1, to understand the natural changes of the body.
"After the age of 40, both men and women will have physiological, psychological and hormonal changes, which of course includes the activity of sexual organs." Salier Schumacher, a clinical psychologist in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, said. For women, vaginal tissue will gradually become thinner, dry and lubricated. Once pleasant caress, now it may make people uncomfortable and even painful. If a woman doesn't understand these changes, she may complain that her husband is too rude, and he may mistakenly think that she has lost interest in sex. Men's bodies will also change, and the most important thing is testosterone. Men's testosterone levels peak at the age of 20-30, and then gradually decrease. A study in France shows that after the age of 40, men's testosterone level will drop by 25%, which will greatly reduce sexual desire.
Step 2 adjust the speed
Newly married women in their twenties are the most difficult to reach orgasm of all ages. With the increase of age, the rhythm of male excitement begins to slow down, and the speed of blood flow and muscle contraction naturally slows down, so it takes longer for men in their 40 s and 50 s to reach orgasm. This kind of slow and emotional sex is more attractive to the wife. With the synchronization of "sexual excitement", the wife will naturally be satisfied.
3. Try to innovate and increase sexual interest
Middle-aged couples get along with each other for many years and get to know each other better. Because of their familiarity and trust, they are no longer shy about discussing how to have a more satisfying sex life. Might as well learn to use new methods and new ideas to solve old problems, such as husband and wife taking a bath together and so on.
4. Do more and watch less
After the age of 35, a man may not agree with his wife's body, and will pay more attention to his wife's kiss and caress. 5 1% Young husbands will be excited to see their wives undress, but in their forties, the proportion will drop to 40%. If couples can replace their eyes with their own actions and passive acceptance with active expression, they will get unexpected results.
5. Role change
Between young couples, it is always the husband who takes the initiative to close the distance with his wife and expresses Z.A.' s wishes in a low voice. After many years, the wife may become active because of changes in hormone secretion. Both men and women secrete androgens and estrogens, but at different ages, the secretion ratio is different. After the secretion ratio of these two hormones changes, men may be more willing to be passive. After the decrease of female estrogen, the secretion of androgen increases correspondingly and may become more active.
6. Pay attention to fitness and beauty
It is true that women who enter menopause often have a half-aged face and drooping breasts, and gradually lose their former fullness and beauty. However, if you often take part in fitness exercises and pay attention to gfd, it will help to improve your physical vitality and attractiveness to the opposite sex, especially to beautify your image in your husband's mind. Middle-aged women might as well often run, play table tennis, badminton and do aerobic exercise. This can not only improve general health (healthy food), but also help to improve sexual function and enhance sexual desire. As the saying goes, "people are old and yellow", middle-aged women should pay more attention to the modification of their appearance, and if necessary, they can also go to beauty salons. Proper dress can make them feel younger and younger, and produce a positive and happy mood psychologically.
7. Drug supervision
Some women will show mild or severe symptoms of "menopausal syndrome", which will have a certain impact on their sexual life. In fact, menopausal syndrome is a kind of psychological and physiological dysfunction with psychological disorder as the main factor. In addition to psychological counseling, estrogen, Gengniankang, oryzanol, vitamin B6 and other drugs can be taken properly under the guidance of doctors to correct various discomforts during menopause.
Matters needing attention in sexual life of middle-aged couples
1, pay attention to the frequency of sexual life
After all, people lack energy in middle age. If you follow the frequency of sexual life when you are young, your body will be overwhelmed, and the frequency of sexual life will be too high, and the other half will not be able to bear it, which will affect the feelings of husband and wife. Therefore, the most important thing to pay attention to when making love at this age is that the frequency of making love must be appropriate. Want to know the frequency of sexual life, in fact, there is a simple formula, that is, multiply the 10 digit of age by nine to get a number, where the single digit is the number of sexual intercourse and the ten digit is the period. Take 50-year-old as an example, 5 times 9 equals 45, that is, having sex five times in 40 days is a more appropriate frequency of sex.
2. Pay attention to cleanliness and hygiene
No matter what age you are, you should be clean before and after sex, which is a sign of being responsible for the health of yourself and your partner. Because it is possible that bacteria will enter women through the process of sexual life, leading to gynecological diseases in women. Therefore, before sexual life begins, you must clean your private parts with clear water, and take a break after sexual life to ensure the health of sexual life to the greatest extent.
Step 3 Use lubricant
Women, especially after menopause, with the loss of ovarian function, the secretion of estrogen will be less and less, and vaginal dryness's condition will gradually appear. Vaginal dryness has a great influence on the sexual life of couples, which will cause difficulty in insertion and pain during sexual intercourse. At this time, with the help of lubricating oil, it can not only solve the problem of vaginal dryness, but also add a touch of interest to sexual life.
4. Pay attention to the quality of sexual life
When people reach middle age, the relationship between husband and wife tends to be stable, because getting along for a long time will make sexual life less exciting, which also leads many people to perfunctory in sexual life and no longer pay attention to the quality of sexual life, which is very incorrect. Because you should always respect each other, devote yourself wholeheartedly to sex life, and you can't handle official business like handing in homework, which is irresponsible to yourself and your partner.