Good evening, everyone! I am glad to have the opportunity to discuss with you how to educate children. I feel guilty about speaking in front of such wise parents. Because I also have a lot of confusion in educating children, but thanks to the love of the school and Mr. Li, I have been given this opportunity to speak. Below I put forward my own views on the topic of "how to guide children to grow up healthily physically and mentally", hoping to play a role in attracting jade.
In my opinion, the healthy growth of children, first of all, is their physical and mental health, and secondly, their academic performance should not be too bad, and they should also have certain health hobbies. Based on this understanding, we pay more attention to quality education for children when they are still young. What makes me more gratified is that although my child rarely gets the first place in academic performance, he is very confident and often boasts that he is the "second child of the Millennium"; Although I have no special skills, I have a wide range of interests, including basketball, football, badminton, table tennis, fencing, swimming and guitar. Although he is not good at expressing, he has a heart of love, filial piety and kindness, which often touches me; Although he is not outstanding, he has a lot of self.
Specifically, our parents have mainly done the following work:
First of all, I am willing to spend time with my children.
Some people say that a good boy is accompanied. Although I don't quite agree with this view, it is undeniable that the growth of children consumes a lot of time and energy from parents. I remember that XX was very interested in table tennis for a while when he was in the middle class of kindergarten, so we played table tennis with him every day after school in kindergarten. For a long time, it was really boring, but we still gave him enough patience to learn some basics and cultivate children's interest in table tennis. Later, he often played table tennis with his classmates and teachers at school, even learned the skills at relatives' gatherings, and also represented the competitions that the school had participated in. In this process, he made friends with the ball, not only learned table tennis, but also learned to interact with people and integrate into the collective life. More importantly, "children who love sports have no time to learn bad things." For badminton, basketball, swimming, fencing, guitar and so on, hobbies are also slowly cultivated.
Second, have confidence in children.
Parents should not lose heart at first, even if they lose heart, don't show it in front of their children. Parents should always believe that their children can do it! Always encourage your child, and don't say anything to discourage him in front of him, such as "how can you be so stupid!" " ""such a simple question can be wrong. ""Look how well you did in the exam! "Things like this are free. It is necessary to help children build their self-confidence, spend more time with them, play ball games with them, do math problems and read compositions. You should be curious about what your child has learned, even ask him for advice, let him explain what he has learned to you, let him feel that you are eager to learn, and influence him subtly. Instead of making him think that you know everything, you are just observing him and supervising him! Slowly, children's academic performance will get better. If children make progress in their studies, they will naturally have confidence.
Third, be good at communicating with children.
I don't know if you remember. China Telecom has a famous advertising slogan "Communication starts from the heart", and communication with children should also start from the heart.
First, help children keep secrets. Only when the child feels the sense of security and trust from his parents can he tell you the truth and communicate with you, and when the child opens his heart to you and tells some of his privacy, he will not reveal his secrets at will. If you spread your child's story among friends as a joke, it is likely that your prestige will be completely lost in your child's mind, which will lead to his distrust of you and others and form a closed mind. My husband and I can be very careful to keep secrets that are not secrets at all, such as his date, QQ and passbook password, but we seldom use them. So children always regard us as friends and are willing to tell us what they think and what they say. Children are willing to tell you that as parents, we can grasp children's psychological state and ideological fluctuation in time, guide children to develop in a positive and healthy direction in time, kill two birds with one stone, make children happy and reassure adults. Secondly, being good at communicating with children includes understanding and respecting children and discussing with them when something happens. For example, when buying clothes for children, discuss with them; Go out to the party and discuss with the children; When there is great financial support or decision-making at home, we should discuss it with our children. I remember when my family bought a car, he was only in the second grade. At that time, we mainly discussed two issues: First, should we buy a Japanese car or a European car? Second, what price car should I buy? At that time, he also actively participated in the discussion. He showed his favorite car series and told us that if we don't have enough money, don't worry, he can support us. My husband and I were very surprised. We asked him how much he could support, and he said heroically, "100 yuan". Although it is funny to think of it now, we respected his opinion and bought a car that we all liked. For example, yesterday, we asked his advice. Do you have any plans for the May Day holiday? And mom and dad have plans to go back to Meizhou? What do you think is reasonable? His advice is: first, homework must be done; Second, he wants to use the May Day holiday to do a scientific experiment with his classmates and build a Roman fortress. Third, mom and dad can go back safely. He is at home alone. Through such interaction and communication, we not only know that his plans and ideas are in contradiction with us, so that we have enough time to make adjustments, but more importantly, let the child realize that he is a member of the family. He has participated in family decision-making, and the results are easier to accept and implement. He is more filial to his parents, closer to and respectful of his parents, and the family is more harmonious.
Fourth, cultivate children's responsible attitude.
Personally, I think that a sense of responsibility is a crucial personality quality for a person to stand on the society, achieve career success and family happiness in the future. The cultivation of sense of responsibility should start from an early age.
First, parents' parenting attitudes and behaviors play an important role in the formation of children's sense of responsibility. Parents should be good role models for their children. Parents' own sense of responsibility for family, work and society is a mirror of children, and the level of parents' sense of responsibility can reflect children's sense of responsibility. A parent who has no sense of responsibility for family and society can't cultivate a responsible child. Adopting a democratic attitude towards children, encouraging children to think independently and allowing them to express their views and opinions are conducive to the formation of children's sense of responsibility; Spoil and overprotect children, let them be spoiled, selfish and do whatever they want from childhood, and children will lack a sense of responsibility to society and others when they grow up; The educational method of making children absolutely obedient can only cultivate people who are obedient, have no opinions and dare not be responsible.
Second, lead by example, have love in your heart, care for and be kind to the people you love. Such as actively taking care of the elderly with children, 2
Patients and children younger than themselves. Let children learn to take care of grandparents when their parents are sick. Let children know the birthdays of grandparents and parents, and encourage children to send a birthday present to their elders.
Third, children should do as much housework as possible to cultivate their sense of responsibility for the family. Negotiate with children and explain to them why they should do something. Explain everything that children are asked to do, and make sure that they can fully understand it. Patiently guide children to do housework and give positive feedback through encouragement, praise and reward.
Fourth, let children keep their promises and be responsible for their words and deeds. Parents should set an example for their children to keep their promises. No matter what promises you make, you must fulfill them as much as possible. If you can't finish them, you must explain to your children. Tell children not to make promises easily. Once you make a promise, you must keep it. Actively support children to participate in school public welfare labor and collective activities, and cultivate children's sense of collective responsibility.
Fifth, be strict with children.
After all, children are not adults. Children must also be disciplined and disciplined, and they must know that learning is not just fun. If a person can feel happy in his study, he may become a master. Most people don't. Most people have to learn, not for a certain purpose. We should tell our children that education must be painful. If you make a mistake, you must pay the price and be punished, otherwise you will not succeed. If you are sloppy, you will be punished for doing two things, and then you will be sloppy and punished again, so that he will not dare to be sloppy. Some children always use carelessness as an excuse. Sometimes, he can't do this problem at all, but says it's sloppy and adults have nothing to say. Don't let him take advantage. Sloppy. No. If you want to prove that you can, then don't be careless!
Nowadays, many children can't scold, say, criticize or accept any setbacks. Teachers can't be blamed, parents should bear the main responsibility. Our parents can't praise their children blindly, otherwise the children will feel superior and domineering, which will be unfavorable for getting along with their classmates and colleagues in the future. Children can be wronged appropriately, and it is better to be wronged at home than outside! We should tell our children that this society is cruel and we should be prepared to suffer a lot of grievances.
Parents must cooperate with teachers, urge their children to finish their homework and check the completion of homework. Look it up even if you don't know English. Dictation homework, you report it to Chinese and let him write English; You should also check your reading homework. If the teacher asks you to read it twice, you should ask the children to read it out loud. Although you don't understand it very well, children will be impressed after reading it. The next day, he will pay attention to how teachers and classmates read, and he will correct his mistakes himself. This is how we learn Chinese, isn't it?
However, being strict with children does not mean depriving them of the right to play. For primary school students, they are not used to studying at night. Once they sit in the learning environment for a long time, you can clearly tell him that these problems can be finished in 40 minutes, and they can play for half an hour after they are finished. The temptation of half an hour should not be small for primary school students! Then study for another 40 minutes and play for another half an hour. Anyway, plenty of time is better than sitting for hours and not loving learning! But make it clear to him in advance, or choose to study all the time. If you learn, you can't learn. You should strictly study for 40 minutes and play for 30 minutes. If you learn the 40-minute content in 20 minutes and do it well, then play for 50 minutes and play the rest of the time. Parents should never be stingy with their children's play time. Don't send your children to Chinese, English and math training classes on weekends. If you want to send it, send it to an interest class related to entertainment, play and physical exercise. As for whether I can be admitted to Huaying, Shimen and Heather, I think it's better to let nature take its course.
Children's physical health and mental health are more important than anything else. When a child is studying, you should first make him feel that you are supervising him and remind him when he is distracted. I think by doing this, he can gradually form a habit in the future. Give him 40 minutes to think for himself, will it, just 40 minutes, and then check it for him and tell him it won't. Don't correct him as soon as you find that he has done something wrong, let him do it independently, check it himself first, and then show it to his parents (exercise independence). You only need to read a book in a place far away from him within 40 minutes, but you can't watch TV or play cards, which will affect your child's study. For the growth of children, parents have to pay the price.
Of course, in educating children, as parents, we also have many unsuccessful places. For example, children are nearsighted very early and do not take the initiative to do housework. How to guide children's physical and mental growth, we still have a long way to go, and we must continue to recharge.
Every child has his own unique place, as long as the education method suitable for his children is the best education method! These are my immature methods in educating children, and I hope I can help you. Here, I also want to take this opportunity to express my special thanks to the class teacher XXX and other teachers. Your appreciation, tolerant attitude, amiable attitude, rigorous teaching and meticulous care have promoted the healthy growth of my children! Thank you!
My speech is over, welcome criticism and correction, thank you!