In my opinion, it should be more understood as a winner in life. I am successful in my studies, my family is happy, my parents are healthy, my wife is virtuous, and Shuang'er holds her knees and enjoys family happiness. What could be happier than these?
I don't agree with what some people call "the shopkeeper of cutting hands". Indeed, the doctor has been busy with his studies and has not had much time to take care of his family and children. The burden of these families falls on his wife and parents. At this point, the doctor does share less responsibility for the family, but he can't be said to be a "hands-on shopkeeper".
Every family has the actual situation of every family, and every family member has the division of labor of every family member. The most important thing for a family is to think in one place, work hard in one place, find ways together and seek development together. It is undoubtedly a wise choice to give full play to their respective advantages, cooperate with each other and complement each other.
My wife is willing to get married and have children after graduating from master's degree, instead of continuing to study for a doctorate. I believe this is also her own wish. Having children at this stage, a woman's body is relatively easy to recover. If you wait until you graduate from a doctor before choosing to have children, you will basically miss the best childbearing age, which is not the best choice for both mother and child.
Moreover, just as parents are not too old, they still have the ability and willingness to exert their residual heat and help bring up their eldest grandson. On the one hand, they can enjoy family happiness, and on the other hand, their sons can devote more energy to their studies and get good grades. Isn't one thing multi-purpose? After all, which parent doesn't want his son to be a dragon and his daughter to be a phoenix? Seeing the proud smiles on their faces when they attended their son's doctoral graduation ceremony shows that everything in their hearts is worthwhile.
And even the "eager shopkeeper", the doctor is doing business, not going out to eat, drink and be merry by himself, regardless of the whole family. Moreover, even if you are not a doctor's father, even if you are a father who goes to work or starts a business normally, don't you also have a "shopkeeper of cutting"? Nowadays, many people are talking about "widowed parenting". How many "shopkeepers" fathers are reflected? Moreover, there are many stores that are "hands-on", but they are not necessarily looking for "stores" to fight for this family! Not every mother with two children has the blessing of her in-laws to help raise their children!
I am a vanilla pearl,
Psychological growth and spiritual improvement, let's go together!