Rebellious psychology refers to a psychological state in which people take opposite attitudes and words and deeds to each other's demands in order to maintain their self-esteem. Teenagers often find themselves "uneducated" and "disobedient" and often "contradict" and "oppose" educators. The following are selected cases of adolescent rebellious psychology of middle school students. Welcome to read the reference.
Case 1 adolescent rebellious psychology
1, basic situation
Wu Mou's academic performance is above average, but his rebellious attitude is strong, which contradicts his parents' emotions and his teachers.
2. Cause analysis
The situation in Wu Mou is a typical rebellious problem. Many adolescent children are rebellious towards adults. They often interpret the criticism and help of their parents and teachers as giving them little shoes, thinking that they have hurt themselves, so they will show a serious hostile tendency. There are three main reasons:
(1) Improper family education. My parents are engaged in tourism. They are very busy and have been away for a long time. Less communication with children, reprimanding and abusing children when encountering problems; Ignoring children's ideological education, thinking that children will be sensible when they are young, and only care about nutritional status and academic performance. They have different views on the issue of educating children.
(2) Affected by the family living environment. There are some delinquent teenagers in the community of Wu Mou. They smoke, drink and fight. I often associate with people who are older than him and have bad hobbies. I think their behavior is a sign of maturity and follow their example.
(3) The unique feature of teenagers is that they are half naive and half mature. This makes him prone to prejudice when he looks at problems. He thinks it is brave and heroic to oppose teachers and parents, so he blindly resists and rejects all criticism.
Through the above reasons, Wu Mou can be regarded as the rebellious psychology of adolescence.
Step 3: Solution
First of all, we should strive for the active cooperation of our parents. Get in touch with parents, understand his family situation and performance, communicate with parents, explore the psychological characteristics of middle school students, and let parents know more about children at this stage. Recommend some books for parents to educate their children and improve their cultural level. Create a good democratic family environment, make friends with children, encourage and praise more, criticize and scold less, treat children's needs reasonably, don't dampen their self-esteem, respect and trust him. Only by reaching a * * understanding of children's education can we prescribe the right medicine.
Secondly, Wu Mou received psychological counseling. Know yourself, talk to him about the psychological characteristics of middle school students, and let him know himself. (2) Learn to adjust yourself and accept the opinions of others. ③ Establish a correct aesthetic outlook and outlook on life. ④ Improve the relationship with parents and learn to understand them. Talk to teachers often and treat them as friends.
4. Summary
For rebellious psychology, from the perspective of teenagers themselves, we should learn to understand, learn to understand teachers and parents in a positive sense, and understand them with a tolerant attitude. We should also grasp ourselves, remind ourselves at all times, accept the education of teachers and parents with an open mind, and improve our psychological adaptability when things happen, so as to show our self-worth.
From the perspective of parents, we must learn the knowledge of adolescent psychology, master the law of adolescent psychological development, adapt to children's psychological and physical growth, gradually improve educational methods and attitudes, and avoid several wrong educational methods.
As a school, we should strengthen the transformation of educational guiding ideology, establish the consciousness of loving education, especially ideological and political education, fully respect students, improve the appeal of education, establish a good relationship between teachers and students, replace simple and rude education with positive encouragement, and pay attention to the cultivation of students' comprehensive quality.
From the social point of view, we should strengthen the analysis and guidance of social and cultural phenomena, grasp and analyze complex cultural phenomena and social problems in a timely, effective and accurate manner through mass media, and help young people establish correct cognition and avoid blindly following the crowd.
Case 2: Puppy love among middle school students
1, basic situation
Li has a good character, is rudely interfered, has a mysterious relationship and is intertwined with love and hate. He has been educated many times, but he can't change his understanding.
2. Cause analysis
Li's situation is a typical problem of puppy love among middle school students for the following five reasons:
(1) The needs of physical and mental development at a specific age. Teenagers are eager to communicate with the opposite sex because of their physical development. However, due to the immature psychological development, it is difficult to establish a natural and gentle relationship with the opposite sex, thus falling into "puppy love." (2) the need for family ties. Li's family is a big family with many children. Because he has been doing well, his parents are very at ease with him. In addition, his parents are busy with business and have no time to take care of his ideological education, so they seldom care about his psychological needs, which also keeps him in the cold. Therefore, I am eager to get care from other channels.
(3) the need to be needed by others. Because the girl's mother beat and scolded her daughter many times and interfered with their communication in a simple and rude way, Li's sense of responsibility as a man to protect women in a relatively weak position was aroused, and she got satisfaction from being needed by others.
(4) rebellious psychology is at work. Because the woman's mother was not calm, she tried to put out the burning fire of love in a short time, but the problem was solved faster, which led to the rebellious psychology of the two children becoming stronger and stronger.
5] Parents can't guide correctly. Girls' simple and rude handling of problems reveals that parents lack the necessary psychological knowledge to treat their children's puppy love, which often has a negative impact on their children's minds.
Step 3: Solution
According to Li's situation, comprehensive measures can be taken:
(1) Take the initiative to talk to him. First of all, let them know the harm of puppy love and the reasons why middle school students should not puppy love. Secondly, affirm his intellectual level and excellent achievements, build his self-confidence and try his best to help him set up his ideals and goals. Thirdly, re-appoint him as a class cadre, enrich his life, be strict with himself, let him serve the class more, transfer his hobbies and strengthen the communication between teachers and students.
⑵ From the aspect of family, I talked with Li's parents actively, asking them to communicate with their son ideologically and spiritually, strengthening emotional communication and attaching importance to the cultivation of their ideological quality; Strengthen contact with the school to understand the real situation of children at school.
(3) From the perspective of girls, talk to girls about education. In addition to making them realize the harm of puppy love and the reasons why middle school students should not fall in love, they should also convince girls to respect themselves, cultivate independent personality, not be greedy for petty gains and cheap, not rely on others, and put their main time and energy on their studies. And educate mothers to treat their daughter's puppy love correctly, guide them ideologically, and don't adopt a "high-pressure policy."
4. Summary
Out of the misunderstanding of puppy love, we should pay attention to the following aspects:
Don't artificially exaggerate this kind of love. It is normal to be curious and interested in the opposite sex in middle school, but it is not appropriate to exaggerate this feeling and consciously stimulate and encourage this emotion.
⑵ Concentrate on study, participate in group activities, enrich life and divert emotional attention.
(3) Restrain the expression of one's emotions with strong will. Students who admire themselves are as natural and graceful as other students and treat them equally. Over time, this feeling will fade away and finally disappear.
Case 3 Sexual Psychological Counseling for Middle School Students
1, basic situation
Yang, watch others fall in love and have a crush on handsome guys. I feel deeply depressed, depressed and tortured all day.
2. Cause analysis
Yang is a typical sexual psychological problem, and the main reasons are as follows:
(1) sexual maturity. Adolescence gradually enters sexual maturity, and it is natural to have special feelings for the opposite sex and feel mysterious and curious about the knowledge of the opposite sex. However, teenagers with sexual sensitive psychological barriers are too keen on sexual temptation and indulge in sexual imagination, which is often influenced by primitive sexual desire, distracting their attention from learning and disrupting their intellectual activities. Because often emotional, energy consumption, and even listless, slow thinking. This is a kind of higher nervous activity's dysfunction caused by mental stress.
(2) Adolescent neurasthenia. Mostly in adolescence (junior high school), usually there are more girls than boys. Because the task of the cerebral cortex is overloaded, which exceeds its endurance, the regulatory function is relatively weakened, and the balance between excitement and inhibition is destroyed, resulting in a series of general discomfort symptoms. The general manifestations of adolescent neurasthenia are: physical fatigue, headache, dizziness, irritability, inattention, memory loss, difficulty in falling asleep, frequent MUBI waking, fake sleep, groggy all day, and low learning efficiency. This is the case with this patient. This is also called sexual sensitivity.
(3) Unrequited love tendency. Secret love is a sentimental psychological tendency. It is a kind of deformed love, which is manifested in one party's wishful admiration and love for the other party. Even if you know that the other party doesn't love you, you should pursue it blindly. There are various forms of unrequited love, some have specific unrequited love objects, and some have no unrequited love objects at all. Some unrequited love is due to misunderstanding, while others are out of fantasy. Generally, it is a secret love without feeling, that is, a secret love that the other party doesn't know. This secret love is mostly fantasy, and it often happens to introverts in life. They hold unattainable fears about the unrequited love object and think that the other person is sacred and unattainable. Therefore, I can only hide my feelings deeply in my heart, forming ordinary painful self-torture and causing psychological obstacles. Yang belongs to this situation in this case.
Step 3: Solution
For Yang's symptoms, the following treatment methods can be adopted:
(1) express Yang's love incisively and vividly with laxative therapy, or talk to his close friends and get some comfort.
⑵ Clarity and love are two elements in cognitive therapy, and they are often combined. At this moment, please learn to decompose and extract love. You don't have to live together to love someone. Love is dedication, unlike sex, which emphasizes combination and "possession". (3) Overcome yourself, stimulate personal self-esteem and self-love, and learn to master and control yourself.
4. Summary
In the process of sexual psychological development, most teenagers from 10 to 15 will experience a period of "puppy love". The period from puppy love to marriage (about 10 years for modern people) is called "sexual adaptation period", which is the expectation, progress, joy, confusion and confusion on the road of life. If we can successfully solve the problem of * * * in this period, it will be a major event in life and a benign sexual adaptation.
Case 4 Emotional Frustration of Middle School Students
1, basic situation
Li likes Chen's daughter with elegant temperament. When I read a book, my mind is full of Chen Mou's shadow. He felt depressed and suffered from psychological frustration and pain.
2. Cause analysis
Li's situation belongs to emotional frustration. After analysis, the reason why Li has this problem is:
(1) The germination of sexual consciousness. Li is now in his youth, a period of independent life, and a period of personal physical and mental development approaching maturity. In the early youth, individuals have matured in sexual development, and further try their best to understand the relationship between the sexes, and their physical development is close to that of adults. Li's emotional frustration of falling into "unrequited love" reflects one of the main psychological characteristics of teenagers-sexual consciousness has begun to widely and profoundly affect their peer relationship, especially the relationship between the opposite sex, such as their attention to the opposite sex and their willingness to communicate with the opposite sex.
(2) psychological maturity. In senior high school, teenagers' abstract logical thinking developed highly and began to form dialectical logical thinking. I not only pay attention to the external objective world, but also pay attention to my subjective world, hoping to understand and grasp my internal psychological activities, and independently and consciously evaluate my life path according to certain standards, and initially form my own world view. They want someone to understand them and share their joys and sorrows. Because of their specific age, they prefer to chat and communicate with friends of the opposite sex. However, because of academic pressure, senior three girls mainly focus on their studies and have no time to take care of the feelings of male students. This is also one of the reasons for middle school students' emotional frustration.
Step 3: Solution
(1) In view of Li's existing problems, further put forward the harmfulness of puppy love to him, so as to improve his understanding of puppy love.
⑵ Analyze his present situation in detail and guide him out of the predicament correctly. At present, Li's performance has declined, and his psychological state is relatively depressed and depressed. He gradually refused to be with his classmates and lost many social opportunities, which made it difficult to communicate with others.
(3) Take concrete measures and methods to help him out of the predicament.
The first is reasonable catharsis. Li realized his own problems and dared to talk to the teacher about his inner pain. This is a reasonable catharsis. In addition, you can also complain about your troubles in your diary or talk to your good friends. In short, we can adjust the balance of the body through some reasonable means of catharsis.
The second is to take the method of self-comfort. We should try our best to find her shortcomings and achieve the purpose of self-comfort. This is the "sour grapes" mentality. In addition, you can imagine that if you don't associate with this girl, your energy will be completely focused on your study and your academic performance will be improved.
The third is to adopt the method of transfer. It is suggested that Li turn the psychological imbalance caused by temporary emotional loss into the motivation to study hard and work hard for the class, so as to turn losses into profits, make himself mature as soon as possible, and dominate his life and study with noble ideals and sentiments.
4. Summary
From this case, we can realize that to solve the problem of puppy love among middle school students, we should pay attention to the following points:
(1) Guide students to correctly understand and treat various sexual physiological and psychological reactions in adolescence and overcome psychological barriers such as anxiety, fear, irritability, self-blame and inferiority. (2) Encourage and guide the normal communication between boys and girls, so as to respect each other, love each other, help each other and learn from each other's strengths. Pay special attention to guiding girls to achieve self-esteem and self-love in the interaction between men and women, and grasp proper limit; Educate male students to learn to respect and care for female students when interacting with them, and emphatically point out the harm of puppy love to students. In a word, the emotional frustration of middle school students is more about puppy love tendency and puppy love. These problems must not be dealt with simply and rudely, reprimanded or punished. Practice has proved that the rough and simple handling of such problems will not only fail to achieve the expected effect and purpose, but also make things move in another direction.
Case 5 Physical problems in adolescence
1, basic situation
Wu Mou junior middle school class cadre, high school study committee member, feels anxious and thinks he is too fat. He once went on a diet for four days. Causes limb weakness, menstrual disorders and constipation. Fidgeting, feeling chest tightness, shortness of breath, etc. And the decline in performance.
2. Cause analysis
Wu Mou's symptoms belong to adolescent physiological problems. There are two main reasons for Wu Mou's psychological problems: (1) lack of communication in living environment and correct understanding of obesity. Wu Mou grew up in a closed family. His parents were foreigners, and he had no relatives around him. His parents had few friends, and his family had no friends of Wu Mou's age. Wu Mou had little experience in interpersonal communication when he was growing up.
(2) Self-evaluation is biased. All parents' evaluation of Wu Mou is based on their academic performance. After entering adolescence, Wu Mou thought that he was inferior to others except for studying. He thought he had no friends because he was too fat, and his body shape became a topic of ridicule by his classmates. He lost weight for this reason, failed to lose weight, and felt powerless, resulting in anxiety, depression and trouble.
Step 3: Solution
Wu Mou is a key senior high school student with strong cognitive understanding. Therefore, we can choose cognitive counseling as the main counseling method.
⑴ Starting with the events that affect emotions, find out the unreasonable cognitive style that affects Wu Mou and make adjustments, so as to help Wu Mou choose life strategies on this basis and let him accept himself.
(2) Let Wu Mou realize that people's aesthetic standards are different. People don't have to look perfect, but gentle personality, considerate qualities and even a smile may attract others. Therefore, instead of worrying about looks, it is better to make more positive "investments", such as knowledge, artistic accomplishment, sincerity and so on, to be a charming person.
4. Summary
Puberty physical annoyance is a special emotional experience, which is caused by the individual's physical changes in adolescence and the individual's incorrect understanding of the nature of physiological changes and environmental stimuli. Attention should be paid to the physical problems of teenagers: (1) Change the wrong cognition and make students realize that they are unique, and there is no truth that there are two identical leaves in the world.
⑵ Improving the inner quality is the real capital, which guides students to concentrate on their studies. We can carry out more group training activities to promote the improvement of students' mental health quality.
Case 6: Corporal punishment incident
1, basic situation
A student in a primary school in Harbin was called back by the teacher to question his homework. He was slapped twice and pinched his right cheek and arm several times. Left side injured, right side spasms.
2. Cause analysis:
In this case, the first is the teacher's morality. Teachers' morality is the most superficial thing. In fact, it is a hidden mental health problem of teachers.
(1) With the increasingly fierce competition in the industry, teachers' psychology is often overloaded. Stress is the main factor affecting mental health. Nowadays, teachers are under great pressure from schools, society, parents and other aspects. In recent years, the education system in China is undergoing a comprehensive reform, such as the evaluation of professional titles, the appointment of teachers, the elimination of the last place, performance pay and so on. And the reform will inevitably touch the interests of all aspects. With this reform process, every teacher feels unprecedented pressure, and some can adapt to the needs of the situation and turn pressure into motivation. However, it should also be admitted that some teachers who are psychologically fragile often lead to psychological crisis because of excessive pressure.
The conflict between traditional ideas and social reality makes it difficult for teachers to balance their own psychology. In the transitional period, the values of efficiency and fairness have collided strongly with the current teachers' actual contribution and income. Although the social status and material treatment of teachers have been greatly improved in recent years, it is far from enviable. Although the social status and material treatment of teachers have been greatly improved in recent years, it is far from enviable. Many teachers are ashamed to compare themselves with their classmates and friends in terms of income and housing, and their hearts are very unbalanced. Overworked work increases teachers' physical and mental burden, and at the same time, due to insufficient investment in education funds, teachers' economic income is relatively low, and their social status has not been substantially improved. All these are easy to make teachers doubt the original values, which leads to unfairness and mentality imbalance.
(3) Teachers' multiple roles bring them psychological conflicts. In traditional education and teaching, the role of teachers is to preach, teach and dispel doubts.
In the transitional period, with the deepening of educational reform, the role of teachers has become multiple. The nature of teachers' work determines that teachers should play multiple roles: they are the imparting of knowledge and the managers of student activities, and they are responsible for the education and management of students; They are the agents of students' parents and should be responsible for taking care of students for a certain period of time; They are students' friends and therapists, and they need to exchange ideas and feelings with students on an equal footing. They are also communicators in interpersonal relationships and need to deal with other teachers, parents of students and school leaders. At the same time, they have to play various roles in the family outside school, as fathers or mothers and children, and also deal with various interpersonal relationships in family life. Multi-directional role transformation is easy to cause teachers' psychological contradictions and conflicts, resulting in teachers' mental health problems. Therefore, the role can not be changed well, which makes some teachers unable to handle all kinds of relationships and increases their psychological burden.
3. Solution:
(1) From the school's point of view, first of all, school leaders should attach importance to humanistic care for teachers, establish the idea of serving teachers, and pay more attention to teachers. Schools should not only put pressure on teachers, but also take good care of them. Secondly, the school should build a communication platform for teachers, so that teachers have the opportunity to get to know each other, which can ease interpersonal relationships and establish a relaxed interpersonal atmosphere among teachers. In communication, they can talk to each other about the problems in education and teaching, inspire each other, comfort each other, encourage each other, rely on each other, discuss ways to solve problems together and learn from each other. Understanding and sincerity among teachers can form the motive force of education. Thirdly, the school should organize some activities properly, give teachers a chance to relax, vent their usual nervous mood and completely enter another realm. Also, schools should properly organize students' educational activities, instead of pushing all the educational tasks to the class teacher. It is best and appropriate to organize teacher training and teach psychological knowledge and methods.
(2) From the teacher's point of view, the person who can best adjust the mood and psychological pressure should be the teacher himself. Teachers must not stop learning at any time. Under the new curriculum standards and the new situation, teachers should adjust their own rhythm and psychology, constantly adapt to the new environment, learn to solve new problems with new methods, and learn to solve problems creatively when the old methods don't work. In addition, teachers should learn to find ways to adjust their psychology, such as keeping a diary or finding someone to talk to.