jew, he did not escape the Nazis. He was imprisoned in a concentration camp in troubled times, a lifeless place, and lost all his relatives. He miraculously survived. In this book, there are not so many boring theories, but a person who has experienced purgatory-like suffering, telling you everything that happened in the concentration camp and those who died prematurely because of his inner weakness. What he cares about is not why most people died, but why some people survived.
He always believed that people's internal strength could change their external destiny. Because, according to his meaning therapy, trying to find the meaning of life is the main motivation for people to live, which is different from Freud's "pursuit of happiness" and Adler's "pursuit of Excellence".
We are in such an era where everyone is in danger, and too many people, especially young people, need to go through a long period of pain before they can really mature. And what should we do in the face of pain?
the road less traveled
Scott Parker
Douban: 8.3 points
Just like the subtitle of this book, what is the road that few people take? That is "the journey of mental maturity".
This is a good book to help us know ourselves, which can be said to be very popular or great. We have traveled so many roads and met so many difficulties. Isn't it the power of the mind that keeps us going?
Life will inevitably experience a lot of pain or confusion, and Parker tells us that to deal with all kinds of thorny problems in life, we must follow four basic disciplines: delaying enjoyment, taking responsibility, facing the truth and maintaining balance.
Self-discipline is a word he mentioned many times. Self-discipline should be cultivated from an early age, so in the first chapter, he also talked about family education for parents and taught children to learn self-discipline. He said: "The primary solution to life problems is self-discipline".
"Life is full of hardships. This is a great truth and one of the greatest truths in the world. " Therefore, you should accept suffering, because suffering is a part of life, and life is a process of facing problems and solving local problems.
This book also talks about love, which teaches us the essence of love.
In a word, this book can help us learn love and self-discipline. Not only for us, but also for parents. The process of mental maturity is slow, but I hope this book can help you.
Judging from many books I have read, every book I have carefully written here has cured me and inspired me in the difficult stage I experienced. If there are some books, you are lucky when you read those sentences that make your heart beat, or when you feel suddenly enlightened after reading them.
I hope you will gain something after reading it, not just reading this list. I will share my favorite books and those that are helpful to me, and I hope I can learn something from you.
This article was written for several days, which is equivalent to six book reviews.
Many people are waiting for me to write this book list, and now they are sincere.
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Psychological book recommendation
The art of love
Frome
The Art of Love is the most famous work of Fromm, a German-American psychologist, philosopher and an important member of Frankfurt School. Since the publication of 1956, it has been translated into 32 languages and sold well all over the world. It is regarded as the most famous work in contemporary love art theory monograph.
Brief introduction of the author
Eric Fromm (1900- 1980) is a famous German-American psychologist, psychoanalyst and philosopher. 1900 was born in a Jewish family in Frankfurt, Germany. 1922 received his doctorate from Heidelberg University, Germany, and was an important member of the Frankfurt School in the 1920s.
Complete works of jung
Jung
Carl jung (1875- 196 1) is a Swiss psychologist. 1907 began to cooperate with Freud to develop and popularize psychoanalysis, which lasted for six years. Later, he disagreed with Freud's point of view, parted ways, founded Jung's psychological theory of personality analysis, put forward the concept of "complex", divided personality into introversion and extroversion, and advocated that personality should be divided into three layers: consciousness, individual unconsciousness and collective unconsciousness. He was the president of the International Psychoanalytic Society and the International Psychotherapy Association, and founded the Jungian Institute of Psychology. 196 1 passed away in Switzerland on June 6th, and his theories and thoughts still have a far-reaching impact on psychological research. (A good book is recommended by www.tuijianshu.net) The Red Book is Jung's private work, also known as Liber Novus. It is considered to be the most important unpublished work in the history of psychoanalysis, written and drawn by Jung himself on more than 200 pages of manuscripts. Although it was originally written for the audience, Jung finally decided to put it on the shelf.
No longer published. Jung died in 196 1. For the next 40 years, his descendants refused to let Jung scholars get close to this book and never allowed others to dirty their eyes. Until September 2009, only more than twenty of Jung's family and disciples had read Jung's little red book. Previously, it took Sonu Shamdasani, an honorary scientist, two years to finally persuade ulrich Henny, the grandson of Jung, who was in charge of the family property, to agree to publish the book.
Many teachers in the field of psychology in China have been using this book as the first reference book for teaching for many years.
affect
Roberto Ciodini
No influence, no follow-up!
Influence tells me that influence is a unique charm and an invisible force. Influential people are often the people with the most successful factors in society. The book reveals the significance and role of influence in people's work, life, family and marriage. At the same time, through a large number of accurate examples and concise and practical theories, the ways and methods to improve people's influence in different fields and levels such as politics, economic management, administrative management and workplace are expounded in detail.
social animal
Elliot aronson
Social Animals is a social psychology book published by Eliot aronson, an American social psychologist. It is called the Bible of American social psychology. Mob was first published in 1895. It has a history of more than 100 years and is regarded as the pioneering work of popular psychology. The author empirically discusses the emergence and operation of mass psychology, and effectively shows the irrational and changeable psychological world of the masses.
lying
Paul ekman.
Paul ekman's Lies is the second edition, which is regarded as a criminal investigation textbook by many law enforcement agencies in Europe and America. It tells readers how people lie, why they lie and how they behave when they lie. How to detect lies, the possibility of detection, advantages and disadvantages; How to create and enhance the opportunity to see through lies?
For judges, prosecutors, lawyers and policemen who must be proficient in interpersonal communication and understand the personality characteristics of criminal suspects, this is a textbook to strengthen their functions; For psychologists, social workers and consulting experts who need insight into people's hearts and are good at communication, this is a good book for interpersonal communication; For ordinary people who are eager to prevent being cheated, this is a practical guide to reduce the probability of being cheated and prevent fraud.
Brief introduction of the author
Paul ekman (1934-), an American psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of California, was awarded the Outstanding Scientific Contribution Award by the American Psychological Association in 199 1 and was listed as one of the most influential psychologists in the 20th century. He mainly studies the expression of emotions, their physiological activities and interpersonal deception. He is the most important expert in this field. During his research career of more than forty years, he studied the faces of tribes, mental patients, spies, serial killers and professional killers in New Guinea. Government agencies such as the Federal Bureau of Investigation, the Central Intelligence Agency, law enforcement agencies, and anti-terrorism groups, and famous animation studios such as Pixar and Light of Industry, Magjc often ask him to be an emotional expression consultant. British and American TV programs often ask him for advice and even invite him to be on the show. He has written thirteen books.
"History of Psychology"
David Housa
The History of Psychology vividly discusses the important figures and their schools and theories that promote the development of psychological thoughts and disciplines in the form of biographies. It not only traces the development of psychological system under the social and political background of psychologists, but also pays attention to the individual life and career of psychologists. At the same time, the author insists on the position of justice, vindicates the "vulnerable group" of psychologists, and returns history to its true colors.
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